How to not be sad or jealous when boyfriend hangs out with friends?

[Fleurbleue7]

I am a monster with a lot of problems, one of them being my jealousy/possessiveness. I acknowledge it as much as I despise it. Today my boyfriend is hanging with 2 friends for the whole day while im at home bored. And I feel sad and like not good about it, and it really makes me feel miserable to feel sad for such a stupid thing like he should hang out with friends on his own its only normal. But there i am being all alone and negative about it. Feeling extremely lonely because we moved in this new city 3 weeks ago and I know nobody here but him. I found a job and should start working in a week hope to make friends. Just, how can I stop being such a monster who feels anger and jealousy for trivial things? It really makes me hate myself, and I dont like that he's out there having loads of fun while im bored at home. You guys can criticize as much as you want, i know it all, I've got a biiig problem. I just need some help.

[Masihmo]

When you fight an emotion it only gets stronger. I can tell you a lot of girls are jealous when their boyfriend hangs out with his friends. Accept your jealousy but dont accept it because you want it to go away. Genuinely dont care about being jealous because its normal. Emotional suffering is enhanced when you fight discomfort feelings.

[Fleurbleue7]

then I guess this suffering will never end. I just wish my jealousy level was taken down a notch. and the thing is he really doesn't care at all, is not jealous at all no matter if I see men or whatever. But I guess you are right, fighting would make it worse. I juste want to stop hating myself for it.

[yaanis]

Lern to trust him, and whyyou are just sitting at home? Go out and meet some people, go to library, dunno just go and do something.

[Fleurbleue7]

thats what id usually do but I litterally know nobody here yet.

[Rosie7777]

I usually look at it as take care of me time. Study, read a book, find ways to better yourself or make friends or catch up with old ones. Visit your family, etc. Look at it as growing time. If you're together all the time, you won't ever miss each other.