Relationship Question?

[Anonymous]

To basically sum it up short, I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and I just found out that he lied to me about not watching porn when in reality he does. Is this considered cheating?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Cheating is something that differs from partner to partner or the relationship. Some people view it as cheating and some people don’t… It is usually something that is discussed early on in the relationship, to know the boundaries of what is and isn’t considered cheating in the relationship. That is something you two need to discuss, ASAP.

Porn is one thing that so many couples debate about, asking if it is cheating or not. Many disagree saying it isn’t cheating because it does not involve actual physical sex with another person. However, many people watch porn behind their partner's back, which can cause distrust and insecurities. Lying about it is something serious in relationships, and many people could consider it disrespectful and cheating.

I think anything that goes behind your partner's back and not consented or agreed upon that involves another person and sex, flirting, or romance is considered cheating… But that is just a brief description of the boundaries I have in place for my relationship, in regards to cheating. Personally, I don’t think porn is cheating, but it is disrespectful to me.

[SueShe]

That is indeed cheating. That is emotional cheating.

One does not need to be physically unfaithful in a relation to be cheating. If he told and promised you that he does not watch pornography and then does it behind your back just because you are in a long distance relationship, then he misused your trust and did the one thing that is equal to physical cheating.

If he did it once, there is no reason why he would not do it again and that is why you should never forgive that act. If you forgive him and he promises that he will not do it over again, you know that he will actually do it as soon as you are starting to trust him again.

Your only option is to sever this toxic relation.

[whereismyjohnny]

I don't see watching porn as cheating, but I wouldn't like him to lie about it to me. If you watch it, I don't have a problem with it, but why lie?

[In_Trance]

This is not at all considered cheating. Your negative reaction is toxic femininity.

[UniquelyBasic]

I wouldn't consider it cheating but its the fact he lied that I would have an issue with.

[Anonymous]

All guys watch porn and it's harmless they just need to release, nothing to do with their feelings for you.

[spartan55]

Why is it a problem if he watches porn?

[ElvenMr]

Not cheating, more like lying to you.