If your husband doesn't get jealous

[Anonymous]

I told my husband about our friend sending me inappropriate texts and that it seems like he was coming on to me but he brushed it off. said it was because he was just drunk and a one time mistake. I wanted to get a reaction from him but nothing. He didn't get jealous and I think it's because I never fix myself or constantly get picked up by other guys. He never feels threatened.

[motorboater]

Why would you want your husband to feel threatened? Why are you manipulatively trying to get a reaction instead of being straightforward? Why do you never fix yourself up? Why do you envision constantly getting picked up by other guys?

Sounds like you have too much distance between you and your husband for your liking, and you're trying and hoping to close it, but in a particularly dangerous and unhealthy way.

You probably need to work on your marriage, and really KNOW how your husband feels about you, and he needs to learn what is missing, and what you want from him. Marriage counseling is good for this, and WAY more effective now then if you try it as a last resort after your marriage really goes south.

Meanwhile, what could have possibly given this "friend" the idea that sending multiple inappropriate texts to you was okay? That doesn't tend to happen utterly out of the blue, it tends to happen after you and he have some sort of thing between you two. Not saying you're cheating, but I'm just saying. Friends don't spam the wives of their buddies with suggestive text unless they are delusional or they have already established some form of "behind-the-husband's-back" connection with you.

[Anonymous]

Most women moan WHEN their husbands get jealous.

No pleasing you women.

P.S - I would never send such a picture to a woman I liked. I think it would show her I lack her respect and just want sex.

Don't risk a marriage for it. Especially if you have kids. He doesn't want you for a relationship - trust me

[Hoshi-Reed]

Looks like he TRUSTS you so doesn't need to worry. Have no idea why you feel he needs to feel threatened in the first place. Even if you were a model and turning everyone's heads if you are trusted/he has a good sense of self himself, there is no need for jealousy.

Jealousy is usually a sign that there isn't much trust or the jealous party feels inadequate/insecure and fears replacing. If he feels secure, trusts you and feels confident in himself, why should he feel threatened?

Your want for him to be jealous/react sounds more like you may be going through some self esteem issues yourself; feeling unsexy/not as feminine/etc.

[chris-t]

I do agree as women we all want to feel "wanted", but I think it is wrong for you to expect him to react..After all men are such different thinkers than women...I do think if this is an ongoing problem then maybe you should confront this person yourself and see what happens...In the mean time it is my belief that if the husband doesn't seem jealous it is probably because he feels SECURE in this relationship...And that by far is worth more than the reaction you were wanting.

[loveAnsweringOldQS]

Why would you want your husband to feel threatened? Why are you manipulatively trying to get a reaction instead of being straightforward? Why do you never fix yourself up? Why do you envision constantly getting picked up by other guys?

Sounds like you have too much distance between you and your husband for your liking, and you're trying and hoping to close it, but in a particularly dangerous and unhealthy way.

You probably need to work on your marriage, and really KNOW how your husband feels about you, and he needs to learn what is missing, and what you want from him. Marriage counseling is good for this, and WAY more effective now then if you try it as a last resort after your marriage really goes south.

Meanwhile, what could have possibly given this "friend" the idea that sending multiple inappropriate texts to you was okay? That doesn't tend to happen utterly out of the blue, it tends to happen after you and he have some sort of thing between you two. Not saying you're cheating, but I'm just saying. Friends don't spam the wives of their buddies with suggestive text unless they are delusional or they have already established some form of "behind-the-husband's-back" connection with you.