Boyfriend's going away to college?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is going away for college about 300 miles away. He's gonna be out there meeting new people, making new friends, and going to parties. I trust him, but I think this will put a strain on our relationship... He means the world to me, and I'd really appreciate some advice on how we can make it work through this year (I'm a senior in high school) until I can (hopefully) go to the same college as him. How can I make it last? Please help!

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We broke up... It was just too stressful and we aren't able to see each other. He wants to do his own thing and I want to do mine. Thanks for you answers.

[Anonymous]

As long as you have complete trust in one another you both can make it. See what the first few months are like when he's away, and if they turn out bad due to trust issues or whatever, then you know you weren't meant to be together forever. There are many couples that deal with long distance relationships and last without problems arising, but then again many don't last. I say don't worry about distance, you will miss each other, but as long as you're happy with him and he treats you right why worry? If he doesn't seem to be a person that would cheat or give up on you and hook up with girls and whatnot, and he keeps in contact with you (and you don't obsessively keep an eye on him and badger him while he's away), then I don't see what the problem is. "Going away to college" is a bad term, because it makes one think that the person will not be back or will be gone for a long period of time, whereas in reality the person comes home on breaks, weekends, and class leaves pretty often (Unless they study abroad obviously). If you don't trust him around other women, end it now and I mean right now, because if you don't then you might hurt yourself in the long run and regret it. If you love him, love is one thing that cannot be taken away by distance, and it is also impossible to replace, so, if you trust him completely with no doubt, stay with him, it will be the right decision. Hell, if you go to the same college or whatever next year and you're still together than your worries are over. Trust is key. If you think that distance will "strain" your relationship with a trustworthy man then you are mistaken, and you already are on a bad start. If he completely trusts you and tells you that, and you trust him and remind him of that, there shouldn't be any strain on anything. Well that's the best advice I can give. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

You both can last, cause this is my second year of doing it.. and now this year, my girlfriend is 4000 miles away instead of 400, so I can't see her for 3 months... if the Love is there, and communication lines stay open, it can work!

[Anonymous]

I hate to be brutally honest, but I'm gonna be. It won't last. Any girl that believes her boyfriend will be faithful to her that far away at college, when there's plenty of girls around, is kidding herself. Imagine it this way, is your boyfriend going to sit in his room and masturbate to your picture instead of hooking up with the drunk girls at the party next door who are throwing themselves at everyone? I don't think so. Just be prepared for the worst.

[Anonymous]

whats a year compared to the rest of your life...

if it is worth it you'll both tough it out, there are lots of ways to communicate.