Alright it sounds like she's playing the yo-yo game with him. She seems to think she can keep him at exactly the right distance. 'on the back burner' if you will.
However, you should be careful not to emasculate him. He should be able to talk to whoever the hell he wants to. That's the key, he needs to decide if he truly wants her to be a part of his life. If he seems to think she should be allowed to manipulate him, he's dead wrong. A lot of this is something you have to let him deal with, though. Be supportive but don't try to fight his battles. I can see how this can be very frustrating but he needs to be the one to come to grips with the fact that she is trying to keep him in her life as a future option.
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Your issues with her are your issues, not his. Anyone who says "if you love me you'll allow me to dictate who you're friends with." is being childish and manipulative. If she's trying to get back with him and he's riding the fence, that's a different thing entirely, but your description doesn't sound like that's the case.
I can COMPLETELY understand both sides of this, I actually JUST submitted a similar question... except my boyfriend is the one that wants me to cut off My Ex.
I personally don't understand the big deal, in your case I get it ' more so than in mine just because she's talking bad about you which is unacceptable and he shouldn't be OK with that he should demand that she has more respect for you...
not only because he's with you and you are important to him,
but because she's being very childish and reacting poorly to you being a part of his life now and in some way replacing who she was.
which I'm sure is threatening to her and that's why she's reacting by trying to cut you down
Have you told him that she disrespects you? He should stick up for you..I wouldn't put up with it. My boyfriend talks to most of his exs but not like on a regular so it doesn't bother me I suppose..
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