My boyfriend is jealous of my guy friends!

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of guy friends, and have all my life. I just seem to get along better with guys than girls. My boyfriend though doesn't like the fact that I have so many. Is it a bad thing to have lots of friends in the opposite sex? I have tried to help him realize that they are just friends and that's all they will ever be but he seems to think different. He says they all flirt with me and he feels like they like me. I know that this isn't true but I feel like I should respect his feelings. I don't want him to feel insecure but I also don't want to lose my friends. How can I keep hanging out with my guy friends and stop my boyfriend from getting so jealous? I try to include him when ever I do hang out with them but it doesn't seem to help. I am out of idea's! Any help?!?!

[missfashionistagurrl]

Honestly, my boyfriend is just like that! The thing is, he may be just a little overprotective on your friends because he really loves you and him being the "man" in your relationship, he doesn't wanna lose you to someone who may seem more important to you such as, say, a close guyfriend of yours. Just don't let it bother you - guys are ALWAYS getting jealous like that. Even the littlest sign of flirting may tick him off, so don't think it's your fault or that you're not treating your boy right. If it helps, talk to him and explain that no matter how many guyfriends you have, or how close you and your guyfriends are, you will never love them as much as you love him. Also, another thing to keep in mind - he may be getting jealous because he's noticing you are spending more time with your friend than you are with him, and that may be sending the wrong message to him. Be aware that even though you know that you and your guyfriend are 'just friends', make sure you show it, too. You don't want to be telling your boyfriend that you and your guyfriend are "just friends", then start to hang out with THAT guyfriend more than your man. That'll make him think that you're cheating on him. Just let him know that he's still being loved by you and only you. Find some time to be alone, just you and him. Give him a sweet kiss every now and then. Hug him unexpectedly when you pass by. These kinds of things makes a boy feel proud to be in a relationship, especially with you.

[finecute]

Ummm I mean don't blow off your friends, but limit yourself to them. If you know it bothers him, then hangout with them less or talk to them less. Your guys friends have to respect the fact hat you have a boyfriend! and they don't! so cut back for the sake of your relationship. you wouldn't want your boyfriend having a lot of friends that are girls and flirting with them, you would get jealous and mad. Understand where he is coming from. In a relationship, you have to sacrifice.

[rwildman23]

Here's the deal. You have a two part problem. One, your boyfriend is insecure. Two, your guy friends do like you. Given the chance, most of them would probably hook up in a sec. Try coming on to one of them some night as a test. At first they will laugh and say you are crazy and just teasing but if you convince them you are sincere, they will leap. Your relationship with them is what it is, no changing that. So, the answer is in the bf. You can help by being overly affectionate with him in front of the guys, even invoking the "get a room" comment. The boyfriend has to learn that guys, friends or not, will always try to get in your pants. That is the nature of the game. If they didn't, you must not be worth much as a girlfriend anyhow. He should feel good that it is him you chose and connected with. He can't worry about the other guys, just how he is with you and let the relationship develop based on what the two of you put into it.

[Anonymous]

Why do boyfriends get jealous of our guy friends?
Because maybe they don't trust us.