How would you feel if your girlfriend cheated? I don’t feel anything about it 🥺 should I be scared?

[Mia_diane]

I cheated on my boyfriend. He’s so caring and far away. I care about him. But one older man offered me a monthly allowance to have an exclusive relationship with him. Now the older man is saying he loves me. The sex wasn’t great but I don’t even have any feelings about it. I feel no remorse whatsoever. And it scares me. 🥺 I know I’d hurt him by coming clean. But I don’t know why I feel nothing like it’s just another day. And i spoke to my boyfriend after leaving and still felt no remorse. The older man wants me to love him to which I can’t possibly. He told he loved me during sex and there was just silence because i don’t feel the same. I have no feelings for him the sex isn’t great. I just feel so cold. 🥺 I was raped by my ex maybe that forced me to shutdown all emotions because the idea of having no feelings about this scares me. It just feels like just sex. And it’s not like I have a high sex drive I usually feel nothing sexually no pleasure nothing just pain. And I was told you tend to fall in love with someone you have sex with well I feel absolutely nothing and it scares me. I’m 21 the money is good and all but I think I’m ending both relationships he doesn’t need a cheat. And he wants emotions which I can’t give him

[Anonymous]

Hurt people, hurt people, plain and simple, but it doesn’t mean you want to and I think it’s a step in the right direction that you are acknowledging your wrongdoing rather than justify it. Clearly you are still dealing with trauma from ty our ex, and I think that is something you need to address with a professional before you can be in a proper relationship with anyone. I’m sure the distance plays a role in this too, since your boyfriend is so far. Honestly not everyone is mentally or emotionally able to be in an LDR. You know your boyfriend doesn’t deserve being cheated on, so I hope you make the choice to end that relationship especially and focus on your healing and betterment.

[CallmeTheKnight]

I'm not gonna speak on the rape part, but I am gonna go in on you about your affair and reasoning.
Firstly, you made the choice and money was an influence. You'll do anything for money basically, relationship or not.
Secondly, you're now involved with two men by choice. You claim to feel nothing for one, but scared about the other. You're trying your best to play that cold role, but silence is also an answer as well. Yes it will hurt him, but he does not need you as a girlfriend. You're unfaithful just for money.
Thirdly, you need to be single if you're gonna be sleeping around. That's basically what you're doing.

[baserunner611]

I am very sorry for your raped; if the older man is suitable t you is one thing. But if the other is better too then it other thing.
Get out a sheet of paper pro and con of the situation.
Write self a letter, explain you relationship/ or relationships , yelling you think about it

[OlderAndWiser]

It is time to focus on yourself.

[TommyMountainFigure]

When you say you cheated on your boyfriend, does he not know you are a prostitute then?

[Mia_diane]

Sure all cheats are prostitutes any more addition?

[Mia_diane]

It just happened one time I’m not justifying it but that’s not prostitution

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sorry, but being paid to have sex is EXACTLY the definition of prostitution.

[Mia_diane]

🥱 okay still don’t care

[TommyMountainFigure]

Clearly, but I wasn't judging you. I just said it the way i see it. Everyone does what they think is right in this world.

[Staximus]

You need to realize how your actions affect other people's lives. You're emotionally damaged and need to heal from that first before entering into a relationship and emotionally damaging others.

[Anonymous]

So you’re an empty black hole of emotion and you’re incapable of feeling any remorse or empathy.

Well, those traits would serve you well as a prostitute, I guess.

[IJhonnyI]

Look honestly your just a cold hearted... let me not even finish that sentence 🙄😒

[Freyke]

My relationship is still fresh so if it happens, I probably won't be hurt that much. But I will feel betrayed for sure.

[jahaims]

I would lose all feelings for her and stop all communication. You are probably a sociopath or psychopath. Possibly a narcissist or a combination.

[Oldschool1981]

Being cheated on is a major kink of mine. I love it when my SO sleeps with other guys, but that's my little secret.

[ChrisMike1919]

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[aquamarine321]

Seriously aren’t we’re suppose to feel some tire of way

[Sparkie460]

You need to get rid of both guys and concentrate on loving yourself again.

[Anonymous]

A 21yr. Old who's 38. Are you lying about the rape as well?

[Mia_diane]

Why would I

[Mia_diane]

It wasn’t focused on the age part when creating it I’m trying to change it but it’s not working

[Shamalien]

you must confess to your boyfriend. Don’t be an evil witch

[Anonymous]

Simple. Long distance Doesn't work.
Plus you are a prostitute.

[mandyfire98]

I'd feel angry, heart broken, insecure.

[Juxtapose]

I would be disgusted and hateful. Shame on you!

[Hanrej]

I'd be turned on. 😊