Girls why do you compare your man? Guys how do you feel when your girl compares you to another man or an ex?

[Finchie40]

I notice most girl’s do this to their partners she can have a loving caring husband or boyfriend that loves her with all his heart bends over backwards for her and she will find flaws in him and compare him to other guys or other husbands or co workers or exes etc. My ex compared me to other guys her exes her co workers her toxic girlfriends husbands and that’s pretty much why she is my ex , I have never compared my girlfriends to another girl , I find it disrespectful and girls wonder why their men cheat on them or leave them for someone else orLeave them all together, If I was Constantly comparing my girlfriend to other Girls I wouldn’t blame her for cheating on me that’s how I look at it , Why I always say Girl’s are The biggest hypocrites on this planet , They want a guy to wear her Shoes but she can’t wear his , She can never be wrong , She latches On to toxic girlfriends that get off on damaging her relationship with her partner , she is drawn to another guy because of his status or he does Something better then her husband so she spreads her legs for him she will constantly compare her partner to other guys making him feel worthless and not respected and then allow herself to be conquered by some douche bag that is just looking to get off while her husband or boyfriend is labeled a piece of shit because nothing he does is Good enough for her , I have witnessed and experienced this shit so many times , And you girls wonder why guys call you whores. I can’t tell you how many girls I have hooked up with at clubs and bars and had sex with to find out they were Secretly married or engaged to be Married , so why would us
Guys trust girls like you or want To even get married to you? so you can get bored and Compare us and bring misery into our lives? It takes 2 for love to grow not just one selfish one , My exes girlfriends that claimed to be her friend tried hooking up with me behind her back so I am an asshole for telling her to not hang out with them?

[Anonymous]

So because you haven’t done it you think other guys don’t either, or what? Both of my exes and several of the guys I just dated all openly compared my to their ex or other dates.

I have in my mind sometimes compared but never have I said anything about it to anybody. And comparing in itself is not strange. You have a reference and if someone is doing something differently then you’re used to from other people or what you see other people do you notice it. For example I noticed my second ex being able to talk like an actual adult during conflicts rather than resorting to silent treatment for days over shit so minor I didn’t even know what I had done - as my first ex used to do. That’s me ”comparing”. I kept my mouth shut though, even though it was in my second exes favor. This is just an example.

[Finchie40]

Bottom line if someone that claims to love you is comparing you to someone else then they don’t love you , is the way I see it , If I am not good enough for you then go be with the person you think that is great , so Move over so I can find someone that thinks I am great that wants To be by my side. When people compare you to an ex I just laugh and shake my head cuz if your ex was so great they wouldn’t be
Your ex period , I tend to think the ex was the smart one getting away from her

[melanieeeB]

Some healthy small low key comparing is normal but If I start comparing, especially negative patterns... that means something is wrong with this dude and my gut feeling is showing me red flags that I haved learned from previous experiences

[Finchie40]

Nobody should be comparing anybody in a relationship, that is toxic behavior and disrespectful period , If you can’t compliment your partner and be happy that they are with you then you don’t deserve to be with them , When a girl compares me to another guy that I gave my heart to she can have him because I want a girl that compliments me and is happy to be with me , I don’t want a girl that just likes the convenience of
Me , if she doesn’t keep me smiling then she can get the fuck out and move over so I can see the other girl smiling at me that won’t compare me

[melanieeeB]

No I disagree, something small like "Oh he just said something silly like... used to haha" isn't bad comparing. It's just a memory that came up.
But stuff like "Mhmm... used to also insult me in arguments" is a sign of a red flag.

[Finchie40]

Yea but someone that is constantly comparing you a lot is also toxic and disrespectful , people that constantly hold on to the past and act like that was their best time of their life acting like their ex was this amazing person is a red flag because it is so disrespectful, , speaking highly of someone that betrayed you is beyond stupid trying
To make your current partner feel like they aren’t good enough is toxic abuse , it’s manipulative trait , So when I hear someone comparing their partner to someone else , I don’t blame the partner for getting upset and kicking them to the curb because it’s disrespectful period , the person that is comparing is basically saying they only like the convenience of
You , I will keep you around until someone I compared you to swipes me off my feet so you are prepared when that happens so they can say I told
You so trying to play a victim when really they are the piece
Of shit cuz they are basically implying
That you aren’t good enough for them , So I don’t tolerate that kind of behavior , I will tell her what is she waiting for? Go now , don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out , move over so I can see the girl standing behind you smiling at me that doesn’t compare me

[NathanDavis]

never had this experience, so not sure how it would feel...

I know that being compared would not be an issue, that would not faze me but... the fact that I picked and decided to be with someone like this... this would puzzle me

[Guy13]

It's life and it is going to happen. If she looks at me with soft and bouncing eyes, I could care less. That's where the truth rests.

[Finchie40]

Yea man I am starting to really think this is the way it is honestly , it’s like you can’t beat ‘em so you my as well join them , if they want to live like whores then we treat them like whores, even though I know that’s not the right way to live but we can only give what we want to receive , if she wants to treat me like shit I will treat her like shit in return , if she wants to be selfish I will be selfish myself , we can’t force anyone to love us and stay loyal to us we can only treat someone the way we want to be treated if they choose to walk away let them go and realize you deserve someone that wants to stand by your side , if I cheat on a girl that is my answer that I no longer want to be with that girl and I will end it with her immediately , I am not going to look her in the eyes and tell her I love her knowing I just ducked someone else , then I would be living a lie

[Guy13]

Damn, hit that one on the head. I think I just read an opening to MyTake...

[Songomatic]

Nothing to compare if you were in love with tht person genuinely... No other person tickles your fancy

[Anonymous]

Anytime a woman compares me to another man I say, "well go with him if you think he's so great".