So it was my birthday yesterday. I removed it from all my social networks, just to see who truly remembers it. Turned out that except my family, only 4 people remembered it. All of them were friends of me, pretty close to me, one whom I once told that I liked her but you know we couldn't even start it. But she too remembered even though we hadn't talked in months. All 4 friends were female friends. That was expected of course. But what came out of shock was that my girlfriend too forgot it. I talked normally all day nd at 23.30 I told her on WhatsApp she forgot it. I didn't expect that from her so I waited all day that maybe she reminds just now at last I told him (See screenshot no. 1) I wasn't mad at her or anything just was disappointed because I was the first person to wish her on hers even through bs of all the University nd my medical studies. But she didn't. She had been working during summer vacations for some hours daily. Understandable. But when I saw her statuses late night after I slept, I felt like, lol it's not that she's not free, she has a a lot of time for God knows who people, just to talk them. But couldn't remember by birthday (see screenshot no. 2,3) (screenshot no. 2 is taken from a video). Share thoughts? What would you do or what should I do?
My birthday is on the 13th and I'm as paranoid about this as ever. What I think you should do though is be as honest with her as you were on this Question post. You should tell her all about these thoughts of yours and also ask her about the way she would feel if you would've done the same thing to her. But like literally the same situation. Posting stuff on social media and talkingto people but also using the excuse of working all the time.. you shouldn't just No worries.. you should be open how you feel, always. Otherwise you'll keep eating yourself from the inside out. You'd rather learn how you're supposed to feel about this from her and not from anyone else.. Good luck friend.
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She's not the type of person you can tell that you're mad or anything. She'd immediately get depressed nd would go out of contact for a day or so. So I always have to keep this in mind too. Because once she's sad or depressed or something I've to take her out of it too. That requires me being sweet which on occasions I don't want to be. I wasn't bothered about forgetting birthday until I came to knew about she still talking to strangers. If I broke up it won't be because of birthday but because of her talking to strangers.
I don't know if I get why you're so upset because I really don't care about my birthday and don't want people messaging me lol. Maybe she's just forgetful, I've forgotten my mom's birthday this year. Doesn't mean I don't care about her just that I had other things in mind and didn't remember.
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Well in a relationship certain events are important nd mostly its girls who want men to remember anniversary nd stuff
As I said that's not the case for me and I really couldn't care less about dates. But be honest with her and tell her how upset it made you feel, although I don't know what else she can do besides profusely apologizing which she already did.
For real tho, how is it not possible to forget something? It is just a birthday, calm down. She said sorry, what do you want her else to say or do? Beg you until you are going to forgive her? You are more worse than women in general lol.
So what did I say to her? She said all this nd I replied it in 'no worries' what was so bad about this? It's just how I feel when she don't remembers mine nd excuses about work but has time off work to talk to I don't know how many strangers. And last year she remembered. Now she didn't. It feels weird that as time is passing, things instead of going strong are going weak. By the way thanks for your opinion.
I'd remind him If I guessed he didn't remember, so this way I'd avoid him feeling awkward afterwards and I wouldn't be sad either. It's okay, everyone makes mistakes, she might be a forgetful girl.
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She's not forgetful. But okay.. I kinda did it. Didn't let her feel bad.
Not everyone got a good memory that's why people put it on the social media , besides from her texts she cared about you , you can't be disappointed from someone who forgot
Dump her, girls want us to remember anniversaries and how weeks we've been dating but she can't remember your birthday :/ Kick her to the curb
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She tried to get romantic nd stuff today but I didn't let it happen lol. Dumping just for forgetting birthday would be stupid. I'd be looking for other reasons lol 😂 Thanks for opinion though.
If it's a new relationship it's more understandable. We're all humans and we forget things sometimes, don't be disappointed. Someday you might forget something too and you'll already have set an example of how to react.
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It's not new. We've been friends for almost 2.5 years nd actually last year she was the first to wish me. The relationship though started this year.
Honestly i have a terrible memory when it comes to pretty much anything. Your girlfriend seemed really apologetic in her messages so why not forgive her?
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I was never mad at her. So she's been already forgiven.
Wow, the men in the comments are suck crybabies, kinda disgraceful in my opinion. It's true that a lot girl would be throwing a bitch fit if this happened to her but you can never be sure because we're individuals. Anywho, ask her to make it up to you. See if she takes responsibility instead of making excuses and then decide what to do from there.
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Yeah she asked. And I said I don't know how to make it up she kept on asking nd I said, fine. Don't smoke, it'd be biggest gift for me if you're healthy. I don't smoke nd she does. I don't like this habit of her. But I'm not sure she can restrain
I know. She goes 5ciggs a day. If she reduces it to even 2 or 1 nd then quits. I'd be happier even if she misses my birthday every year. at least she'd be healthy.
There are other tricks that can motivate her. tell her that if she doesn't want her skin to wrinkle more when she gets older she should seriously stop smoking. Smoking literally takes away the youthfulness in our looks
I live in the same house with the woman who gave birth to me. I get no "happy birthday", no card, no gift, no special dinner or anything. It's just a day that goes by.
It's heartbreaking.
Are you sure she knew your birthday to begin with though?
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Of course. Last year she wished me in long paragraphs
You're welcome and don't be easy. You need to be serious and tell her you are upset, annoyed and angry that she forgot. If you forget her birthday, she would ignore you for the whole day. Anyway, I'm a serious guy. Bye.
Yeah I think that too, she's just too immature so she keep on talking to new people all over nd screenshot it nd send me that this is funny, I insulted him nd bla bla
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