People don't understand the Obey part, they think it's about being a slave or some shit when that is REALLY not what it's about. They hear Obey and then their ears and mind turn off. They forget everything else that applies in the context of that "Obey" commandment.
The "Obey" is to be used to provide her with safety, foster trust, and create the framework that allows her to safely "let go completely" to be totally vulnerable and able to properly nurture her family with her entire being. I think on some level most women know, or maybe feel, that the desired purpose of their life is to love, feel, and serve the ones they love and to be safe, valued and loved in return.
If you are a good, strong, man leading the way a woman will just about always naturally fall in line anyway, most women want to follow so badly that they will choose an asshole over a weak man they can control. BUT to be that kind of man, the kind worth obeying, it requires good listening skills, empathy, rationality, strength and a strong enough spine to say NO, to the woman you would fight and die for.
Obey is NOT! about accepting abuse, tyranny, slavery, being weak, being micro managed, being lesser than etc... But it does emphasize VERY much how important it is for a woman to choose a good mate.
Be submissive in all things? NO. That's not what the Bible teaches. The term "submit" is more like a military terminology where subordinates follow leadership.
A wife should follow her husband's leadership. And husbands... you'd better be taking great care of your wife. She'll follow you anywhere you L-E-A-D as long as she knows you ALWAYS have her back.
But expecting her to follow commands (clean up the house, do the laundry, make me supper)... you've got another thing coming! That's not at all what the Bible teaches or expects from wives. A wife is not a slave or your personal valet. She's someone you walk through life with side by side! She has a LOT of great ideas if you just let her be herself! Guys... you need to show her love and care ALL the time! You do that, and your wife will be like a little puppy wanting to do everything for you. Your actions speak loud volumes toward your wife!
If I were to ever get married, I wouldn't argue with him on most things. We would agree with each other on most things. Due to the fact that I probably wouldn't marry someone who has poor decision-making skills, someone who is hard to talk with and reach compromises with and someone who just couldn't work well with me. I also wouldn't marry someone who's viewpoints were just entirely different from mine.
There are exceptions to this. Obviously, if he wants me cover up a murder for him or something... I'm going straight to the police. However, we would agree on most things.
Obey was written in the mindset that the husband would never ask the wife to do something that wasn't in her best interests. It was also written, knowing that the wife is the heart of the household, and can make living conditions extremely uncomfortable for a husband, if he chooses to make demands of the wife that she dislikes.
Why would you want someone like that? Not all women want to be submissive. Some like dominance , some don't it's different for everyone. Most people want an equal relationship. Where you know, they both have an equal say in things and know each other's area of expertise. Try it. It might surprise you.
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i don't see why a woman has to be submissive and i don't see why anyone in a relationship should "obey" their partners as if they were dogs.
love and honor absolutely. Submissive is up to the people in the relationship. obedience shouldn't even be an issue as partners shouldn't disobey their partner or expect obedience of their partner. again they are humans not pets
This question would have been out of place in 1958, and you're obviously fishing for one specific answer (it's kind of confusing how both "yes" and "no" are headed with pictures that seem to imply a woman should be submissive). How about you just worry about you and your Little-House-On-The-Prairie relationship and let everyone else do what feels right?
Love and honour, yes. But obey, nope... Not really, if he asks me to have threesome with some strangers, I would never do it, or if he asks me to stay with him even after he cheated on me, I would never!
Submissive? Not really, many women are dominant. 😂😂😂
Love? Yes
Honor? Yes
Obey? No
I don't know about you, but I want a wife who loves me, respects me, and showers me in affection on her OWN accord - not because she was brainwashed from a young age to obey her husband without question since the first time she attended Sunday School.
Not always men sometimes do need a power check I know I do. A good wife should know when to stand down and trust him and when to step up and confront us when necessary its a balance. Because we do stupid stuff too and sometimes it takes a 3rd party to make us realize stuff.
Both should love and honor each other. As for obeying, what are we dogs?
I'm not his kid and he's not my kid either. If I'm dating a grown man then he's with a grown woman, not a childlike female.
Both partners should love, respect, and honor each other. But I'd never enter a relationship where I felt I had to "obey" my partner. Decisions should be mutual and compromise is important. BOTH of our feelings and needs should be respected.
Never! You are marring a person because you love him/her and not because you need a slave. Women should have equal dominancy / control in a family
You seem to be mistaking 'husband' with 'controlling sadist'.
I think both parties should honour and respect each other, no woman or at least where I live would want a life where they have to treat their husband like loyalty out of expectation. Why get married if its basically like being a child again
Fuck that, hell would freeze over before that ever happens.
My idea is that the woman is the CIO to the man's CEO.
She has the information ready for her man to make an informed decision. Without her, he would just crumble under the stress of it all.
I don't think anyone should obey somebody else at any case, except if that's what they both wish. Love and respect should be shared not only in marriage, but in any relationship by both parties.
:/ :/ :/ There are few men I consider worth to submit, in other cases I'm dominant. After all, in family I'd rather be equal instead of a leader or follower. We should go side by side.
In a word: NOPE! Certainly not OBEY and BE SUBMISSIVE!
In fact HONOUR is outdated.
Just LOVE and RESPECT is enough.
It's always interesting to see the difference in answers from a girl vs. guy
I broke up with a girl because she made clear she didn't care what I thought and would not listen. She was surprisingly pretty bummed about it, but I felt okay.
If I were that way, I'd be in world of hurt right now, miserably hating myself.
The question is from the Bible and yes I agree to it and so does my wife. You have to read it to understand.
Well, I'm the dominant one while my boyfriend is the submissive one.
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