How to deal with bossy boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I love him very much but he is kinda bossy. small mistakes I make he turns it in to huge and long conversation he would talk all night he gives me 5seconds to talk then he talks for hours and I end up being the guilty

[missgatsby]

My ex was like that, and it's a sign of narcissistic behavior. I'd suggest telling him about it. My ex used the excuse that "since I'm in the military I forget how to interact with people" I told him, that's bullshit, because I hang around tons of military gals and guys and none of them act like that. He was in the National Guard, too lmao, so it's not like he'd actually even seen any war or had done his job for more than 2 days a month... Bottom line: tell him about it. If he changes, good for you (and him.) If he doesn't, dump him. You deserve better. Narcissists are selfish and don't care about anybody else but themselves.

[Anonymous]

A therapist once told me that if you are feeling guilty, chances are someone is trying to make you feel that way.

I think you should set a boundary. Tell him that when you make a mistake, he is allowed 5 uninterrupted minutes to talk to you about the error and then if he keeps going on, you'll get in your car and drive home, or call an Uber or kick him out.

[MargaritaPeach]

Break up with him. He has no right to guilt you, belittle you, judge you, or push you around.

[Anticipation]

Bossy? Just wondering if he says mean things, makes you feel like he is has to have the last word. He's knows best? Or are you enabling him?

Does he physically and mentally abuse you?

Is he into you, do both of you stimulate one another's mind? When you are blue does he comfort you,, do you you embrace similar likes and dislikes without colliding but instead discover compromises.

Is he the kind of man that will shovel horse manure' off the pavement to clear a path for you, or does he expect you to shovel a path for him,, What about mutually shoveling a path together?

[JSmith925]

Get counseling together. This is a problem that is fixable but it may have deep roots and require intervention. If you do not get help, it will eventually destroy your relationship.
~JSmith

[danniec4]

That's abuse. Dump him and find a real boyfriend that loves you.

[fabulouspancakes]

I would not stay in a relationship with someone like this. Huge red flag.

[Robsinsf53]

Say "my Dad don't talk to me like that so I don't expect you to either".

[Anonymous]

Maybe ignore him when he gets like that or just
look like you're listening when your not, I don't know. Has ever told you you were worthless or made you feel that way because I'd so it's time to call it quits.

[Arbonne91]

You have to speak to him about it.

If he doesn't listen, then either you accept him for who he is or you don't and you leave and you find someone less bossy.

[raspberry0416]

He sounds arrogant and narcissistic. I don't think you should keep dating him.

[Crankor]

are you mistaking love for just being too comfortable around him? Doesn't really sound like he cares what you think

[Anonymous]

just tell him that straight. my boyfriend was kinda bossy at the start, but when i told him he's being kinda "controlling", he stopped

[MJM69]

tell him you'll give h head if he stops being bossy he'll shut right up

[Regular1]

Learn your place. Let him lead while you obey. You will both be happier..

[timidmale]

Men and women are equals.

[Regular1]

@timidmale --No we aren't. A damn pickle jar proves that claim wrong.

[timidmale]

We are physically stronger but that doesn't make us superior to them.

[Regular1]

@timidmale -- Um... yeah it does. By the very definition of the word.

[timidmale]

We are superior in strength but not as a person, we are more intelligent than them for example.

[Regular1]

@timidmale -- Exactly. So you agree.

[timidmale]

Yes but we are not superior in all

[Regular1]

@timidmale -- Men like to lead. Women like a man to take the lead. I stand by my original suggestion

[timidmale]

Have heard of FLR?

[Regular1]

@timidmale -- Had to look that up. Obviously an aberration. And neither are happy with it after the initial novelty wears off.

[timidmale]

Ohh please come on, i can't lead that's why i need FLR, why are you so sexist?

[timidmale]

There are females presidents all over the world, look at Argentina and Germany, hell Hillary almost won here in America.

[Regular1]

@timidmale --Yes, LOOK at Argentina and Germany. I'm not sexist, I'm a realist. Sounds like you need to find yourself some macho gay guy to "lead" you.

[timidmale]

No, just an Alpha female.

[Asker321]

@timidmale where is your last poll? Can't find it anymore.

[timidmale]

@Asker321 Why? I can't find it anywhere, i guess they took it off.

[Sonjita]

Seems like a completely boring dude

[sillyfish]

you leave him thats how

[fancyme80]

Break up with him. It only gets worse.

[boochie0]

Mines was like that break up

[abc3643]

Eject button.

[Anonymous]

don't let him control you

[steveguitar]

That guy is shit

[Uyouko]

fuck that guy

[Midget_Hug]

Punch him.

[Arya_Christ]

Leave him.