FWB falling for me? could he be?

[Anonymous]

is it possible? before we use to text sexy, dirty msgs. now it's all mushy stuff. what's going on here? is he falling for me?

[missymoo]

Its possible. Its also possible that he has become so used to having you around and sleeping with only you (im assuming its exclusive?), that he has slowly just began to treat you like a girlfriend, because your everything to him that a girlfriend is, a friend and an intimate partner. He may not have even noticed his behavior is changing, it may have happened so gradually that he hasn't even noticed. But the thing you have to realize is that he got into a FWB relationship because he didn't want to have commitment, even if he has feelings for you, that may not change.

You kind of have a couple of options that I can think of.

Firstly, you could just not worry bout his feelings, and just enjoy the affection you receive from him without questioning the reasons behind it. Why do you need to know if he likes you? You're already acting like you're in a relationship, why do you need to have the 'boyfriend/girlfriend' label. It just complicates things. Also, he may not want the commitment, or you trying to get him to commit, after all if he wanted a girlfriend he wouldn't be in a FWB relationship.

Second option is to ask him. But you kinda risk scaring him off when he thinks you're trying to get more out of him, other option is he could have feeling for you and want to commit to you in a relationship. Depends on whether you're happy to just go with the flow, or whether you want to make things progress toward a relationship.

Overall, I think its possible for him to have feelings for you, but if you call him out on it, it could scare him away. Good luck

[Asker]

U make so much sense. but the thing is, he's the one who wants to know what I'm really feeling towards me. just this morning, he sent me an email saying he loves everything about me and it makes him feel good about himself knowing that I enjoy being with him more than anything...

[Trihill]

if he starts acting like a stable boyfriend, then chances are he's fallen off the fence to a side, and it's probably not FWB

[Asker]

Is this being a stable boyfriend - wants to see me all the time, gets worried when I don't reply to his msgs, when we alone, calls me baby and doesn't rush to sex/no sex just wanna kiss and cuddle and compliments me, he tells me he misses me and I make him feel so good all the time. he makes it a point he has to talk to me in person once a day and even when things got bad in the past month because I stopped talking to him, he did his best to make me come back to him no sex at all involved.

[Trihill]

In a manner of speaking it's stable, but the rubber band effect is evident with the up/down moments...as long as you can stay together without breaking up then things are stable

[Asker]

Yea but these signs say he is falling for me right?

[Trihill]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Probably.

[Asker]

Please explain why is that your answer. thanks. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Because when you gave him all those dirty texts he saw how you were into doing naughty things without being interested in a relationship. That drives guys crazy and now he wants you.