My boyfriend never wants to take pictures with me, should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend never wants to take pictures with me. If i want a nice picture to show friends when we're doing something, he's never happy and its often when he's not looking. He's not ashamed to be with me though because we're facebook official and all of our friends know but his ex still wants him back. Should i be worried?

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he used to take pictures with me all the time when we first started dating for the first three months but for the last seven, he has refused to take pictures with me. he will take pictures of me but doesn't want to be in pictures with me, even if we are with friends. He also hasn't made any new friends recently and he only wants to stay indoors and not socialise. Maybe he's depressed?

[Jackieboi]

Maybe he doesn't like to take pictures in general because he doesn't know where theyll end up through your social media. Or maybe he doesn't like taking pictures for social construct. Someone mentioned in another question here on gag that these days we have to specify that pictures are taken "for us" as a couple rather than for social media construct. You sound like one of those who love to show off your "success" on social media, if you are i can personally say being with you would be an absolute nightmare, but other guys are different so no worries. As to his ex, the fact that you know she wants him back means he told you which is a small good thing. But that she wants him back can also quickly turn quite nasty, so id be weary and definitely not invest any feelings which aren't expendable towards him at least until it was more clarified why she's even still in his life/what kind of relationship they have between them now. Point is the picture thing isn't neccessarily correlated with his ex though it can be. Just test him, isn't that what you guys love doing

[Jackieboi]

Update: well that changes a lot. Maybe he is, it seems more complex than i originally thought, did try actually talking to him? Ask him what he thinks of the future

[DanielOfTheNorth]

He is probably just not a picture taking kinda guy. I hate taking pictures. I don't mind them as much now, but still... Wait, how often are you trying to take pictures with him? Multiple times a day? A few times a week? Couple times a month? If you are constantly taking a lot of photos and maybe sharing to much with everyone on social media, maybe he doesn't like that. I hate being in the spotlight and especially hate being broadcasted for all to see. Especially random people on Instagram/Snapchat/Facebook. He wants your private life with him, to stay private

[dragonfly6516]

I'm really not sure on this one. Either something happened to hurt his self esteem, or her doesn't want someone seeing him in pictures with you. Just because you're "Facebook official" doesn't mean that you're completely unavailable. Maybe he wants the ex to think there's "trouble in Paradise" to see if she expressed interest in him. He might want her back, but he might not be willing to risk losing you if he can't have her, which is completely selfish.

How long were they broken up before y'all got tougher, and how did they end?

[Asker]

he dumped her. they were broken up just about two months when we got together. they were long distance and he was supposed to travel abroad but he ended up staying. I know they went on a holiday together shortly before they broke up too so they did see eachother before they broke up.

[Mombie]

I hated getting my picture taken when I had really low self esteem.. Maybe it could be that

[Asker]

possibly. After he broke up with his ex, she still contacts him occasionally. we got together a few months after they broke up but they were still in contact kind of. she said something that i think was hurtful and he deleted all his social media, when she contacts though, he's really more involved in our relationship more. Maybe it has something to do with her but he should be happy to be seen with me.

[Desconhecida]

Nah. Maybe he just dont like selfies or pictures planned. Try have your picture taken by someone else during some event.

[mysticghost]

There are some guys that just don't like to be in photos. In most cases, they don't like how they look... What they see in a photo is not as good as the image they have in their minds of themselves. How many pictures have you seen him take with other guys or women? Does he even have selfies on his phone. If the answer is very few, then it is most likely that his doesn't like his pictures, and it has nothing to do with who he is with. If he has a lot of selfies or there are many pictures with him and others, then he is hiding your relationship from someone else.

[LifeEqualsLove]

He definitely sounds camera shy.

I would say something like this:

"Babe, I know you're not a fan of taking pictures, but it would really mean a lot to me if we could have one picture together where we're both happy."

Hopefully by saying that he'll understand the importance that it has for you guys are able to take a pic!

[Yalfoosh]

I'd say yes. But don't make it about the pictures, you have a bigger probelm if you know his ex wants him back. I can tell you that if they didn't end it on bad terms, at least from his side, his feelings can return completely in a matter of weeks. Ask him about how he feels. If he cannot guarantee that he has no doubts about you two as a couple, you should break it off before you get hurt. If it comes to the point of hurting, I can guarantee you you won't be the same after that.

[Dause]

If your trying to force him to take pictures like the one you attached onto this... That's kinda awkward/weird so I could understand him not wanting to. If it is just on occasion and actually normal 'human' photos, I think most guys would be okay with it. Or if you are doing it or asking like ALL the time, he might just be annoyed with it.

[BrittBratt2416]

I don't know, my boyfriend and I don't care to much about pictures cause we're both not photogenic people. But if its a nice picture of the two of you that you want to yourself, and he still doesn't want to take them then I would question him why. Ask him is he shy pictures or is there someone he doesn't want seeing them, like his ex girlfriend that wants him back for example.

[KingsCup]

If he's not a picture person, then It's understandable he doesn't want pictures.. in general.

I highly dislike photos too for some reason. I don't know how I should look at the lens bc it always ends w me having glazed/cold eyes lmao.

You can probably just ask him why.

[KingsCup]

Yeah it can be stress. Photos shouldn’t be the focus of the relationship. If he’s stressed, make that your focus. Comfort him and show him you support him, this isn’t about what you want, it’s about you two together.

[TheSikuu]

Have you asked him why?
Cause asking him why would be a great first step.

Possible reasons: he thinks he's ugly and doesn't wanna be in pics in general.
Doesn't care if friends know what you're up to or thinks its silly to share those things.
Likes to "live in the moment".
Has a secret family in malibu.

[TheSikuu]

Yeah he might be depressed. Or this is the real him and he only took the pics at first cause he just wanted you to like him.

[stonerbaby]

My boyfriend does the same thing he refuses to take pictures with me and he still has pictures of him and his ex on Facebook we aren’t Facebook official and he only had pictures with her on it. I talked to him about it and he got really upset. But you’re boyfriend could be insecure. Try telling him how handsome and attractive he is to you that might help.

[Pizza_lover159]

Dump him.

[infantry70]

Sounds like a deeper issue he may be going through. I can only speak from experience, which has taught me that communication is a huge part of any relationship. I would talk to him and express your concerns. To answer your immediate question. I think you should be worried. If not for your relationship, definitely for his well being.

[loveisbeautiful]

No, because not everybody likes their picture taken nor does everybody want to document every part of their life and share it with the world. He probably just doesn't like taking pictures.

[Elaine_17]

Be very worried. Someone who isn't willing to take pictures with you is either insecure (which I'm sure he's not if he has many pictures of himself) or he isn't fully committed into the relationship.

[SomePunk]

I dont like pictures of myself if I dont feel like I'm at my best. It just really bothers me. To me having depression I feel like he could have been elated enough the first while to overcome it but as things grew into a rut old habits come back... That's what would happen to me at least

[Larry_Gill]

There can be two resons for this one is that he afraid of something like his parents and he follows there lead possible that hus parents don't use fb that's why he is official there but not that open in real life other one is that u should watch the way he acts if he is aggressive while taking picture then ya u should be worried

[Icarus554]

He doesn't like to get his picture taken which I respect since I also don't like to be taken pictures unless its for a special ocassion. For me, I feel like I look like a dingus when I smile or I don't think it is necessary to take a picture and would like to live at the moment (prob why my insta has a small number of images)

[Kenney86]

Yeah that's a little red flag in other words he wants to keep you under cover like private and not letting anybody know so he's not proud of you and the thought of maybe moving on

[Chrisjon]

Yes. A should be more than happy to take pics with you. Share moments with you. Anything less maybe a sign of his own personal issue. He needs to be as invested as you are. Ask. Communicate. if he is unwilling to talk about it or work on it. leave him

[Icarus554]

Are u suggesting to dunp the guy because he doesn't to take pictures of himself nor talk about it? Kinda seems extreme

[Chrisjon]

I suggest she finds out why. And talk with him about it. If she is worried about ex, communicate her concerns. If he refuses to talk about it then she should either drop it or leave him. Communication is important in any relationship

[Icarus554]

Its still too extreme to drop him if he just doesn't wanna talk about it. That's his businesses and he prob does not feel comfortable to talk about it.

[Chrisjon]

I respect your opinion but why be in a relationship if you are not willing to communicate. Stay single if it sounds too extreme to talk about uncomfortable things

[Anonymous]

Its hard to say without knowing the situation and the man better than is really possible on here.
My instinct is that he is camera shy.
Does he have many other photos of himself?

[Opinion Owner]

Regarding the update.

Yeah, alright, maybe he is but frankly you aren't going to find the answers to these questions here talking to us, we cannot know, we dont know.
All we can do is make the same sort of guesses that you already able to make on your own.
You know, maybe you should look at yourself before looking at him, you have a problem with your relationship, clearly something is the matter but instead of talking to him about it you are trying to talk to me/us about it. You say he refuses to take pictures now but he did to start with, thats a little vague.
Because I dont know anything about you either.
Maybe he doesn't want to have his picture taken anymore is because you are a snapchat nutjob who keeps posing pictures of him on the internet with cat whatever things on his face.
You can explain these events any way you want to, you can make any of the characters in this story good or bad, easily.

[WhiteHawk]

Maybe you're asking him for a picture all the time and he got annoyed... there are a lot of possibilities what could be wrong. If you have a problem you should ask him directly.

[purplevicky118]

He clearly doesn't like taking photos? I don't like taking photos either, like don't force him to do something he doesn't want to lmao