Should I be mad if my boyfriend went to a stripclub? (Page 2)

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So. Long story short:  My boyfriend went to a stripclub without asking me if I was okay with it. Only told me he was going to the bar with his friends. I learned about the stripclub only two days later when he said a friend of his owned him 40$. When I asked why he told me that the 40$ was to pay him a dance. (Note that he did not feel bad through the entire discution) Surprised, I asked him why he didn't tell me about the stripclub that night and only learned about it two days later. He said he did not feel the need to ask for my permission nor to make me aware of it. He kept that cocky ass attitude of not having done anything wrong. He hurt me by not to even calling if I was okay with it...  I legit got pissed because I had a bad feeling that night and kinda was right to have it. Anyhow, I got serious trust issues whenever he is out. Should I be mad?

SammyL · Answer

If he's willing to hide that from you, what else could he be hiding? I don't feel like "permission" is necessary- but honesty and not hiding crap is so important in a relationship if it's going to last.

ATuairiscean · Answer

There is a lot more going on there than the visit to the strip club - There are trust issues that need to be addressed - The strip club is a distraction from what the main point should be.

Otter92 · Answer

Yes a permission would be the case, and not telling about the night or excluding that part so keeping it a secret is a sign he is aware he crossed a boundary. He doesn't sound like a nice guy.

MackFreeze · Answer

I would be if my girl did. There aren't many reasons to go to a strip club, and it certainly isn't for the food...

scooogy · Answer

Tell him to make up by having an MMF with you and his best friend and then see if he's gonna apologize and stop doing such bs.

itwasmelaniasfault · Answer

I can't tell you whether you should or not be mad. However I'd be pissed and breakup with him, because not asking your girlfriend if you can or not go to a strip club is an asshole move.

madhatters4 · Answer

this is tricky. i guess in a relationship couples should find out if going to such places is ok with the partner and so in that way you have a right to be upset.

10dsw · Answer

Sort of, I could see your frustration. But at the same time... "asking you if you're okay with it?" Sounds controlling on your part

WalterRadio · Answer

Why be mad? Do you ask his permission when you buy a pair of shoes?

RachelleDraws · Answer

I would be extremely angry in your situation. Your feelings are justified.

Razal · Answer

Well its reasonable enough behaviour to doubt, but getting angry will not solve any problems. Rather you should tell him that he has hurt your trust and if something like this happens again it can have serious consequences !!

TunisianDom93 · Answer

I mean he lied. he said he was going to a bar... so yeah you have the right to be mad. It is obviously a big thing to you and at least he needs to be considerate...

Anonymous · Answer

You're upset that he did not ask your permission? I would not stick around long enough to find out what other entitlement and control issues you have. Life's too short.

dhruv9x · Answer

First of think, you'll get mad only if one of the users here suggests you to? Are you kidding me?
You don't need to ask this, if you feel it's a wring deed which makes you angry you've full rights to thrash him

KhabibNurgomedov · Answer

yeah you should only go there if your single and not having hot sex with your girlfriend if you have one :P

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Uh no, he's allowed to do as he pleases with his own time. We're allowed to find other girls attractive, and we all do.

SG_04 · Answer

yes be mad you have a right he went to the strip club and he lied to you.

harveyhammer · Answer

No. You probably wouldn't give a chance to the kind of guy that would ask in the first place. Catch 22

Shan021 · Answer

Whats with the permission stuff? I understnd he should hv told you first.. but when you are saying out loud as "permission" this can also mean as dominating ur other half..

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