What are your no goes for relationships?

[RebeccaC]

Like what would set you off or prevent you from dating someone. (Other than the obvious things like murderer or horrible things)

[ProbablyClueless]

Bitterness. Feeling the need to lie about or hide weird things. Being overly argumentative/aggressive; those are really the big ones. When I say "weird things," I'm generally talking about small stuff that it's like why would you bother lying about this? Like, what benefit does it serve you? Because, as weird as this may sound, I can usually look passed a small amount of dishonesty/hiding early in a relationship if I get the vibe that she has good intentions.

I was once kinda seeing this lady who I got along fantastically with. The vibe was chill. We were attracted to each other. The conversation flowed beautifully. She was smart, and socially savvy. We had fun together. All the boxes were checked. She actually told me she was shocked that I am exactly the kind of person I portrayed myself to be.

There was just one problem; I could not get a straight answer out of this girl to save my life. She would give non-answers to EVERYTHING. No details. No real intimacy. And that kind of thing just begs the question why? Especially if the person appears otherwise interested in forming a relationship with you.

I once asked her if she bought a car, and what kind of car she ended up buying (she told me she was thinking about buying on our date) and her response was "Yeah, I bought a car." She would not tell what kind of car she bought. I once asked her how she had been (it had been a long time since we spoke) and she just gave me a curt "I've been good, you?" This woman had recently gotten off a plane from a trip she took to her home country after years of being gone. She made absolutely no mention of that.

This is the woman who was (at one time) talking about wanting to have my children. Obviously, I'm not entitled to know what kind of car she bought and how her trip home went, but I'm just confused about what she thinks I'm going to do with the information. Why would any of that be worth keeping secret?

[Anonymous]

• Human ﾠ

I am not into humans. ﾠ

[Sweetsurprize]

Well, when I was younger, I found out that I didn't like Divorcees with baggage aka children from other relationships.

But since I am pretty open minded, I do like to explore things. Maybe that was my mistake for letting that 18 month with the above go on for that long lol.

Hmm... good question.

I don't think I would like to date someone more than 2 years forward or backward. I don't know... I feel the more we have in common, the more it's going to work out.

I don't care about race, but I do prefer white guys. I am Asian Filipina by the way. I find them to be nicer (in general).

I like men that are family oriented too since I grew up in a family oriented environment.

But maybe yeah, things like smoking and drugs and alcohol. Having anger issues. Hygene problems most likely. Of course, no one's perfect. I think I also like punctual people and intelligence in a real turn on for me. I don't like dishonesty and cheating. I don't like racist people. I mean, I am pretty flexible. I think I gotta think about this some more to be honest.

[DizzyDesii]

Arrogance, cockiness, not believing in God, smoking and other drugs, drinking daily/weekly, being too into politics or social media, says the B word a lot, isn’t straight, has more than 1 kid, is over 5 years older/younger, rudely blunt, works late night/overnight shift or on call, has a lot of tats or piercings, never wants kids, or has a body count in the double digits

[RebeccaC]

I can understand most of it but the late night/overnight stuff? People gotta do what they gotta do to survive in today's world. A lot of people live paycheck to paycheck

[DizzyDesii]

Thats understandable but I dont want someone who works nights. I want someone who works in the day so we can be together at night

[Anonymous]

I just was seeing a girl that had most... Just for fun but I was getting a little attached and had to parachute out:

-former sugar baby

-did solo porn, I dated a girl that did porn porn as well

-TMI on past (showed me pic of her sucking off her ex)

-VERY HIGH BODY COUNT, this chick was over 100

-overly sexual social media

-too open about who else she was seeing

There are probably other deal breakers for me, but this one is fresh in my mind since I just ended it

[dynamicyandere]

* Manipulation / Mind-Games
* Lack of Depth (Shallow & Superficial)
* Emotional Immaturity (Throwing Tantrums)
* Passive Aggression (I absolutely hate this.)
* Bad Conflict Resolution Skills
* Poor Communication Practices
* Lack of Attentiveness
* Lack of Effort
* Lack of Loyalty (I’m a ride or die kind of guy. I want the kind of relationship where I’d take a bullet for you and you’d take a bullet for me. If it’s you and me against the world, then so be it.)

[Sweetsurprize]

Oh man, this was a great answer if I may say!

[dynamicyandere]

@Sweetsurprize Thanks! 😊

[DextroShade]

Here's my list:

Baby momma
Woke/feminist
Tattoos
Piercings (other than earrings)
Danger hair
Any history of sex work (including OF)
Has slutty pictures on her social media, better if she doesn't even have social media
Won't shut up about her ex

[SeLiNder07]

I wish more men spoke about this being a preference - I hate society

[Berethor]

Good list, I would not want anything to do with a single mom as well. :)

[RebeccaC]

Danger hair?

Why tattoos? Some people have meaningful tattoos

[jeffend888]

You basically said what every single man is actually thinking.

You missed one though: bad relationship or no relationship with family. That is a HUGE one.

[MikeTheBartender]

Well said.

[DextroShade]

The term "danger hair" refers to female hair that is cut short, dyed a stupidly bright or unnatural color, or both; it's a form of aposematism.

I have never seen a tattoo that makes a woman look better, they just look tainted and trashy. The meaning behind them is irrelevant to a man.

[RebeccaC]

So a simple flower tattoo or a small twin dove tattoo breaks it?

[DextroShade]

A very small tattoo could be tolerated if she made up for it in other ways, but most of the women who are tattooed these days tend to have a lot of ink and an attitude to go with it.

[RebeccaC]

Ah. I have a tattoo of my mother's favorite flower. I got it when she was fighting cancer

[Berethor]

If a girl is a ho, I am not going to marry a ho, because hos are not wife material, so a pass.

[RebeccaC]

Makes sense. I wouldn't want to marry a guy who's a hoe either

[Berethor]

You want a guy all for yourself? but many guys want a FFM, well it's your right. :)

[RebeccaC]

Honestly. I don't meet many guys that want FFM

[Berethor]

Didn't most guys want that? well if you not meet guys like that then fine. :)

[RebeccaC]

I mean idc if it's FFM or FMM. My only condition is for FFM for the other F not to be taller than me.

[Berethor]

You 6'1", how can she be taller? and why you want to be the tallest? pride? :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R22wHwWlnIk

[RebeccaC]

I don't know. I work hard on my body. Diet. Running, gym. I want to be strong, I was to run fast, I want to pick the world up over my shoulders to show who I am. Like a Greek godess.

[Berethor]

So pride, you would agree to have a FFM but only if the other girl is weaker. :)

[RebeccaC]

Shorter. Maybe weaker.

[Berethor]

Waif Fu don't really works in real life, so if she smaller then she likely also weaker. :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Waif_Fu

[RebeccaC]

But yeah. I'd be open to FFM or FMM

[Berethor]

I don't see why man would want a FMM but it seems like many women are bi. :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAp9BKosZXs

[RebeccaC]

That's the problem. If it was me I'd do FMM so I can be fucked from both ends. With FFM usually one F gets left out

[Berethor]

Then why you would agree to FFM? she not left out if there is some girl on girl. :)

[RebeccaC]

Havnt done it before so I'd try somthing new

[Berethor]

I see, but that's the only reason? are you going to do stuff with the other girl? :)

[RebeccaC]

Of course. I'll try to not let her get left out.

[Berethor]

How nice of you, and you consider yourself bisexual or "just experimenting?" :)

[RebeccaC]

I'm bi for sure but oy sexualy. Relationship wise I'm mostly straight

[Berethor]

I see, so you would agree to a FFM sex but not to a FFM polyamory? that's it? :)

www.idiva.com/.../18004892

[RebeccaC]

Yeah. My man is my man. Nobody else's.

[Berethor]

Yet you okay with having FFM but polyamory is too much? didn't it next step? :)

[Sour-rose]

transphobe, gotta defend themselves by getting more aggressive, think women should know their place- at home.

Mofo must have something to prove, which I don't. Therefore, a waste of my time

[Agape93]

Sex offender, controlling or abusive behavior to me or others, bad hygiene, crippled or. you have an std

[RebeccaC]

XD crippled? Like how crippled. Someone missing a food and your like. "Sorry, can't. Your missing a foot" LMAO!

[Agape93]

If you can't safely move around my home, or engage in my hobbies due to a disability, yeah it won't happen. Relationships are give and take. If you can't meet me halfway, we won't work, and I'd rather not start so I don't end up resenting them.

[RebeccaC]

That's too bad. I've meet some really nice people that were crippled. Even ones that were just simply missing a arm or part of it.

[Agape93]

Eh it's all good. Don't mind being friends but that's my limit. A missing arm and such isn't an issue, but two of them or unworking legs and such like that are a non starter for me.

[RoseySarah]

How little is his brain lmao

He better only want kids in like 5 plus years!

Does he talk about his ex constantly?

[Berethor]

Are you aware that it hard to get pregnant and give birth when you 35?

https://www.yourfertility.org.au/everyone/age

[RebeccaC]

I believe it's just risk that goes up but past over 35 or 40 it becomes more difficult

[Berethor]

Nope, everything goes up, it gets harder to both get pregnant and give birth.

[RoseySarah]

@Berethor I don't care him talking about kids before a year or two is way to soon beyond I want kids and how many... Talk

All that means if he keeps bringing it up is he is going to make me a baby mommy

[Berethor]

@RoseySarah sounds immature, you 30 already, should talk about that. :)

[RoseySarah]

@Berethor
There is talk and then there is wanting it.

[Berethor]

@RoseySarah you should be talking with him about everything, not hide stuff.

[RoseySarah]

@Berethor your an idiot I did say talk 😠.

Why are all men on here morons and so little brained... Just blocking u

[Sweetsurprize]

@Berethor That's mean. My aunt had twins at 48. Yes, it was old but aren't people entitled to their own happiness? Stop being selfish and judgmental for once please! Not everything in life happens the way you want it to. If it did, I'd be a Millionaire with a Hot Husband, 6 kids, a couple Mansions and bunch of nannies and yeah, I also won't look pased the age of 25, but we live in the real world! That happpens to be unfair a lot of times.

[Mamaliv]

Been to prison
Doesn’t have a drivers license
An ex placed a restraining order
Poor hygiene
Can’t hold a job
Plays victim
Racist
Drug use
Has no teeth

[Anemone978]

Mean
Egotistical
Arrogant
Wants to control me
Bad Hygiene
Lies over stupid things

[Sweetsurprize]

Awesome plain and simple list. Straight to the point, I love it! 👍

[Anonymous]

I need to be her number one focus for me to treat her seriously. It's just insulting otherwise.

[RebeccaC]

Her focuse should be you treating her? Wouldn't it be nice if her focus was making you happy by treating you and you treating her?

[Opinion Owner]

Yep, both of you serious about making something special for yourselves.

[Berethor]

Why are you so serious, are you batman? maybe she don't like to be serious. :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBWRHUVH3Z4

[Anonymous]

Too many things to name. Don’t need a man attitude. Masculine. Princess, entitled mentality to just name a few. Something I know some people may say is really shallow but certain names I don’t like. For instance Olga, Bertha, Bianca.

[Berethor]

You don't like both masculine and princess, that's interesting, looking for balance?

[Paris13]

Being a Player, Looking at Naked girls or Following ones. xxoo

[Anonymous]

I’d sooner not date a flat chick than a murderer. I mean I have to have some kind of physical attraction. Murder is just an act, but a great pair of tits goes a loooooong way.

[RebeccaC]

What if someone just naturally doesn't have big tits.

[Berethor]

@Anonymous so you don't like Petite Girls AKA Asian Girls? I see. :)

[exitseven]

If she drove a beat up Camaro with the front passengers seat filled with fast food wrappers. If ha is wearing a Biden 2020 button.

[lorenzomichael]

If she uses a lot of profanity or a cigarette smoker, or she used to be a whore.

[Berethor]

Whores tend to be smokers, so it goes well with each other I would say. :)

[RebeccaC]

True. Pretty nasty. Though I do like a good edible once in awile. Usually about once a month or so.

[lorenzomichael]

Nice we're on the same page.

[Shamalien]

It’s a long list. Mainly, I can’t deal with someone who is a bad communicator and has poor conflict resolution skills

[bananathunder]

bad hygiene, unable to hold a conversation, and a really low sex drive

[musicbrain5]

Smoking and being rude to other people.

[Berethor]

Yea smoking sucks, and do you have problem with brutal honesty girl? :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Brutal_Honesty

[RebeccaC]

Being rude and brutally honest are two diffrent things.

[musicbrain5]

@Berethor I don't have an issue with brutal honesty.

[Anonymous]

She must have never had a boyfriend or first love. Crushes are fine as long as she wasn't close to him.

[Berethor]

Yea virgins are best, hard to find but it's worth the time to try to find one.

[Kunxter]

Smoking, religiousness and bad manners.

[Berethor]

Smoking sure sucks, I agree with you on that one, also it mostly hos that smoke.

[RebeccaC]

I agree with the first and last. The middle one it depends. If they are enforcing then no. If they aren't and keep it to themselves. Then sure