I want to but then I am a little confused and dont know what to do with this guy,?

[Anonymous]

Im a 46yr old single virgin woman. Im fairly attractive. In all my years I have never ever had a boyfriend, dated casually or seriously anyone, never been really asked out or hang out with guys from time to time. The reason why I had never dated or had a boyfriend cause guys never had approached me before in any kind of scenario. In my 20`s 30`s or early 40`s I never had crushes on me, dates or boyfriend like I said. I do not know if it was my problem and I was unapproachable or guys really never saw me interesting enough to even ask me for even grab a cup of coffee.

I may had ran into my life guys I found in my life that were handsome and good looking and would like to meet but they were always unapproachable, either they were alreayd with girlfriend (even if they were single), partners etc. Or I may ran into guys that I never found attractive enough for me to get toknow them bette, so they were just friends periods.

Just three years ago at my 44 years of age, I met a guy that for me, it changes things. This guy is the super best friend of a male cousin. I met him during a family trip as this guy know some relatives, including my brother they are kind of friends. The guy currently is 44 im 46. For some reason in taht trip I hit it off right away with the guy and I felt very attracted to him, and it seems the guy hit it off as well or contact each other often to get to know this guy much better, there are things I still do not know of the guy. What I do know is the guy enjoys being single and does not like to be tied down in relationships. In the past 3 years we only had been on 2 dates together but in each date we ended up making out We had seen each other in other 4 times but not like dates though as we were surrounded by other people. Since we are adults in our mid age years, people will expect that at this age men and a woman if they date they have sex as we are not kids anymore.

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I admitted to this guy I was a virgin just last October he thought I was not and go he told me he did not mind I was a virgin but since a bit before the second date he alreayd wanted to get laid it seems he was very attracted to me. I know the guy does not want to get married in his future but I told him I was not planning to be married eitehr in my future.
With other guys that probably I had met in my life not even as friends I dont feel what I feel particularly with this guy.

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This guy had waken up desires in me that I never thought I had and probably the reasonb he wants to get laid. With this guy I even talked about sexual things that I had never spoken not even with my female friends. Now probably this guy only wants to have sex with me and taht is all so now Im confused. I mean I enjoy kissing him and he grabbing my butt LOL!! but Im afraid of the sex and the outcome if I wil decide to do it. Some may say enjoy life you are 46 but then I dont want to feel used

[ohshee]

Maybe it's more in the light of your not sure what you want to do with yourself I think it's very cool it's special that you have waited this long you have more strength than I ever could but I can tell you that no matter what happens you're going to feel as if you're being used because it's going to be your first time and everybody's first time they're upset of themselves for not waiting for the person they're going to marry so I think it's on what you want to do with yourself and what your feelings are about that do you think you could do it knowing that the guy doesn't want to be tied down or is not ready to be settled down so I asked you could you handle it if it was just a one-night stand

[Asker]

Yes he only wants sex and he told me this thing had been since way back since we met 3 years ago and 2 dates withonly making out.

[Asker]

I never plan to get married either noto $$$ or mentally ready for that. But going out with a guy that I know from time to time I think it may had been good.

[Asker]

I mean if this guy plans to have sex with me onlhy one time and nothing more to see me anymore. The problema here is that this guy is the very very best friend of my male cousin so his name could be mention or even see him again by my cousin when I see my cousin in family get togethers.. I even invited this guy to my family new years get togetehr and he even thank me and my brother for inviting him. He even is a friend of my brother. so why he believes that ok we have sex and I dont want to hear form you anymore.

[SomeGuy965]

Ask him out! Talk to him. Don't be clingy but talk to him. Keep the chatter going. See what happens.

[Asker]

Read the rest of my post so you understand better

[Asker]

I dont like to pursue the guy much because he does not like girls who are after him beaue he is not looking for a serious relationship

[SomeGuy965]

Don't feel used. You're using him too... I did read the entire thing.

[SomeGuy965]

Are you looking for a serious relationship? If so then he's not your guy. If you are just wanting to have some fun then go for it. He's a perfect candidate

[Asker]

Why am I using him too?

[SomeGuy965]

I meant if you're using him for a fuck. Not sure what your intentions are. But if you both agree to fuck, with no strings attached, you are both using each other, but because you both know that, it's ok.

[Asker]

I mean at my age I dont think I want to get married or much less kids. Women at my age bearing kids anyway is too risky. But not wanting to get married does not mean I dont want like to hang out with the guy from time to time. I want to see him occasionally and is that relationship then?

[SomeGuy965]

That's perfect! I was thinking the same thing. Talk to him. Tell him what you just told me. Communicate with him. Then you both know where each other stands. Take it from there. He don't want to get married. He's into you. So have fun!

[Asker]

so have fun just by getting laid with him and that is all? He is not looking for a girlfriend or a friend

[SomeGuy965]

He'll say that, but I think you'll have a friend. It won't hurt to try. Have sex. Do NOT fall for him. Do not be clingy. Just enjoy the sex. Even if it's short lived. If he loses interest after a while, go on adultfriendfinder. com or something. Put EXACTLY what you want in your profile, spend the $25 or whatever for a month. See if you can find what you are after.

[Asker]

How can I not be clingy when im attracted to him?

[SomeGuy965]

It takes practice. Especially for someone like you. But you can do it.

[Asker]

Give me some pointers as Im new to all of this

[SomeGuy965]

When you feel the urge to get emotional, fight it with everything you got. It is overwhelming. I'm not going to sugar coat it. You'll feel like you're in love. You ARE NOT! I can't stress this enough! Just enjoy the time with him. Enjoy the sex. But if he senses you are falling for him, he'll disappear into thin air! Don't let that happen! Just go with the flow.

[Asker]

How can I go with the flow and enjoy the moment

[Asker]

How can he sense im falling for him=

[SomeGuy965]

The only way to know is to just do it. Take the plunge. If t's been FAR too long. We can sense it if a woman is falling for us. The same way a woman just knows things that she doesn't know

[Asker]

The thing is ilike this guy but he only wants to have sex with me for over 3 years we have met. He told me he does not need a friend or a girlfriend at this moment but sexually he wants to ahve sex with me Physically he finds me attractive the reason for the sex I asume. Im a virgin and he knows it. We had been on 2 dates in the past sincer I met him 3 years ago and edn up only making out but in his midn sex had always been on it since he met me 3 years ago. Im all new at this Im a bag of nervous when this happen as I dotn know what to expect from him and I dont want to dissapoint. The downsize is im very attracted to him but I know between us there never be anything else. Is ther a way like he can change his mind on the way that he strictly believes he is not looking for a girlfriend or a friend but is like for him being in in a relationship means being serious and he is not into that. Alaso how can I convince him he needs to wear a condom. in our lat date he told me he does not like it cause

[Asker]

in oru last date togehter he told me it does not feel the same, but im afraid of unwanted pregnancies at our ages especially when he is not even into being with a girlfriend or anything. Im mean he turns me on a lot but I dotn want him to act like he is using me well he is in some way but I dont want to feel like being used even if he turns me on.

[Asker]

Do you think that the condom issue should be mentioned while we are having dinner. Cause he told me we will first have dinner then "dessert" (sex)

[SomeGuy965]

First off. Get birth control. If you are interested in a real relationship, leave this guy alone. Go to match. com. Be thorough in your profile.

[SomeGuy965]

Yes. Mention the condom. Do not get pregnant

[SomeGuy965]

You said you don't want marriage. Why you want serious relationship then?

[Asker]

in our last date he said he knows how to not get a lady pregnant but never mentioned me the method he be using but Im not sure how he can pull that off cause for me the pull out method does not work. As im a virgin I never feel the need to be under any birth control method and Im still are not on that cause Im nto sexually active or never been before so for me the easy way is for him to use a condom.

[Asker]

I mean financially and emotionally I m not ready for marriage

[SomeGuy965]

Yes. But condoms break. I break them a lot. Get on birth control ASAP

[SomeGuy965]

Don't do pull out method. Precum is extremely potent

[Asker]

at 46 years old where i live the morning pill is not sold. he knows Im a virgin and taking pills are risky for blood clots and is nto that im going to have my tubes tied one day and then have sex one week later. The easy way posible for now is for him to use a condom, easy to buy and available everywhere

[SomeGuy965]

Tell him that. Also not to fuck you hard from behind. That will break the condom