What age difference would it be wrong to date a guy?

[Anonymous]

Ok folks do you recon a 21 year old guy dating a 28 year old women is wrong? And what age gap is appropriate?

[cormurnel]

I used to be weird about people younger than me and was only interested in older guys, so I used to think it would be easier for the younger person to connect with the older person than the other way around. But because I liked older guys, I felt that age didn't really matter because surely anyone can connect with anyone.

So now I'm 26, and am dating an 18 year old. Both of us have never really connected with people our own age and he's had experiences that made him grow up faster and so he is noticeably more mature than his friends the same age (though still a dumb teenage boy lol). The age difference hasn't been an issue so far. We're both still studying and have lived relatively sheltered lives so where we are at and where we want to be next is similar. Sometimes I feel bothered that it took me a lot longer to find what I wanted to do and so am getting older without starting a career but better late than never lol.

Anyway, i don't think age really matters, it's the people. I've also got teenage friends and I always thought it would be weird for people my age to hang out with teens (we all study together) but you quickly realise people are all pretty much the same at any age and some people you're compatible with and some you aren't.

[Anonymous]

I think I wouldn't want to date someone more than 10 years older than me.
I don't think I'd date a guy who is younger than me either... or I'd accept 1-2 years younger, but I prefer guys who are older than me.

[Blondie80]

Too big age gap causes many misunderstandings, non understandings and fights, resentments. In my opinion max. age gap is 10 years. Sometimes this is too much too...

[Gramer]

In this 10 years age gap, does the woman have to be younger? :D

[ronaldo75]

I'm going to say something that is going to sound sexist but I don't care. In large age gap relationships, whether he's the older or younger , the man is always the one who has to be patient. Very VERY patient. If a guy has a girl 15 years younger than him then he's light years ahead of her in terms of maturity and experience so you have to swallow a lot of behaviour that is beneath your age level.

If the man is 15 or 20 years younger, trust me, she IS going to have moments of talking down to you like a little boy who shouldn't talk back to an older woman who "knows what she's talking about". Seen both scenarios a million times.

[Asker]

Ok but what about a women who's six years older than the guy?

[ronaldo75]

A woman who is six years older than the guy is still pull the "little boy" nonsense during and argument. They may not say it but you're going notice big-sister or stern-mother vibes from her. However this all dependent on the individual.

[Streamhopper]

I'm 45 and my girlfriend is 25. Age means nothing these days. It's attraction and interests. Well, it has to be legal, duh, but beyond that? No worries.

[Luciferforyou]

There's nothing wrong with anyone dating anyone, it's just that society has made it seem like it's morally long if girl's older than you or if the age gap is too much, if you're dating and the person is a adult and you're an adult, it's all good

[lilaqua]

Legally, as long as their both over 18 it doesn't matter. Personally, I don't think I could actually date someone younger or older that me by around 4 years

[LilyMay19]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with an age gap as long as nobody is underage. If both people are happy and feel like they can relate to each other despite the gap, then that's great! (I'm speaking from experience.)

[Gramer]

You've dated significantly older guys in your life? :D

[LilyMay19]

@Gramer Yup, dated a man 20 years my senior... Some people were judgmental, but my friends and family knew us both and could see that we were happy together. I don't usually go for much older guys, but he and I had a LOT in common. Same values, interests, taste in music, maturity level, sense of humour etc. I ended up moving away for school and things didn't work out, but the age wasn't a factor for us. People can judge if they want, but it really was a happy relationship!

[Gramer]

Yes of course, love has no age but it's about the two persons. Does it happen for you to prefer them because of their maturity or safety they provide sometimes? :D

[LilyMay19]

@Gramer Well like I said, I don't typically go for guys that much older, but I do prefer guys who are a few years older than me. My current boyfriend is 5 years older and I like his level of maturity. That's not to say that younger guys can't be just as mature, but it seems that those a bit older than me are usually at a similar stage in life as I am. Some people think it's about financial security and all that stuff, but my boyfriend has more student debt than I do, so it's certainly not a motivator of mine lol. If I had met a younger guy who was mature and had the qualities that I liked, I'd totally date him too, so it really just depends on the guy for me! :)

[Gramer]

Do you think girls are in most cases a little bit more mature than guys around their age so they match more with older guys? :D Not talking about everyone but the majority of them makes it seems this way, right?:D

[LilyMay19]

@Gramer Haha yea, I think in many cases that is why you often see girls with older guys. I've heard that many times, too.

[Gramer]

If you were 40 years old would you date a guy much older? :D

[LilyMay19]

@Gramer Haha yea maybe, I would have a cut-off point though cause I would likely outlive him by a lot of years, and that would suck. It's something I thought about a lot with my previous boyfriend

[Gramer]

Yes depends on what is the purpose of a relationship with a much younger man but you mean your previous boyfriend was younger? :D

[LilyMay19]

@Gramer Oh you meant would I date someone much younger? Possibly, If he and I hit it off haha. Like I said, really just depends on the guy!

[Gramer]

Yes for a woman that is older it might be a little bit more demanding but with a good will it can happen :D Do you want to follow me by the way? :D

[JenDB]

I am a fan of big age gaps BUT not when the woman is the older one.

[Asker]

So you mean the women should be younger?

[JenDB]

Yeah

[AnandoRudra]

What age guys would you like to date

[Asker]

@AnandoRudra well I'm 27 the guy is 21

[AnandoRudra]

If he like you. And what about you

[sp33d]

21 and 28 is completely ok. Hell, 21 and 38 is ok, too. If you get too far apart, things start looking a bit... weird. "Dude, did you see that guy tongue kissing his mom?" sort of problems.

[Dxk007]

A seven year gap isn't a problem. But, it shouldn't as much that, one thinks of the other as their mom or dad.😜

[Dinnye001]

No there is nothing wrong there. I had a 21 years old girlfriend when I was 27. Above 18bage differences pretty much lose meaning.

[Juxtapose]

No age difference is "wrong." Just be of legal age and score.

[Nivinxus]

As long as neither one is a minor, it's fine in my opinion.

[Marlong13]

If your comfortable with it the age gap dosnt matter at all (well as long as it's legal)

[Chris0012]

A seven year age gap is nothing to worry about. Go for it.

[kemalim13]

İf aim is sex every gap is fantastic ;)
if will you marry 18-35 i heard a lot

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

Once you're age of consent, no one gives a fuck.

[Asker]

Lol thanks

[chrisbigman]

I reckon that as long as neither one is a minor, they're fine - at minimum. Ideally, you should both be closer to the same age.

[matt-420]

7 years difference is nothing, only matters if it's a 12 years difference.

[Anonymous]

My cousin is engaged to a woman who is 10 years younger than him

[RobertBaratheon]

If it's two consenting adults, who cares?

[Chrysis]

No it is not & age doesn't really matter.

[rapfan107]

How about an 50 year old man dating a 18 year old

[Chrysis]

If that's what they want. I don't really care.

[rapfan107]

Lol I like the way you think

[LThunder]

21 and 28 is not really a huge difference.

[rapfan107]

Nah my dad is 10 years older than my mom and now they look about the same age

[matt9642]

I thought that there are laws

[NaultD]

After 21 who cares.

[Anonymous]

Age is not important in a relationship

[KingsAndQueens]

Go for it!

[jeeperspj]

Not at all