My boyfriend never wants to take pictures with me, should I be worried?

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My boyfriend never wants to take pictures with me. If i want a nice picture to show friends when we're doing something, he's never happy and its often when he's not looking. He's not ashamed to be with me though because we're facebook official and all of our friends know but his ex still wants him back. Should i be worried?

Jackieboi · Accepted Answer

Maybe he doesn't like to take pictures in general because he doesn't know where theyll end up through your social media. Or maybe he doesn't like taking pictures for social construct. Someone mentioned in another question here on gag that these days we have to specify that pictures are taken "for us" as a couple rather than for social media construct. You sound like one of those who love to show off your "success" on social media, if you are i can personally say being with you would be an absolute nightmare, but other guys are different so no worries. As to his ex, the fact that you know she wants him back means he told you which is a small good thing. But that she wants him back can also quickly turn quite nasty, so id be weary and definitely not invest any feelings which aren't expendable towards him at least until it was more clarified why she's even still in his life/what kind of relationship they have between them now. Point is the picture thing isn't neccessarily correlated with his ex though it can be. Just test him, isn't that what you guys love doing

DanielOfTheNorth · Accepted Answer

He is probably just not a picture taking kinda guy. I hate taking pictures. I don't mind them as much now, but still... Wait, how often are you trying to take pictures with him? Multiple times a day? A few times a week? Couple times a month? If you are constantly taking a lot of photos and maybe sharing to much with everyone on social media, maybe he doesn't like that. I hate being in the spotlight and especially hate being broadcasted for all to see. Especially random people on Instagram/Snapchat/Facebook. He wants your private life with him, to stay private

dragonfly6516 · Accepted Answer

I'm really not sure on this one. Either something happened to hurt his self esteem, or her doesn't want someone seeing him in pictures with you. Just because you're "Facebook official" doesn't mean that you're completely unavailable. Maybe he wants the ex to think there's "trouble in Paradise" to see if she expressed interest in him. He might want her back, but he might not be willing to risk losing you if he can't have her, which is completely selfish.

How long were they broken up before y'all got tougher, and how did they end?

Mombie · Accepted Answer

I hated getting my picture taken when I had really low self esteem.. Maybe it could be that

Desconhecida · Answer

Nah. Maybe he just dont like selfies or pictures planned. Try have your picture taken by someone else during some event.

mysticghost · Answer

There are some guys that just don't like to be in photos. In most cases, they don't like how they look... What they see in a photo is not as good as the image they have in their minds of themselves. How many pictures have you seen him take with other guys or women? Does he even have selfies on his phone. If the answer is very few, then it is most likely that his doesn't like his pictures, and it has nothing to do with who he is with. If he has a lot of selfies or there are many pictures with him and others, then he is hiding your relationship from someone else.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

He definitely sounds camera shy.

I would say something like this:

"Babe, I know you're not a fan of taking pictures, but it would really mean a lot to me if we could have one picture together where we're both happy."

Hopefully by saying that he'll understand the importance that it has for you guys are able to take a pic!

Yalfoosh · Answer

I'd say yes. But don't make it about the pictures, you have a bigger probelm if you know his ex wants him back. I can tell you that if they didn't end it on bad terms, at least from his side, his feelings can return completely in a matter of weeks. Ask him about how he feels. If he cannot guarantee that he has no doubts about you two as a couple, you should break it off before you get hurt. If it comes to the point of hurting, I can guarantee you you won't be the same after that.

Dause · Answer

If your trying to force him to take pictures like the one you attached onto this... That's kinda awkward/weird so I could understand him not wanting to. If it is just on occasion and actually normal 'human' photos, I think most guys would be okay with it. Or if you are doing it or asking like ALL the time, he might just be annoyed with it.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

I don't know, my boyfriend and I don't care to much about pictures cause we're both not photogenic people. But if its a nice picture of the two of you that you want to yourself, and he still doesn't want to take them then I would question him why. Ask him is he shy pictures or is there someone he doesn't want seeing them, like his ex girlfriend that wants him back for example.

KingsCup · Answer

If he's not a picture person, then It's understandable he doesn't want pictures.. in general.

I highly dislike photos too for some reason. I don't know how I should look at the lens bc it always ends w me having glazed/cold eyes lmao.

You can probably just ask him why.

TheSikuu · Answer

Have you asked him why?
Cause asking him why would be a great first step.

Possible reasons: he thinks he's ugly and doesn't wanna be in pics in general.
Doesn't care if friends know what you're up to or thinks its silly to share those things.
Likes to "live in the moment".
Has a secret family in malibu.

stonerbaby · Answer

My boyfriend does the same thing he refuses to take pictures with me and he still has pictures of him and his ex on Facebook we aren’t Facebook official and he only had pictures with her on it. I talked to him about it and he got really upset. But you’re boyfriend could be insecure. Try telling him how handsome and attractive he is to you that might help.

infantry70 · Answer

Sounds like a deeper issue he may be going through. I can only speak from experience, which has taught me that communication is a huge part of any relationship. I would talk to him and express your concerns. To answer your immediate question. I think you should be worried. If not for your relationship, definitely for his well being.

loveisbeautiful · Answer

No, because not everybody likes their picture taken nor does everybody want to document every part of their life and share it with the world. He probably just doesn't like taking pictures.

Elaine_17 · Answer

Be very worried. Someone who isn't willing to take pictures with you is either insecure (which I'm sure he's not if he has many pictures of himself) or he isn't fully committed into the relationship.

SomePunk · Answer

I dont like pictures of myself if I dont feel like I'm at my best. It just really bothers me. To me having depression I feel like he could have been elated enough the first while to overcome it but as things grew into a rut old habits come back... That's what would happen to me at least

Larry_Gill · Answer

There can be two resons for this one is that he afraid of something like his parents and he follows there lead possible that hus parents don't use fb that's why he is official there but not that open in real life other one is that u should watch the way he acts if he is aggressive while taking picture then ya u should be worried

Kenney86 · Answer

Yeah that's a little red flag in other words he wants to keep you under cover like private and not letting anybody know so he's not proud of you and the thought of maybe moving on

Chrisjon · Answer

Yes. A should be more than happy to take pics with you. Share moments with you. Anything less maybe a sign of his own personal issue. He needs to be as invested as you are. Ask. Communicate. if he is unwilling to talk about it or work on it. leave him

Anonymous · Answer

Its hard to say without knowing the situation and the man better than is really possible on here. My instinct is that he is camera shy. Does he have many other photos of himself?

WhiteHawk · Answer

Maybe you're asking him for a picture all the time and he got annoyed... there are a lot of possibilities what could be wrong. If you have a problem you should ask him directly.

purplevicky118 · Answer

He clearly doesn't like taking photos? I don't like taking photos either, like don't force him to do something he doesn't want to lmao

ayeeitsd · Answer

Yes. There is a reason he doesn't want photos with you. Probably because he's feeding bullshit to other girls.

HANAZAWA · Answer

There are people who simply dislike having their pictures taken, nothing personal, it's just their preference. Respect his rights.

yogagirl777 · Answer

Could he be self conscious about taking pictures? Does he only avoid taking pictures with you or does he avoid pictures altogether?

pleasestopthis · Answer

Are you the only person he avoids taking pictures with? If the answer is yes, I would be worried. If he generally doesn't like taking pictures, I wouldn't think much about it.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

He just doesn't want to give other girls the impression he's with someone that's all... he's probably only with you because your dtf... it sounds like your his moped... fun to ride as long as your friends don't catch you on it...

hsshannah96 · Answer

He’s worried about his ex seeing the pictures. Give it time.

Sij92 · Answer

Probably should. He may be just wasting your time and using you

Anonymous · Answer

It's pretty strange to be honest. Kind of seems he doesn't want people reminded he's taken, definitely makes since considering his ex still wants him. The Facebook official thing is good, but there's a big difference between pictures and words on his profile saying he's taken. HOWEVER, he can just be a somewhat shy and doesn't want his picture posted in general. I would talk to him about it and air out your concern (in a non-aggressive/non-confrontational manner)

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't like to get his picture taken which I respect since I also don't like to be taken pictures unless its for a special ocassion. For me, I feel like I look like a dingus when I smile or I don't think it is necessary to take a picture and would like to live at the moment (prob why my insta has a small number of images)

crazy8000 · Answer

Most likely nothing to worry about. Some doesn't like to live their lives for showing others to see how it is, some of those clearly shows that they don't like it.

naedricka · Answer

No my boy froend always does that he will eventually take some with him

Bandit74 · Answer

Maybe he is self conscious about his appearance and doesn't like having his picture taken.

elite665 · Answer

Honest maybe he is a little self conscious and does not like how he looks in them

spqreid · Answer

He is either insecure or wants his other options open. If his social media is full of happy couple photos then his other options will stay away.

MuhammadAb123 · Answer

Maybe he just hates the camera. Me personally i don't take pics with my girlfriend or with any girl who's dear to me, i feel kinda shy or something like that, even with my girl.

Pink2000 · Answer

I’m the opposite. I don’t like taking pictures with my boyfriend.

fungui · Answer

Sounds like you just suck at taking flattering pictures.

Anonymous · Answer

Kill him in his sleep and throw his body in a river... He should know with who has messed up

TomatoeUnicorn · Answer

Ask him why. If it's his ex, tell him that if he wants you, he needs to make sure the ex knows he isn't going back. It's harsh, but he can't keep her on the afterburner for when shit hits the fan.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone’s saying he may not like pictures of himself but if I was commuted in any relationship I’d still be willing to take a few pictures with my boyfriend or girlfriend

AbdKilani · Answer

Same here  My girlfriend don't takes pics with me, hell she even don't want to exist 😋

Kiels01 · Answer

Nope, I can't be bothered with photos! So I know exactly how he feels

000_000 · Answer

Some people get annoyed with photos.  Is your boyfriend into social media?

baseballnerd24 · Answer

You should really ask him about this. Just say hey I think you're really sexy and I mean want to show everyone how much of a boyfriend I have

Jalaco · Answer

I don't like taking pictures, it may just be his personality. It might not have anything to do with you.

Anonymous · Answer

Dont create a problem If there isn't one. How about you simply ask him about that

Mohamed95 · Answer

maybe he has no self-confidence I don't like to take photos of me or with anyone else because of this reason my self-confidence is zero percent or he sees that he's an ugly just ask him!

TeaFusion · Answer

Just tell him how you feel ( but don’t make him feel bad ); tell him it would feel really great if he’d take pics with you. Hopefully he will oblige or at least tell u why he doesn’t want to...

CT_CD · Answer

Probably doesn't want the girls he's cheating on you with to see them

brezzaxo765 · Answer

definitely it could be a red flag that he still wants his ex

Anonymous · Answer

Used to have the same problem. My boyfriend just didn't like photos of him

Raymond_Reddington · Answer

Dump him and date me. I take picture with u 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😬

Vicorin · Answer

I have having me picture taken so maybe he's the same. My eyes are very sensitive to bright light so the flash tends to leave me blind for awhile.

AdyScorpio · Answer

Depending also of many other things, 30 percents yes, but to have a final conclusion you must study many other signs

exoisback · Answer

Maybe for First you think you're ugly, but it turns out you're just stink.  #Your questions portrayed by spongebob.

Latus · Answer

Maybe he just doesn't like having he's picture taken.

Jimothy_Jimson · Answer

Maybe he just doesn't like to be in pictures. Quit being so neurotic.

Alenoor · Answer

I think I know why. But I should ask first from where he is

iveseenuinmydreams1 · Answer

No he's probably shy and hates pictures unless he's not the nice type

jone12345 · Answer

U have only two. Choices in this case. ..  1st. trust him. Notherwise  Live him.

Lieseeker · Answer

No. You are so stunningly beautiful, there is no hope.

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