My phone died and my boyfriend got Upset?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and i have been together a year in two weeks. I rarely go out but this weekend i went out. I went out on Saturday with my friends i told my boyfriend two days before that i was going out on Saturday. I told him i was going to the movies as well as going out again later for dinner.
These were the text messages we sent each other on Saturday and Sunday i am the green messages he is the grey. After i got off of work he called me and said “we need to talk “ and i said “about what sweetie?” And he said “where you were yesterday and what happened “

[BlueIsForNightmares]

He sounds really controlling. Something isn't right there. I know it may be difficult, but I think you should really evaluate that relationship because he should not be doing that. You said you don't go out often. Is that because of him? Do you need to tell him if you make any plans? This is not a healthy relationship.

[Asker]

No but every time i go out he asks me who I’m going out with and where am i going

[BlueIsForNightmares]

Yeah, that's not a good thing. Is it conversationally like a, "Hey, just out of curiosity. . ." or more demanding?

[Asker]

Curiosity

[BlueIsForNightmares]

Oh, well that's no big deal, he might just be making conversation.

[BlueEyedKittens]

It sounds to me like he may be a little insecure and feels like he may lose you to someone else. As long as he isn't getting forcefully jealous, its okay. You just need to reassure him that he's the guy for you and that you were thinking about him the whole time you were with your friends

[Asker]

I mean he didn’t technically say i was hanging out with guys he did say friends.. I don't know

[BlueEyedKittens]

Were you hanging out with guys or your girlfriends?

[Asker]

I don’t even have guy friends lol so idea what he’s talking about i have theee friends that are all females

[BlueEyedKittens]

Okay lol well you were hanging out with girls. there's nothing wrong with that. It seems like he's just insecure that you might find someone else. So you just have to let him know thats not the case.

[Asker]

Ohokay , but I’m saying he didn’t mention me finding someone else he just said “you must have found a new friend” does that mean male

[BlueEyedKittens]

Yeah, thats what it sounds like

[deraz24]

You have to nip that in the bud now anyone's phone could die at anytime that doesn't make you crazy and he's definitely overreacting and needs to chill

[Asker]

I tried talking to him and he said well we need to talk about where you were etc and why you were lazy and didn’t charge your phone

[deraz24]

And act the same way with him and tell him you do need to talk and to calm down bc he should trust you, just bc you been together for a yr is no time to act weird an possessive, and if that's how things are gna be from now then you don't know ab it. Phones die its nothing to get reprimanded over especially by your boyfriend

[Asker]

Thankyou

[deraz24]

Your welcome hope everything goes well

[Asker]

I hope so too

[deraz24]

Give me an update when you can

[ravedave]

Dude seems pretty insecure. If that's how he's gonna react all the time, that's not a good sign at all.

[Asker]

I know i tried talking to him and he said well if your phone was dead you should’ve charged it you were being lazy

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/tloiNx6zRZU

[Asker]

I can’t understand a word you’re saying

[es20490446e]

I said he was expecting you to answer that fast only because you usually do.

I only answer twice a day, and that's never surprising to people.

[Asker]

Ohokay so he was upset because I’m i didn't answer fast

[es20490446e]

He was just overthinking.

[Asker]

Ohokay

[Cmasterson]

you posted this before, honestly like I said before he's over reacting.

[Latinomexchef]

It happens so what

[Asker]

What happens