What are your no goes for relationships?

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Like what would set you off or prevent you from dating someone. (Other than the obvious things like murderer or horrible things)

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

Bitterness. Feeling the need to lie about or hide weird things. Being overly argumentative/aggressive; those are really the big ones. When I say "weird things," I'm generally talking about small stuff that it's like why would you bother lying about this? Like, what benefit does it serve you? Because, as weird as this may sound, I can usually look passed a small amount of dishonesty/hiding early in a relationship if I get the vibe that she has good intentions.

I was once kinda seeing this lady who I got along fantastically with. The vibe was chill. We were attracted to each other. The conversation flowed beautifully. She was smart, and socially savvy. We had fun together. All the boxes were checked. She actually told me she was shocked that I am exactly the kind of person I portrayed myself to be.

There was just one problem; I could not get a straight answer out of this girl to save my life. She would give non-answers to EVERYTHING. No details. No real intimacy. And that kind of thing just begs the question why? Especially if the person appears otherwise interested in forming a relationship with you.

I once asked her if she bought a car, and what kind of car she ended up buying (she told me she was thinking about buying on our date) and her response was "Yeah, I bought a car." She would not tell what kind of car she bought. I once asked her how she had been (it had been a long time since we spoke) and she just gave me a curt "I've been good, you?" This woman had recently gotten off a plane from a trip she took to her home country after years of being gone. She made absolutely no mention of that.

This is the woman who was (at one time) talking about wanting to have my children. Obviously, I'm not entitled to know what kind of car she bought and how her trip home went, but I'm just confused about what she thinks I'm going to do with the information. Why would any of that be worth keeping secret?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Human  ﾠ  I am not into humans.

Sweetsurprize · Accepted Answer

Well, when I was younger, I found out that I didn't like Divorcees with baggage aka children from other relationships.

But since I am pretty open minded, I do like to explore things. Maybe that was my mistake for letting that 18 month with the above go on for that long lol.

Hmm... good question.

I don't think I would like to date someone more than 2 years forward or backward. I don't know... I feel the more we have in common, the more it's going to work out.

I don't care about race, but I do prefer white guys. I am Asian Filipina by the way. I find them to be nicer (in general).

I like men that are family oriented too since I grew up in a family oriented environment.

But maybe yeah, things like smoking and drugs and alcohol. Having anger issues. Hygene problems most likely. Of course, no one's perfect. I think I also like punctual people and intelligence in a real turn on for me. I don't like dishonesty and cheating. I don't like racist people. I mean, I am pretty flexible. I think I gotta think about this some more to be honest.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Arrogance, cockiness, not believing in God, smoking and other drugs, drinking daily/weekly, being too into politics or social media, says the B word a lot, isn’t straight, has more than 1 kid, is over 5 years older/younger, rudely blunt, works late night/overnight shift or on call, has a lot of tats or piercings, never wants kids, or has a body count in the double digits

dynamicyandere · Answer

* Manipulation / Mind-Games
* Lack of Depth (Shallow & Superficial)
* Emotional Immaturity (Throwing Tantrums)
* Passive Aggression (I absolutely hate this.)
* Bad Conflict Resolution Skills
* Poor Communication Practices
* Lack of Attentiveness
* Lack of Effort
* Lack of Loyalty (I’m a ride or die kind of guy. I want the kind of relationship where I’d take a bullet for you and you’d take a bullet for me. If it’s you and me against the world, then so be it.)

Anonymous · Answer

I just was seeing a girl that had most... Just for fun but I was getting a little attached and had to parachute out:

-former sugar baby

-did solo porn, I dated a girl that did porn porn as well

-TMI on past (showed me pic of her sucking off her ex)

-VERY HIGH BODY COUNT, this chick was over 100

-overly sexual social media

-too open about who else she was seeing

There are probably other deal breakers for me, but this one is fresh in my mind since I just ended it

DextroShade · Answer

Here's my list:

Baby momma
Woke/feminist
Tattoos
Piercings (other than earrings)
Danger hair
Any history of sex work (including OF)
Has slutty pictures on her social media, better if she doesn't even have social media
Won't shut up about her ex

Berethor · Answer

If a girl is a ho, I am not going to marry a ho, because hos are not wife material, so a pass.

Sour-rose · Answer

transphobe, gotta defend themselves by getting more aggressive, think women should know their place- at home.  Mofo must have something to prove, which I don't. Therefore, a waste of my time

Agape93 · Answer

Sex offender, controlling or abusive behavior to me or others, bad hygiene, crippled or. you have an std

RoseySarah · Answer

How little is his brain lmao He better only want kids in like 5 plus years! Does he talk about his ex constantly?

Mamaliv · Answer

Been to prison Doesn’t have a drivers license  An ex placed a restraining order Poor hygiene  Can’t hold a job Plays victim  Racist  Drug use  Has no teeth

Anemone978 · Answer

Mean Egotistical Arrogant Wants to control me Bad Hygiene Lies over stupid things

Anonymous · Answer

Too many things to name. Don’t need a man attitude. Masculine. Princess, entitled mentality to just name a few. Something I know some people may say is really shallow but certain names I don’t like. For instance Olga, Bertha, Bianca.

Anonymous · Answer

I need to be her number one focus for me to treat her seriously. It's just insulting otherwise.

Paris13 · Answer

Being a Player, Looking at Naked girls or Following ones. xxoo

Anonymous · Answer

I’d sooner not date a flat chick than a murderer. I mean I have to have some kind of physical attraction. Murder is just an act, but a great pair of tits goes a loooooong way.

exitseven · Answer

If she drove a beat up Camaro with the front passengers seat filled with fast food wrappers. If ha is wearing a Biden 2020 button.

lorenzomichael · Answer

If she uses a lot of profanity or a cigarette smoker, or she used to be a whore.

Shamalien · Answer

It’s a long list. Mainly, I can’t deal with someone who is a bad communicator and has poor conflict resolution skills

bananathunder · Answer

bad hygiene, unable to hold a conversation, and a really low sex drive

musicbrain5 · Answer

Smoking and being rude to other people.

Anonymous · Answer

She must have never had a boyfriend or first love. Crushes are fine as long as she wasn't close to him.

Kunxter · Answer

Smoking, religiousness and bad manners.

sepehril · Answer

If i feel i cannot trust her.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Someone who lacks boundaries.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am not attracted to them

WhitneySnow · Answer

Rudeness or mean behavior

gothbxtch · Answer

if he’s a republican, if he’s a cop

Samantha36 · Answer

Rubbish in bed

DrKrieger · Answer

Off the top of my head: hoarders.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

NO SEX

EaterPeter · Answer

Not enough

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Only fans

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