Girlfriend got insulted because she's flat-chested?

[Anonymous]

So, my girlfriend met my cousin for the first time and made fun of her for being flat chested and also made nasty comments about people her looking like a child and not hitting puberty yet. I was stunned by these comments and really annoyed about how he can say this

My girlfriend got afterwards really upset and started crying and is now really cautious about her appearance and everything because of it.

What should I do to make her feel better?

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+1 y

Thanks for you're answers and the amount of detail in most of them.

So my girlfriend and I used to go running 2 times a week just a short drive away - we usually ran about 3km around the area.

After what has happened she doesn't feel confident doing that anymore after what happened - I've tried reassuring he but it isn't working - she's a better runner than me also and says she doesn't want to go anymore because she feels insecure about herself out in public.

[Levin]

Your cousin is a real arsehole. Personally, I wouldn't associate with him unless he apologises and makes amends from a genuine place. Who would say that? Is he about 11 years old or what? :S He needs to know there are consequences for things like that. And I wouldn't want to associate with someone like that anyway. It's poisonous and it's nasty.

With regard to your girlfriend, it's not an easy issue. She's essentially, traumatised now. Of course, between you and I, she's learning an important lesson here. People say stupid and idiotic things, and it destroys our sense of self. However, it is *we* ourselves that allows our sense of who we are to erode in the midst of throwaway unconscious comments from idiots. This can be used as a strengthening tool, to make her proud of who she is, and her sense of her self implacable. However, this is not as easy as it sounds. People generally perceive all negative experiences as something to be avoided at all costs, and naturally, they want to be unconditionally lauded and respected. This is unrealistic though. Not everybody is going to be wholly positive towards you, for a myriad of reasons. Think when you say stupid things? Often you regret it in the aftermath.

I think all you can do is to keep reassuring her. And let her know that attractiveness comes in all different forms. To observe the people around her, does their beauty come from looking 'perfect' (or generic?), or can they still be beautiful even if they have certain characteristics, which in fact, makes them an individual. Ask her why he believes his comments so readily? Just gentle nudges in the right direction I think, that make her think.

[independentman]

I donțt know maybe flat is bad but so are big boobs they look like an ass.
Boobs don't define female beauty, nowadays girls and woman who have big breast can be more ugly than those who have small chest.
Same goes with guys, a guy can have a big penis and it can be ugly , this is just a thing that some see some don't it shouldn't bother your girlfriend.
Also small chest / flat chest has advantages too like lower risk of cancer, shouldn't bother with unconfortable bra, it doesn't sweat, less back problems, people look at her not her boobs, her boobs doesn't move when you do sex, it is easier to do sports, etc

[helloitsmethere]

Your cousin is an asshole... seriously. He has a lot of growing up to do... smh. Boob size doesn't measure how much of a woman you are. You need to go confront your cousin ASAP if you haven't done that already.
As a former flat chested girl... I understand how your girlfriend feels. I was constantly teased for not having a chest (I was a late bloomer) but then one day from the ages of 14-15 I was like, 'fuck it, at least I can wear bralettes and sleep on my stomach at night bitchezzz!!! :D'
But in all seriousness, she may feel very sad now, but there will be that one day where she will be very happy with what she has. Try to compliment her and tell her how beautiful she is. Maybe buy her a really nice low cut dress (low cut dresses look really good on flat chested women) and take her out on a date or something to put her in a good mood. Remind her of all the pros of being flat chested. You said in your update that you both run 2x a week, one pro of being flat chested is that she doesn't have to run with boob pain from them jumping up and down and that she can go running in a flimsy sports bra and not having to buy expensive heavy duty ones that dig into your shoulders at times... and boob sweat sucks as well.
The best you can do is support her. Remember when I said at the ages of 14-15 I stopped worrying about how small my chest was and I finally felt a bit more confident about my A cups? I had to do that on my own. Insecurities will go away once the person themself stops being insecure.

[helloitsmethere]

Lmfao who tf downvoted this?

[lumos]

I hope you stood up for her in the moment. Nobody should have to listen to that kind of bullshit. Since she was your cousin, you could have easily told her to knock it off.
As a flat-chested girl myself, these types of comments don't bother me anymore. My shell has hardened over the years, especially when I realized that what's most important is that I love myself. What everyone else thinks of me doesn't matter, especially if it's coming from someone who doesn't even know me.
However, the road to self-love is quite rocky and I completely understand that she's not there yet (many people never even reach that point). What you can do as her boyfriend is just support her. Let her know that what your cousin said doesn't mean jack shit, and she's probably just so insecure herself that she feels the need to put other people down. Also keep telling her that she's beautiful, that you like her just the way she is, etc. Don't overdo it to the point of it looking like you're just pitying her. Just tell her these things every now and then to make her feel better.
But what she (and you) needs to understand is that true confidence only comes from within. You can say all the right things technically, but if she refuses to accept them or refuses to work on her self-confidence, then no matter what you do or say, it won't work.
Keep supporting her regardless and try to get her to think about other things.

[lumos]

Oh, I wrongfully assumed that your cousin was a girl. I don't know but what I said still stands. Only insecure people feel the need to attack others, which isn't cool.

[SammyGurl]

First you should tell your cousin to keep their mouth shut about your girlfriend, as in you'll beat him to a pulp if he ever says anything like that to her again. Kidding or not!

Chances are that your girlfriend was already sensitive about her small breasts in the first place. She didn't need some insensitive oaf to point their lack of size out to her. Bullies point out the obvious, likely because they are so shallow that they cannot come up with something original all by themselves.

You really can't repair that kind of damage, only time is going to lessen her hurt feelings. You can let her know that you like, or love her just the way she is. Let her know that you don't just love her breasts, that you love all of her. If she allows you to see them or is intimate with you, make sure that you show your appreciation for her breasts as well as every other part of her body. Don't allow your focus to be on her breasts, she is probably already a little focused on her breasts as well. Pay her compliments when you see her, dressed or not, let her know you love her just the way she is, or that if you could, you wouldn't ever change a thing about her body!

Never tell her she is being overly sensitive, you need to try to understand why she feels about her body, but don't dwell on it.

[Goodwifie]

My brother used to tease me and make nasty jokes about my breasts.
I got sick of it one day and pulled him up on the fact that he is not perfect, he is fat.
My mum rang me later and told me off for calling him fat.
Honestly I was dumbfounded and refused to apologise to him.

[lumos]

👏👏 you go! He shouldn't dish it out if he can't handle his own medicine.

[es20490446e]

I always found that criticism never comes from people doing well, but always from those doing worse than you. Just let them know :P

[Goodwifie]

@es20490446e the fact too is that he is my brother and shouldn't be looking at my titts

[btbc92]

Okay, this is what I have to say about this situation. There really isn't anything that you can do for her at this point because this problem stems from issues she already had in the past. You can't fix it. She has to be the one to fix it. If she doesn't pull out of it, she will more and likely want's to break up with you because she can't deal with it. The problem is that while I agree that you should have done something other than being surprised that your cousin said what they said, you shouldn't have allowed it to go that far. You should have removed her from the situation and confronted your cousin.

Matter of fact, since this is a very grave situation that will potentially end your relationship with her, you should be calling however you need to call to contact your cousin and tell them off. That is extremely rude no matter how sensitive she is. I would be infuriated if somebody said something like that to somebody I care about. And I wouldn't hold back either. You didn't stand up for her then, and she feels as though you won't now. There really isn't anything far worse than a person who cares about who sat there and did NOTHING. This is why lusting is wrong and judging a person based on nonsense is so damaging. This is how insecurities grow if it's already there and how insecurities start.

The only thing you can do is tell her what it is that you really think on the situation and just let her know that you want to keep this relationship. If she doesn't anymore, you can't blame her. Blame your cousin.

[Levin]

I'd hope that he'd have confronted his cousin in the moment. The question gives no indication of that. I'd hope there wasn't any mealy-mouthed passivity on his part.

[btbc92]

@Levin

More and likely he didn't confront that person. And even if he did, the damage is already done. That was so unnecessary. When it comes down to a person's opinions, things like this whether for good or bad should be kept to oneself. Otherwise, it will cause somebody's relationship to be destroyed over one comment.

[WingsOfSteel]

If that's how your cousin acts, looks like he's the real prepubescent child in this situation. I'll bet he's also single? *sarcasm* gee I wonder why...

I would reassure your girlfriend that she's beautiful, let her know you truly think so. Your opinion is the one that should matter, not his. Tell her the things you like about her, both physically and personality wise, let her know you appreciate her. I would also confront your cousin and have a serious talk with him. Let him know not to say things like that to her again, that's it's hurtful and rude and you won't tolerate it. Set this boundary and if he does it again, make sure you will set and enforce consequences (i. e. not hanging around him anymore if he's going to be disrespectful to her.) If he's truly sorry he'll apologize and make an effort to stop, but if he's a dickwad with no respect for you and your girl, drop his ass out of your social circle. Relationships are already complicated as is without the extra baggage of these kinds of people.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that you should take comments attacking you for needing to have stood up for her in the moment too seriously. You were shocked yourself. Not sure what to do in that situation. And thats fair... You're human. If your girlfriend is sensible, she'll understand it. Being a very small breasted girls, and having experienced mean comments from girls about it before, I can only share that it will only stop bothering her once she has recognised her own beauty. And learned to realise that people who are nasty do so as a means of masking their own insecurities. Perhaps it would be worthwhile to remind her of this, and emphasise your own perception of her beauty.

But simply, be honest with her. Tell her that you're worried that she has let your cousins ugly comments affect her self esteem negatively, and you are hurt by that. Let her know that you didn't know what to do in the situation because you were so shocked. I think it would still be worthwhile to have a stern speaking to with your cousin, and ask him to apologise, if your girlfriend is willing to hear it. But just let her know that the opinions of someone with that kind of character, or lack thereof (no offense to your cousin) is not with expending energy and tears over. Just be careful not to make it seem like you think her being upset is not valid.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

What did you say at the time? Did you defend your GF?
Did you tell your cousin to shut up? Did you tell your cousin he was out of line and being rude?

in order to make your girlfriend feel better about everything, remind her that you love her and that she's special to you; that you would not date her if you didn't find her attractive and love her body. Reiterate that your cousin is rude and nasty and you don't agree with those comments.

As for your cousin, you should tell him he was out of line and you won't tolerate that type of behaviour again.

[Litza]

Did you stand up for her? Not to mention, if your cousin is a guy, what business does he have commenting on her bust size anyway? And if your cousin is a girl, then she still isn't entitled to voice her opinions about another woman's body. Not to mention that even if she has small breasts, sounds like he or she can still accurately tell that she's a girl, so she must be very pretty. I would recommend nipping that in the bud though, because that was absolutely disrespectful.

[RJGraveyTrain]

If I was you I would have made her feel better by putting your cousin in his place. No one on the face of this planet insults my SO without me telling them to fuck off.

Now all you can do is just assure her that he's a shit head and she's perfectly fine.

[es20490446e]

Work-around: say that small tits are cute.

[Cady_19]

As a girl whose flatchested as well, I say fuck that. Who cares? I used to be so self conscious about it but I don't care anymore. I'm a small petite human being ahah and I've grown to love my body. She should too. Girls with flat chest can wear cute bralettes. Your boobs don't hurt as much especially when you're on your period or exercising. There's benefits to it😂 your cousin should never have said that and, I get it, it hurts.

But just talk to her. Tell her that you love her body , that it was just someone's stupid opinion and you think she's beautiful. Make sure you do talk to her and make her smile hsha.

Also talk to your cousin. She was acting out of line.

[MarkGerrits]

sounds like a tough situation indeed :(.

i guess the best thing to do is to let her know how much you love her and her body. and i don't know but maybe your into flat chests and there's nothing wrong with small boobies. i'd say boobies are boobies small and big. she's a girl, she has boobies and ur her man and ur going nowhere. otherwise you would have been gone a long time ago.

even writing this here on this app/site means you love her. and she just has to get it into her head that's nothing wrong with her. it won't be easy and i wish you the best of luck.

and before i forget her cousin is a total asshole for saying stuff like that. maybe try to get him to see what he did to her. An honoust apology from the person who did the harm can do a lot aswell so.

[OverCaffeinated93]

First of all stand up for your woman.
Try to focus on making her feel good about herself. Don't focus on discussing her breasts. Tell her and be passionate about telling her how beautiful she is. Adding "I wish you could see what I see" when she seems inconsolable helps. Make her feel like she's the only woman in the world.
But write your cousin off as a douche and be done with him until the relationship ends or he unfucks himself.

I'm in the same situation as your girlfriend. At the end of the day it's an issue she has to fix on her own. But you can be supportive and help her. These issues are DEEPLY rooted. Maybe recommend she get help from a professional because it's not healthy that she hate herself so much and you want to her love herself because you care.

[SaramadHill]

Your cousin was being an ass. Plenty of women still look beautiful despite how their breast size looks. His mentality is that of a thirteen year old, "Hurr-durr big boobs are best."
The size literally doesn't matter. Big is good. Small is good.
Why is small good? It gives the woman a slim look, and if her face and/or personality are good, then the breasts are irrelevant, at least to me.
So, yeah. Your cousin's in the wrong for doing that.

[This_is_my_username]

Your cousins an idiot for saying that to your girlfriend and plus he's your family. What right does he have to judge and talk about your girlfriend that way? You should have told him off. And making it up to her? Do something sweet I guess.. But whatever you do it's not going to change what he said and she'll always remember that. Women are very conscious about their bodies so the fact that your own family member insulted her like that is going to be ingrained in her mind.

[TBeth]

Yeah dude you should've said something to defend her! Your cousin should not be talking about her like that, especially about her chest. Tell her that you love her the way she is and that your cousin was out of line. Later I would tell your cousin that making comments like that is unacceptable. Don't let him around her again for awhile. If they do ever have to be around each other he should apologize. That's a really douchey and disgusting thing to do honestly.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

Tell her not to be such an annoying pansy and that your cousin was just joking around and teasing her. She needs to lossen up take a joke and learn to have good comebacks so that people enjoy her company. Sorry, I might sound harsh but this is really my opinion about girls where like this and its true that its unreasonable to be overly sensitive, it'll help her in the long run to gain confidence enough to laugh at meaningless jokes about herself.

[Kkaos]

Couldn't agree more. This sensitive society we live in is so irritating. Who gives a shit if someone calls you something. You're still the same person you are now as you were before they said that, so if you were happy then, why the fuck would you be sad now?

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@Kkaos thaaank you! I was totally expecting a bitter eply to my opinion.

[mr_mxy]

I am in that area were i both agree and disagree. I know what its like to have insecurities and wish for bigger proportions *cough* dick size *cough*. Overall though i can see your point of view as well so while i may not completely agree ill give a thumb up anyway

[lumos]

It's one thing to joke around but to make jabs like that at a person you barely/don't even know is over the top and just uncalled for. Especially concerning such a sensitive topic like body image. It's just not what someone with manners does. I could maybe let a few comments like that fly if it came from a person I knew super well and I knew they were just being sarcastic/just want to roast me. But saying shit like that to someone you don't even really know is just plain rude and bitchy.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@lumos yes, sorry that's true its unacceptable. What MI meant is that she just needs to figure out herself and get more confidence. I was probably just annoyed with her reaction because it reminded me of a friend who got SO upset because two really hot dudes called her thicc. It was very annoying, as you can imagine. Even when I explained to her how its not at all bad, she kept whining about how they were laying she was fat cuz her butts big. And with the flat chest, personally I would kill to be flat, so I just find it silly that she doesn't realize she's lucky and should be proud when she's teased about it. Like if someone was to make jokes about my pointy ears, I'd be happy they noticed.

[lumos]

People usually want what they can't have though and feel insecure because of it. Girls with big boobs sometimes want smaller ones because it more convenient and they're uncomfortable with guys staring, whereas girls with small boobs might feel less feminine and sexy, and often get teased for it by being called "boyish/little boys". Which of course is pretty harmful. At least girls with big boobs still feel wanted, but it's harder for flat-chested girls to do so because we always get called "little boys" or have to put up with bs like "bones are for dogs, meat is for men" etc. Pretty difficult to get over it when someone literally tells you that you're ugly or that you'd look better if you had bigger boobs or some other stupid shit.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@lumos um, not really? I don't feel particularly wanted because of my big boobs, and flat girls are more derirable now a days too. I can't think of a single reason other than cosplay for why big boobs are anuy good.

[lumos]

Well, wanted in the sense that most guys still prefer what you have over what flat-chested girls have. You might not really notice or care about it much but flat-chested girls do. Especially when it gets shoved in our faces like almost every day, if not through mean comments then through ads and the media. Flat girls are only desirable on the runway and in those cases it's usually in an unhealthy way.

[lumos]

You might get the odd guy who prefers flat over bigger boobs but usually that's like a kink for him or something, and not just a normal preference.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@lumos most guys I've known really don't care though either way. Online I mean most prefer flat from what I've seen. The only guys I've heard of liking bigger chested girls are the ones who just want to have sex with them, and that's not really something I'm going for either. Even if he did love my boobs, that might be his main objective. When you're flat, it'd be less distracting and you'd be taken seriously with other things too.
But again, who cares if some pervy guys who only like big boobs are making fun of you? That just means you wouldn't have to deal with them if you did. And yes, being flat is much more comfortable, and I prefer comfort to being harrased any day.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@lumos www.marieclaire.com/.../
www.huffingtonpost.com/.../...-rock_b_8034064.html
knowyourmeme.com/.../flat-is-justice-delicious-flat-chest
www.straightdope.com/.../why-do-women-athletes-tend-to-be-flat-chested
https://www.youbeauty.com/love/best-breast-size/
And by the way, the only positive things they say about boobs in these is that c is great. Well I'm larger than a c so its just considered gross. Im not really self-conscious about mine, but I'm just saying your point of why they're good is invalid in my case.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

I think you might just not understand, which is fine but please look at these. I've been flat before, i remember it and miss it, espetially since i was a tomboy and just treated like a dude. Although i got the most guys when i had no boobs too. but as far as I know, you've never been busty and probably don't actually know what it's like to live with that.

[Kkaos]

I could just as easily, if not more easily call you out Lumos. You think you're being nice by being all sensitive with these things yet you fail to understand that your attitude will never help someone. It's just patching over the scars. What Jailbait was saying wasn't intended to be bitchy, it was intended to actually help. And believe me, it does more than any sensitive crap anyone else is going to say.

It's like with dogs. It's no surprise that owners who make a big deal about thunderstorms and try to comfort their dogs during storms, end up having dogs who are the most afraid of storms. When my puppies were young and unsure about storms, I ignored it and guess what, now they don't care about them at all. If you make something a big deal, people will believe it's a big deal and then people will get hurt.

[lumos]

They're clueless. C isn't even a size. C can be small depending on the width of the band. These people don't understand how bras work.

@Kkaos I didn't call jailbait bitchy. I meant that asker's cousin was being bitchy. Also comparing human behavior to dog behavior is pretty silly.

[Nice_Guy_Last]

I don't know where you and your girlfriend are in the relationship, but if sex is a part of it, every now and then, when in private, just walk up behind her, reach around her, and grab them, kiss her on the cheek, and say, "These are the best boobs in the whole world." That, or during intimate moment, pay extra attention to them and say things like, "Your tits are amazing."
If that's not something you can do, maybe give her constant compliments on her looks. If she wears a low cut top, give her a tasteful catcall, maybe say something like, "Wow, all the guys are gonna be so jealous."

[Warmapplecrumble]

Go to the cousin and ask him/her to apologise to her.

Have sex with her a lot, and make sure you give attention to her breasts.

Buy her a sexy dress and take her out. :-)

[Prettygurl12]

The damage is done. You should have defended her to your cousin's face.

You remained silent. She interpreted your silence as agreement.

[es20490446e]

Probably it was.

[maz82]

Tell her that your cousin is (sorry ) a douche-bag. Tell her that you love her just the way she is :-)
Everyone is different, so if she's got smaller breasts, so what? ! I prefer women with smaller breasts! Lol
Lots of guys do too. Don't let her get self conscious because of the comments your cousin made. He sounds like a bit of an asshole to me to be honest.

[synmar]

You should have stuck up for her right then and there. That's your woman he's talking about! He needs a solid kick to the groin and 50mgs of STFU

[AnnVdB]

I have small boobs as well. But I dont care really :) Try to reassure her she is beautiful to you and you love her body. And that not everyone has the same opinion and there will always be people who will be douchebags and judge the things they personally dont like.
Most people realize its just a personal preference, but others will be assholes and act like anything different than what they like is "bad" or can be ridiculed.

[Levin]

OMG, it's ann off youtube :P

[dannymexico90]

First I would have shut him up. Than if he continued I'd have hit him. You have to spot that shit and stop it as the man because the women won't. Now you just compliment the shit out of her tits. Especially during sex. Become a tit man to build her back up

[BollywoodAffair]

If your girlfriend is flat chested or whatever, she can't really change that but the I reckon the best thing you can do is let her know that, that doesn't bother you. Let her know you appreciate her for the way she looks and is and that she shouldn't let someone else's opinion about her make her feel insecure about herself

[Astoriana]

Your cousin is an absolute asshole. It's okay. We can't choose our family.

I would say beat the cousin until they agree to apologize to your girlfriend.

By the same token, she seems a little over sensitive. I can understand that this is something she's insecure about, and that's fine. We're all insecure in one way or other. But ultimately, she has to know that you care about her regardless of what your idiot relations say.

[MichaelG]

Slap your cousin, tell him.
You don't trash talk like that to my women!
You show her no respect at all, and me!
Apologize, NOW!

Your cousin has to know that not everyone has the same type of humour.
Maybe he was trying to smaltalk, but... just a big fat no!

[Boxer4]

When i met my current girlfriend i asked my mates what they thought of her. The general consensus was "she could do with some tits... but she's got a great ass".

Nothing she or i didn't already know. Yup, she has mosquito bits and a killer ass, and is hot AF for it! 😀

[evelyn26]

She shouldn't care what others think. She should just own her body. Give her all the pros of being flat chested. One is, she doesn't have to struggle fitting into blouses or t-shirts. Another is, some models are like that too.
If she really wants to, in the future, she could consider getting a boob job but only if that is what she wants.

[ZaraMohammed]

what your cousin said was out of place and sure it might be teasing for you and your cousin... even appeared she was. being over sensitive. but I don't think she is. I think she was. hurt by the remarks your cousin made. And now. she is extra cautious. maybe being flat chested. was one of her insecurities and you didn't know. don't say she is over sensitive. understand her.

[Anticipation]

Tell her the truth,, she has the body of a model,, most models have breasts' that are A or B cups.

The French believe that breasts' that fit inside a champagne glass have perfect sized breasts.

She should embrace that sexy breasts' of hers.

[Anticipation]

She should continue to keep running.. she has a hot body.

She needs to understand that guys who body shame a beautiful woman with a beautiful body are really messed up and insecure themselves.

Your girlfriend is sensitive, I hope you are able to comfort her with the right words.

Pisses me off that men do this.

[martyfellow]

Slap the cousin a few times hard? Apologies for his behavior and tell him how much he's caused her insecurity about herself.

To her just say some people are insensitive and cloddish... laugh it off and hope she can do the same.

[AynonOMouse]

If someone is insulting your girlfriend, it is your duty as her mate to defend her right there in front of both of them.

Also, flat chested girls are so hot.

[Machiavelli]

Yaay

[Kecia34]

you should have defended your girlfriend instead of just standing there.

[Watermelon15]

Wait - so your girlfriend made fun of your cousin? Or the other way around? This is very poorly written and not really understandable. Maybe just read it next time before you hit send.

[JohnDoe3000]

I was thinking the same thing.

[MangoB83]

You're really putting the blame on your girlfriend by the way she is reacting to all of this and you're not putting any blame on your (idiot) cousin.

You can make her feel better by sticking up for her and not letting anyone treat her that way. If you can't stand up for your girlfriend then soon she's gonna realize she doesn't need you. She may already be starting to realize this by spending less time with you.

[nalaa]

Well if you just stood there while your cousin said that, I think it's too late to do anything.
You can tell her you don't feel this way but there's really no excuse for not standing up for her

[Shy_Guy_Ugh_Why]

My exact response might have gone something like this-

{Slightly raised voice}- OMFG, are you serious, don't you ever say that to anyone, especially my girlfriend. {sHAKE HEAD and leave with the girl}.

[sodababe]

Please tell me you didn't just stand there and watch

[Asker]

I confronted him and he got really annoyed and that their was nothing wrong with what he said - he didn't even want to apologise.

[Daniel3035]

Knock your cousin out for a start then make him apologise. Then reassure her flat chested doesn't matter personally boobs don't matter at all to me in fact big boobs = gross i'm sure it's mutual and I prefer a big bum to boobs. On top of that looking like a child who hasn't hit puberty is a good thing who wants to be old. If she doesn't believe you show her what I said I don't like big boobs and lying to her doesn't help me in anyway so why would I lie?

[Lopezz1999]

She feels insecure now, you really should've stopped him. It's going to take some time, but definitely keep her away from him for the time being.

[simple-question]

The cousin is jealous because she is probably a fat ass and your girlfriend thin and beautiful. Thin women intimidate fat women and that usually is there attack—Thin is one reason small breasts are so beautiful-

[simple-question]

I just noticed my error- just substitute he for the cousin and it is valid – he probably is an obese fast food trans – and yes find a 2x4 and have at his ass

[simple-question]

Update to your update-you’re going to have to hurt this cousin and make him apologize on his knees-

[es20490446e]

He wanted to have flat chest too.

[lord_chilled]

You didn't stand up for her did you?

Thats the real reason she's upset

[es20490446e]

Exactly, she didn't care about your cousin as much as you.

[kingofeverything]

You should have stood up to your cousin... been a man

[Layinglow123]

I am flat chested too and if someone has a problem with it they don’t have to look and if they want to talk shit about me or someone being flat chested in general then the person needs to go fuck themselves

[Jemini_Crocket]

You should have defended her in the first place. She wouldn't end up so hurt and insecure. God...

[lord_chilled]

Ikr...

[youtoo]

If he can do that to a complete stranger, imagine what he would do to you. Stay away from that cousin, he's poison, and build your gf's confidence back up without making it too obvious, like during foreplay

[Dale1982]

A lot of idiots don't know the difference between good natured banter and an outright insult. When in doubt stick to being serious is my advice. As long as a girls got nipples it doesn't matter in my books

[PLguy]

The more educated a man is, the "flatter" chested he prefers his women. It's a scientific fact.

[PLguy]

by the way, if that pic shows your girlfriend, then tell her that an anonymous fuck on the internet says that she is by far more beautiful that 90% of the women I know

[lord_chilled]

Really? How is that a fact?
I like flatter chested women, but my friends of same educational level seem to prefer fuller ones

[PLguy]

Your friends cannot be the marker for the whole population, the preference is mainly on average, and there are men of all education levels liking all sorts of sizes, but the higher educated and richer men tend to prefer smaller breasts.

[TaylorK]

Where did u get this info?

[PLguy]

Some Study in Malaysia

[lord_chilled]

I think the richer men prefer flatter chested women theory holds more water, i think education just favours in because usually higher education goes with a higher income.
I have heard about the rich men liking girls with boobs, because,, apparently they are a psychological indicatour of "resources" where poor or struggling men are more attracted to bigger boobs because they see them as resources, while rich men dont need them and therefore go for smaller boobs for some reason.
It kinda makes sense, but I don't know i think its not very accurate i think individual differnces differ a lot on this.

[lord_chilled]

*preferences differ

[Browneye57]

Keep her away from your cousin. I hope you gut-punched him.
WTF!

[Browneye57]

On update...
Now you have a new problem - a girl that is so weak she let's every little thing have power over her emotions. She needs to get over it. You need to move on - you can't fix stupid.

[missy47]

Let her know that she is beautiful, tell her that for you she is perfect and that you love her just the way she is. Make sure you tell her this. It will make her feel safe

[SilverLoki]

first do something to ur cousin he should never make comments like that NEVER YOU NEED SO STICK UP FOR HER MAN DOESN'T MATTER WHO SAYS IT STICK UP FOR HER

[Blake0048]

Should have made him or her apologize if it hurt your girlfriend.

[Asad1ONE1]

I think it's cute for a women with a smaller set, especially if she's cute lol. I'd prefer small over big and sexy.

[Intraluminal]

Tell your cousin off, and let her know that you told him off. Make sure you include a lot of breast play when you're making out.

[assley]

Ask her what will make things right even though you didn't do anything. she will tell you how to make it better. And tell her she is beautiful and boobs are just fat so she shouldn't worry.

[TacosRAwesome]

Tell your cousin to shut his / her stupid mouth and to not comment on your girl's body.
And tell your girlfriend that your cousin is an idiot who can't get laid and his/her opinion shouldn't matter.

[Sojex]

You should've slapped the dog shit out of your​ cousin for saying that, 1. 2, all you can really do is be supportive and make sure she knows that you think she's perfect

[Anonymous]

Treat her to something special. Take her out and lavish her with attention and a special dinner. Then when you both come home take her to bad and make long passionate love to her. Give special attention to her breasts and kiss every inch of her body from head to toe. Then spoon or cuddle her into the early morn.

[TadCurious]

You should kick your cousin's ass. There's nothing wrong about girls with smaller size breasts.

[BertMacklinFBI]

can't just beat people up like that xD

[es20490446e]

@BertMacklinFBI The truth beats more than a hand. Likely if he reacted like that he's in a worse situation than you or your girlfriend. It's always like that.

[Mileyislucky]

Make her feel as loved and sexy as possible. You don't need a good bod to be beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Punch your cousin in the face and tell him that his face is flat, douchebag

[super_rachelle]

well sorry for this but i learned this in earth science
your girlfriend has cleavage - which mean flat and smooth area/surface