Question about relationships?

[jasco]

I know when its your first time getting into a relationships, you can't see the red flags. But for the ones who have been in several relationships and get all the same outcomes. Do you think that over time you would try your best to see if their is a pattern or something? I know I don't do it when I first get into the talking stage, but after a while I do start to notice things. Does this happen for others?

[hahahmm]

To make good decisions requires logical thinking. Biological attraction isn't based in logic. So you could be 100% attracted to someone who is 100% wrong for you. The more control you get over your actions the more you can lessen the biological stuff when you need to. This is part of why I wrote some mytakes like For Men: How to Fully Control Your Mind and Terrorists Use Feelings Against You - 1 Minute Read

But really it applies to everything a guy does when he's acting like/thinking that what she wants is the most important thing. Something shocking for guys who worship women and think life is all about doing what they want is that women are more attracted to and more respectful of guys who do the opposite & have backbone and leadership skills.

It's also been observed that when someone needs to improve themselves they usually don't do it while in a relationship. They do it when in-between relationships. You can see that's a problem for people who can't be without a boyfriend/girlfriend for more than 2 minutes. They're lost and going to be doing the same thing at 50+ that they did at 20.

[hahahmm]

So my advice is not to rush into relationships. Savor the time when you are single and reflect a lot. A LOT. Think of your mind like a car... and you want to win some race. You wouldn't go into a car race with a broken down car, would you? No. You would go with the best possible car you can get. You should sharpen your mental skills to the point where it's that high end race car. And you have the ability to control your actions whenever needed.

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course you learn from your experience. That 's how you get to be older and wiser!

[jasco]

Nice one there. So why do so many people get played?

[OlderAndWiser]

Part of getting older is learning to leaad with your head and not your heart. Young people are full of hope and dreams and so eager to experience love that they turn off their critical thinking ability.

[moonpie89]

Yes you learn what things to look out for. I learned a lot about myself with every guy I dated. I know what personality type matches with me better. Don't ever think you can try to change someone.

[inquirerlady]

Yeah it happens. Sometimes I just crush on the person so hard, I choose to ignore the red flags.