Why can't I keep a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

okay so I can get a boyfriend but it never seems to last, I don't wanna seem like a slut for dating so many guys but I don't wanna reject a guy and him turn out to be pretty cool and whatever. ughh what do I do?

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

You're not a slut if you date multiple guys and any guy who thinks that is close-minded and dumb. Especially if you're not the one who keeps breaking up with them.

But hey, before you complain about why you can't keep a boyfriend, take a look at the kind of guys you are going after. Are you sure they really like you? Or are they just trying to get inside your pants and have sex with you? You gotta keep your eye open for that, because most guys out there WILL use you just for sex if you let them. The sooner you realize that, and start being more careful, the safer you'll be from getting into situations where the guy doesn't seem to be interested in datiing you.

Also, it's OK if you reject a guy, but make sure you have a good reason for doing that. Open your mind a little - not everyone is as bad/creepy as they look, and sometimes that guy you think is a loser or a creep, might actually turn out to be awesome! You just have to give them a chance.

[homeboy]

I agree with the anonymous user, there isn't anything wrong with dating a lot of guys. BUT are you a serial dater? Sometimes it's good to take breaks in between people you're dating. It gives you time to collect your thoughts, maybe reevaluate your previous dating situation and see it from an objective standpoint rather than a subjective standpoint.

Again, there is nothing wrong with dating a lot of guys, but be careful that you aren't just dating the first boy that comes along after you've broken off your previous relationships because then you're just dating to date or because you want the attention, date someone because you WANT to date them.

[PurplePeaches]

Then you shouldn't jump into a relationship so quickly then maybe? I'm in the same position as you. I like a guy, but once he shows enough interest there is no spark. Maybe the guys you date are just crushes? Just try to find someone you really connect with then date them.

[umermyrehan]

First thing there is nothing wrong with dating different me all the time.

Second thing Stop thinking that every guy who asks you out can turn out to be the coolest guy on earth so I shouldn't turn him down.

Another thing you should keep in mind that if you want long, happy relationship with anyone then you gotta stick to him, once he's with you, you gotta take everyone else out of your mind so you two don't break up.

it a common trait for both boys and galz to wish that their partner will stay with him/her alone and won't think about any one else. so whom ever you date , don't think about anyone else..

[lonelysadguy]

FIRST OF ALL DATING A LOT OF GUYS DOESNT MAKE ANYONE A SLUT WHAT MAKES A GIRL A SLUT IS HAVING SEX WITH ALL OF THEM...BUT I THINK THE PROBLEM IS YOUR PROBABLY NOT GIVING THE GUY YOU CURRENTLY HAVE OR DID HAVE MUCH ATTENTION...(JUST GUESSING CAUSE THATS WHAT A LOT OF GIRLS DO). AND THEN YOU GO FOR THE NEXT GUY THAT COMES ALONG AND ASKES YOU OUT... BUT I DONT KNOW YOU NEED TO GIVE MORE DETAILS ABOUT YOUR QUESTION LIKE DID THE GUYS SAY ANYTHING TO YOU WHEN YOU BREAK UP...

[Aurelian]

How do you keep friends? You have common interests, you do things together, are able to chill and laugh together. It's fundamentally no different in a [healthy] relationship. Don't date a guy you wouldn't also want to be one of your best friends.

[MattsAdvice]

The magical step between meeting someone, and dating them. Become their friend. However don't forget the little hints that you think he's cute, so its not such a surprise when you break the news that you are crushing on him.

--Matt

[Lockjawx27]

You need to be more specific...why exactly did those relationships end? What happened? What went wrong?

And what kind of guy are you usually going after?

[Asker]

Well because there wasn't a spark anymore. I don't know what went wrong but yeah usually there just wasn't a spark anymore. usually I go for guys that are nice cute and athletic

[Lockjawx27]

Just keep looking then. and make sure the guy isn't too busy all the time with his athletics. Find one who is nice and cute but wants a girlfriend as bad as you want a bf

[pilot433]

Maybe ur finding the wrong type you need to find nice guys who appreciated you for who you are and love you for who you are nt just because ur attractive. find someone tht has a lot in common w u.

[time501]

just as long as you don't have sex with more than 1 guy who is your boyfrieend at the time when you have a boyfriend

[NotSoBad]

stop looking for a relationship. Slow down and take your time, and let him chase you.

[Urbanredneck]

Maybe start by cleaning your room, good gosh girl! lol

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with dating lots of guys, that's how you find out what you like in a guy. Eventually you will find someone were the like is mutual