I cheated on my girlfriend with an escort. How would I feel about that?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a girl but she is religious and we don't have sex. I cheated on my girlfriend for sex with an escort.

[Ellie-V]

You knew you were entering a relationship where the girl didn’t want to have sex. And so you deliberately cheat on her. You don’t see the problem because you’re just dating...
You should break up with her because you are wasting her time. It’s not fair to her that you’re a selfish human being. You seriously could have chosen to be in a sexual relationship or an open relationship. But instead you deliberately chose to be with a person who you knew you would betray. You chose to be a dirt bag and you don’t even feel sorry for it. Please dump her. You will be doing her a favor.

[Asker]

I have never had a girlfriend in my life till the age of 27 so I am hungry. I couldn't say no to the first girl I would be able to date. And yeah I knew she wouldn't have sex. I live in Turkey, not America.

[Asker]

Slut women can have the advantage of being female but when you are a man, things are very hard. Till 27, I never had a girlfriend. Forgive for my being hungry.

[Ellie-V]

Your geographical location isn’t an excuse to be a cheater. What you’re saying is because you never had a girlfriend, you just took the first offer regardless of her beliefs because you were just gonna chest anyway. You knew you were gonna cheat. And... it is never ok or right to waste someone else’s time just because you felt like being selfish. Break up with her. She will be so much better off without you. And you can just have all the stupid escorts you want or enter an open relationship or ANYTHING that doesn’t involve being a selfish, lying asshole.

[Ellie-V]

Cheat*

[Asker]

Before marriage or your last boyfriend how many different man did you have sex yourself?

It is not like you have only been with one guy in your life, is it?

[Ellie-V]

I’ve actually only been with one man.
Stop using excuses. You can’t justify being a cheater because it’s always a choice. A very selfish one. So DO HER A FAVOR and cut her loose. She will be wonderful without you in her life.

[Asker]

Wasting her time for what? Living is already wasting time since there is no heaven or hell after the death

[Ellie-V]

She could be dating someone who will actually accept her and RESPECT her but instead you’re continuing to allow her to be with you, a deceiving asshole.

[Asker]

Of course I will. Why should I be alone?

[Asker]

Escorts dont count as relationships.

[Asker]

I dont have a relationship with anybody else. So why break up?

[Ellie-V]

Because it’s not fair to her that you are selfish. You should either break up or tell her the truth

[yucychan]

Not sure why you even bother asking for an opinion, because obviously from your replies to others, you don't feel that you did anything wrong nor do you feel any pangs of guilt.
Cheating is wrong, it's outright disrespectful. Doesn't matter if you are married or just dating, its still wrong.
If you really need sex so badly, and your girlfriend can't give it to you, then you should just break up with her in the first place. Then you can go screw as many escorts as you wish. That girl deserves a better guy than you.

[Asker]

How many different men have you slept with until the age of 49?

[Asker]

why should I break up? I also wanna be in a relationship so I won't.

[yucychan]

It's not about how many people you slept with. It's about the fact that cheating is wrong. Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. How would you feel if your girlfriend cheated on you?

[Asker]

We meet each other once a week even though we live in the same city. Obviously, dating is nothing like being married.

[yucychan]

Ok. Would you be fine if she admits to cheating on you? Would you be fine with it if one day, she tells you that the sex is not satisfying for her, and that's why she slept with other guys?
And similarly, she explained to you that since you and her are just boyfriend and girlfriend, not married, its ok for her to cheat.

[Asker]

We don't have sex because we are not married people. Sex is out of question. Lol.

[yucychan]

What are you even talking about?
You said you and your girlfriend don't have sex because both of you are not married yet, but there you go having sex with an escort behind her back. How does it make it ok?
By your logic, then its also perfectly fine if your girlfriend have sex with a male escort behind your back because both of you are not married.

[Asker]

She is religious. I am atheist. I wanted to have sex.

[Asker]

There is no male escort here. Women dont need escorts to have sex anyway.

[Schrodingerscat]

Looking at your replies, you are not guilty but are defending your actions.

It will never change the fact that you're a shitty person. And even more so for defending your actions by making logically flawed arguements

[Asker]

I will not learn the personality from you.

[Schrodingerscat]

Lmao 😂 learn to phrase sentence correctly first.

[Asker]

Not everybody speaks English as a native language. I am from Turkey. Middle East. Most of the people in Turkey don't speak English as good as me. You can be sure of that.

[Schrodingerscat]

Of course, English is not my first language either. But at least make sure that other person understands what you're saying/writing.

[Asker]

It is more than understandable already.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell that girl the truth. That is wrong. What if you got an STD and when you guys finally had sex, she contracted it. Would that fair for her? You need to tell her the truth and let her to decide what to do next. If you don't tell her, that just shows how little you care about her. Go tell her the truth. She was saving herself for you and you did something really bad to her. She deserves to know.

[Asker]

She is doing it for religion, though. I wish I was muslim so that I wouldn't do it not because of her but because of religion.

[Asker]

There are tests for that. If the tests show negative, then no need.

[Cammy137]

That's just a dick move, brother. Why be in a relationship with someone you're clearly not compatible with? Just do both of you a favour and break up with her.

[Asker]

I won't break up. I just wanted sex. Thats all.

However, it is not like I am married or anything.

[Cammy137]

You're in a relationship though. Being married or not is irrelevant. If you are supposed to be exclusive as with someone then you're immoral from breaking that exclusivity. Being married or just in a relationship, it doesn't matter. Still immoral.
If you think there is no problem with it then tell your girlfriend about it.

[Asker]

How about slut women that change partners within months. If dating is a serious event, why change partners within months. Being a man, I dont have that luxury. I have never had sex with anybody other than escorts. Neither did I date anybody before. I am hungry for women cause I didn't experience anything other than having sex with escorts in my life and I am atheist. I wish i was religious so that I wouldn't do it not to go to HELL.

Also what if i die before marriage. There are years for me to get married anybody because I have studying issues at this late age.

[Cammy137]

The key difference being that they end the relationship. You call them sluts but if they aren't cheating then they are more moral than you are, brother! What do you mean that as a man you don't have that luxury? Of course you do! You could end that relationship right now and go and have sex with as many willing partners as you liked. YOU are choosing to be in a sex-less relationship, YOU are choosing to sleep with escorts, YOU are choosing to cheat. You can leave that relationship any time but YOU are choosing not to.
Stop trying to blame the world for your problems when all of them arise from your poor decisions!

[Asker]

Sluts are having the advantage of being female.

[Asker]

For that reason, I call them sluts.

[Asker]

End a relationship for what? For being alone? I am not a girl who can have a boyfriend any time she wants. Escorts are only for sex. They dont count as relationship so I still need a realtionship. Sex is different. Relationship is different actually.

[Cammy137]

You're a moron! So all women are sluts in your eyes? You're right, sex and a relationship are different but they aren't separate. You can't be in a relationship and just sleep with whoever you want. I bet you haven't told your girlfriend about it, have you!

You're a disgusting human being and your fear of being alone isn't a justified reason for staying in a relationship while you cheat on your partner. You're just a pathetic individual! I honestly hope that you get cancer and die!

[Asker]

I did not say all women are sluts.

Slut ones are having the advantange of being female.

[Asker]

I speak English with you, dont I?

[Cammy137]

You said: "Sluts are having the advantage of being female. For that reason, I call them sluts."
All women have the advantage of being female, do they not? So therefore if that is the reason you call them sluts then by your definition all women are sluts.
Listen man, I'm not really interested in discussing this with you further. You have no moral compass and you should stop blaming it on atheism. It's your choice and if you're a piece of shit then that's on you.

[Asker]

I call the sluts ones ''sluts''

[Asker]

Having advantage of being female in relationships or having sex. You know what I meant by that.

[Asker]

Some sluts care about looks ( handsome face, tall height and muscular body) while some may care about money. She can even make money out of a relationship using the man having the advantage of being female.

[Cammy137]

You're just playing the victim and it's pathetic!

[ciaojujuu]

I don't know how you "would" feel about that, but I am guessing a normal person with conscience would feel remorseful. If not now maybe years from now, when he's more mature.

[boggboss]

Don't get with a women that don't want sex if u want sex other then that your a fool for cheating

[Asker]

Why fool? I dont get that part?

[boggboss]

How are u not a fool for cheating what u did was a hurtful and foolish thing u can't justify it

[Asker]

I dont live in America. I live in Turkey. Unless I get married, I cannot have sex other than escorts.

The problem is I am an agnostic. Not Muslim.

[boggboss]

Cheating is still cheating

[boggboss]

Yes it may be rough but like I said no justification can be made for it

[Asker]

Being fool has noting to do with being fool. We are not married or anything. Just dating.

[Asker]

I meant with cheating.

[boggboss]

And u still cheated on someone u are dating if it's not foolish why don't u tell her

[boggboss]

Lol if u think that it's clear why u are able to heat

[Asker]

If you said doing drugs is foolish, that makes sense but creating? Doesn't make.

[boggboss]

Yes it those make sence u have already betrayed your partner in the dating stage and broken her trust she just don't know it yet that is foolish but it don't matter as u are thinking with lust not your brain if the roles where reversed u would think differnt

[Asker]

We are not married. Why does that matter so much?

[boggboss]

So if she cheated on u you would be fine

[Malita55]

you're a bad person. That is all

[Asker]

And slut girls who would change partners within months are not?

[Volvagia]

idfk y dont u tell us how u feel about it

[geminiboner]

You're an idiot

[Asker]

Why idiot?

[geminiboner]

Did you know what you were getting into when you started dating your girlfriend?

[Asker]

Yes.

[geminiboner]

Dating is a prerequisite to possible marriage, did you even try not to fuck the escort?

[Asker]

I just went and had sex.

[geminiboner]

Ok like I said idiot

[geminiboner]

Do you think your girlfriend is going to see it that way if at all.

[Asker]

No. She won't.

[geminiboner]

Ok then