What's your opinion on 'Me too' as a response to 'I love you'?

[Anonymous]

Personally I think it's a bit emotionless, compared to saying 'I love you too'. My girl does it sometimes she doesn't mean it any less I'm sure, but what do you think?

[PrettyKitty31]

I say I love you very infrequently unless it's to my parents or my brothers. I've said it to three guys in the past. Doesn't mean I dont feel that way for a person, that's still rare though.
However, I'd much rather a person show me and make me feel it rather than simply say it. There's a huge difference to me there. Anyone can say the words but to make the other person know it beyond a doubt is what really counts, I'm in my opinion. Some people need to hear it all the time though. I don't need to hear the words I just need it proved in actions.
As for your question, when a person tells me they love me I don't say it unless I feel it. I feel it's insulting to lie and say I love them too if it's not how I truly feel or to simply say it out of obligation, because they said it first. I may not actually say "I love you" but I will say "heart ya" or something similar. It's the best I can do given past issues. The people that know me know this about me though. It's not an insult or me taking their feelings for granted it's just that I am the way that I am.
I believe some people withhold telling another person they love them as punishment and will say "yea me too" or something similar, that to me is bull shit. I don't believe that's true of every person that says "me too" i think some people, especially women are usually doing it to be cute but, as I said, I do think some people do it to be manipulating.
I really think that it just depends on a persons personality. I may be ok with one person saying "me too" if they're a joker and playful but if some serious no nonsense person said "me too" to "I love you" I would strongly consider punching them in the face.

[19magic]

Reminds me of an episode of charmed from fear to eternity.

Phoebe Halliwell: I love you.
Prue Halliwell: Yeah, me too.
Piper Halliwell: I wonder if she knows she does that.
[What she meant it's that Prue never says I love you]

Phoebe Halliwell: No, you just said 'me too' and you never say it to Piper either. Have you ever said 'I love you' to anybody?
Prue Halliwell: Yeah, I said it to mom and it was the last thing I said to her before she died.

Very extreme case and it's a tv series lol so in more normal cases I just think it's to do with they feel that way for you but is scared or worried or holding back from saying it. I know if I were to date someone I wouldn't say I love you till 9 months a year in, at least.

[Vmm90]

I love that show!

[19magic]

do you know the episode I'm on about?

[Vmm90]

i am not really familiar with the first couple of seasons, although i have the first and second season on dvd, i should watch it again, its been awhile.

[19magic]

I'm probably least familiar with season 7; I loved the ones with Cole and Billy in them and Chris and Andy was pretty cool too. (Not including the four sisters themselves but I think out of them pheobe was my fav with Paige a close second- probs due to them being younger and more relatable).

[MimiHashima]

I think it depends on how it's said and where it's said...(the word i love you gets over used a lot with not much effort at times) the actions show a lot more than just saying the words itself. Saying it is a "+" which helps in building it up... it can be hard sometimes to depict/verify the feelings through text...
Chances they are still warming up to you... but i do feel that if they were to say those same words back, it would be a lot more genuine/sincere and impacting than the 2 words where there's little effort sometimes (they try esp if shy so, best not to be too upset right?) the actions shows the most...

[kaylaS91]

umm.. not much?
I mean, I was replying to my boyfriend telling me he loves me for almost 3 months by just saying 'okay'. Only getting a bit better with a '... you know I feel the same way' after a while. My difficulty with telling him I love him back didn't mean I loved/love him any less. I just felt awkward and overly cliche with saying it back as a response.

[Asker]

Damn I would've left if you couldn't give me more than an okay for 3 months. That would've made every other guy feel like shit lol. But I get where you're coming from

[kaylaS91]

3 months? lol dude, we've been together for over 3.5 years. It was never really an issue for either of us to not verbalize how we felt to that extent because the fact that we could feel the love being 100% mutual and equal enough didn't really require any need for such validation. So neither I told him that, nor did he. Until maybe a month or so ago.

[Asker]

What are you talking about? You said your boyfriend told you he loved you for almost 3 months and you would just tell him 'okay'

[kaylaS91]

since like.. early or mid August. So let's put it at ROUGHLY 1 month ago. (hard to say because the first time he said it was over the phone then didn't say it in person till 2 weeks or so later)

[Asker]

Yeah I don't know I'd still dip. Like what kind of answer is "okay"? I'd expect either "I love you too" or "I'm not really sure I feel the same just yet".
Okay's like "Alright my dude I feel you"

[kaylaS91]

okay, I realize that 'okay' wasn't the most ideal answer but it's not like I said it point blank and proceeded to watch TV. I kinda did a sheepish grin and pulled him in for a kiss. Then straight up said I'm awkward (as if he didn't already know). Before we had a straight up discussion about how I have trouble with such situations since I was basically ready to tell him those three words after just one month. Stopped myself because it felt too soon then because he had had issues resulting from his last relationship, I just continued to stop myself for months turned to years. Which I guess led to myself having a mental block of sorts.

If he told me '.. k babe. I'm out' I'd be like peace bitch.

[Asker]

That's completely understandable actually. I'd be okay with that too. How did you feel when he first told you though? Were you happy about it or surprised?

[kaylaS91]

super happy. It was pretty much surreal. Like blindsided me in the best way possible since, like I said, I'd known I was in love with him and fallen hard since our first month. So to finally have him telling me what I'd been kinda yearning for for years was like... woah. wow. That's grreat. b-b-b-but oh right, I have to respond!
lol

[Dme500]

Seems bullshit.

Now if y'all have been saying it to each other for a while or very frequently then its understandable but if y'all have just started saying it then i think she's just being nice without commiting.

[Asker]

We just started saying it about 2 weeks ago. I mean she does say it, but most of the time she doesn't

[Dme500]

How often do you say it?

[Asker]

Twice or three times a day. Depending how much we talk

[Dme500]

Thats too often. she's sick of saying it. Also, being so lovey dovey makes you look weak, like you're afraid that she's going to forget you care.

Tone it down to once a day and i bet she says it back more often as opposed to "me too."

[troychapman]

I'd think she was just saying that that she doesn't really and it would make me really question the relationship

[Goodwifie]

I say to my husband " I love sometimes " and he replies with "I love you more "

[BrittBratt2416]

It's a way to beat around the bush by not actually saying the words back so instead she says "me too". she's saying me too because she either doesn't feel comfortable saying I love you back or she's honestly doesn't feel the same way therefore she can't say it. You need to put her ass on spotlight and tell her "listen I'm tired of getting "me too", that's great that you love yourself but if you can't tell me YOU love me back after I said it to you.. then we have problem. And the only way to solve that problem is by going our different ways. Just say it, you either love me or you don't."

[RedMatch]

Its a little emotionless, but does she say "i love you" with out you saying it first? if so then well she probably does mean it. I have said "me too" when my boyfriend has said "I miss you", but we are an odd sort so he says "How? your with you"

[Asker]

Wow this got me thinking. I'm actually not sure if she ever says it first. However she was the one to say it for the first time. I'll see if she'll say it without me today.

[RedMatch]

Well if she was the one to say it first then I think she probably does, but yes maybe give her some time to say it to you. Take into consideration people do things different, e. g. in my relationship I didn't use to be very verbal with my feelings, just because it wasn't like me to do that, even after 2 years i am still not very verbal, I show in other ways mainly what i do, if that be just being there for him or doing something nice for him. Also many times when i think something like "I love you" probably half the time i don't say it, cause its just not me, and often he will say it not long after i think it and i will be kicking myself for not said it. If he says it 40% of the time i will just say something like sweet person, because i don't like giving the appearance that i am just saying it in reply, so I say it later. And only ever say it when you think it not just to say it.

[Kitten967]

She's basically saying she loves herself as well. Saying 'me too' isn't a vaild response to "I love you". It doesn't mean she doesn't love you but she isn't saying she does either.

[Vmm90]

This is where my weird sarcastic sense of humor would come into play... when someone says met too to something like that I would think they're saying they love themselves to and I would probably crack some kind of weird joke because that's what I do.

[malaticiaa]

Yeah , I think that too. It seems like the person who replies "me too" doesn't mean what she/he is saying. Personally I would reply that like I'm bored , but honestly I don't know and I agree with you. It's emotionless.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

It's ok if it's said now and again, but not if someone responds every time with " me too" . It's heartwarming to hear the words " I love you" from time to time too. It needs to be said

[Asker]

Agreed. She does say it, but not often, and I don't know if she's ever said it first other than the first time we told each other

[Becky66]

Well, 'Me too' is a completely valid response for 'i love you'... But of course, she may be not be ready for saying those words, or maybe she is just shy... If it really bothers you, try talking to her about this...

[rxm_bxl]

I'm with Christian Grey on this one: don't say "too" just say I love you. Too doesn't sound nice it's a common response, no emotion, it's like you're just just saying that cause you feel obligated.

[Odysseas]

When my girlfriend says to me "I love you", I respond with "I know", then I silently go down the carbon-freezing chamber...

[NumbMind]

That's so messed up, that's basically her showing you that the phrase"I love you" is meaningless" which is the reason why she doesn't bother saying it back

[NumbMind]

Those special words aren't meaningless at all

[azzntittiz]

The person is saying they love themselves too, clever was of not telling you they love you, while have you thinking they are saying it back.

[HesaidShesaidNO]

it really depends on the moments of the situation, depends on how well you know her and how she tends to respond to certain phrases, only you can attempt to find out.

[rigboner]

I think there's not much effort put into it. Unless when she would say I love you too.. that would be so much sweeter i guess.. Its 4 words.. Its better than only 2..

[zeussuez]

If it rings a bell and butterflies in stomach, go ahead experiment. If the gut feeling says it's just another imposter , believe your gut feeling

[mooky06]

I feel the same way as you. Just still doesn't feel right

[momomu]

What's the difference between "I love you too" and "me too". It's agreeing to the same thing.

[philipph]

I would ask: do you mean your feelings toward me or the decision to stay with me 😘

[COCOCHANEL]

i never say i love you to anyone except family.

when boyfriends say it to me i smile and say ”oh”

[razor97]

i would never tell someone that i love them, because i like to keep other human beings at distance from me, but if i would get such answer i will ignore them

[Anonymous]

I would ask them "me too what?" Don't give me that "me too" answer bih just say I love you back

[Anonymous]

I think maybe she feels pressured to tell you she loves you or she's shy.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Are we talking dating (say less than 6-9 months) or courting (precursor to engagement)>

[Blonde401]

I hate that response personally.

[Belgie]

It means " I love me as well"

[Jacob-Kuro]

I feel like it isn't as sincere.

[lightskinpicklerick]

Well hey, I love you buddy😁

[psychosam]

It means "I love me too"

[Colenockgh]

I also hate to respond.

[This_is_my_username]

Me too bro. Me too

[spenzer]

Worst when they reply just 'K'

[This_is_my_username]

@spenzer or whatever 😂😂

[spenzer]

Hahah.. damn the girl doesn't care at all

[Asker]

Nah if she responded like that, I'd be gone 😂

[This_is_my_username]

Dude whatever 😂😂😂

[milettescheepers]

they love you too

[Anonymous]

It is like avoiding things.

[Anonymous]

It is fine

[Anonymous]

That's irritating