Boyfriend wants to be alone!

[Anonymous]

I'm really sad and this is tearing me up inside. I'd love to have some feedback even its negative.

I've been fighting a lot with my boyfriend recently but thought we had smoothed everything out last week. We were supposed to go away this weekend but he called me to cancel on Thursday saying he wasn't feeling well, didn't want anybody's company and that he just wanted to spend the weekend alone and chill out.

Now I was a little p*ssed off but texted him Friday morning all nice and hoped he'd get better soon etc etc. He didn't text back which I was OK with. Didn't pester him the whole weekend, but its now Tuesday and I've not heard one peep out of him. He's not been online over the weekend either.

So I'm starting to wonder, I know he ignores me as punishment after a fight he even admitted it himself by saying you'll know if you've really done something wrong because I won't speak to you.

Should I wait it out and see if he's around this weekend or do I ring him and just chat with him if nothing's happened? I don't really want to impose on him in case he really is just having some man time.

Oh and I should probably mention that he's based 3 hours away from me at a large Army Garrison base, so its not easy for me to just turn up out of the blue as I don't have a military ID to get through the gate.

[islands7]

I'll go farther than this.
1> The worst case would be that he picks fights in order to have time away from you and time with other gals, a complete foolproof coverup; should you have ANY evidence of this, you should go out shopping for your guy weekend replacement (s)
2> Anyone that cancels on me, social or business will be forgiven BUT has lost pole position and all such privileges going forward. I have been cast as #2 to something/body else, so they assume that position in my life until they can earn it back... like trust. I won't do it back to them, but they can expect to penciled in, not inked in.
3> IF all these fights are really your fault, then reform is in order but not with a guy like this - he's no help (obviously) in reform matters. He's only concerned with his life being perfect. So begin with counseling if you can't muster a group of friends self-intervention. Once cured, go shopping for a supportive guy to heal/seal this deal.

[airiver]

Maybe you two just need time away from each other... I don't know how long you've dated but we've all had those relationships where, sometimes, we just need to get away because of the cloud that hangs over head. Which to me says that you two might being playing silly high school games with each other...? I think the "silent" treatment is high school... Plus the way he says it insinuates the blame is all yours, he's taking no responsibility and that's rarely the case for any of us... Besides, we're to old for this Sh_t! Go have your own "time out". Quit checking to see if he's logged in, quit staring at your phone, grab one of your girlfriends and have a cocktail and go window shopping or what ever it is that you do... Distancing yourself a bit can give you an incredible new perspective on your own situation...When we stand to close, we can't focus...

[Asker]

I like your thinking. Thanks for your input.

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[isabellanoone]

just give him some time wait till he calms down then give him a call and talk about your relationship