I'm Bi, so yup. But most of my loves know each other. Or intro me to the other that they don't mind sharing with. I also state a disclaimer that I am Bi.
It seems that guys just think that all girls are just good to be someone's side chicks. Some of us have what is called "self-respect".
Boys, not all girls are slaves of your fantasies.
But let me not make a general negative statement about guys. There are also decent fellows that treat girls as equals and would not consider girls just as sex accessories.
... and by the way, this applies the other way around too!
Wouldn't it have just been easier to add the word some before guys? You added it when you differentiated between you and other women. Then you had to defend yourself from looking sexist by reluctantly adding that there's an exception of good guys out there.
Plus you act like making a general negative statement towards guys isn't bad. Wouldn't it have been easier to put it as a negative general statement? Because if you did that it would then imply "not all men", instead your statement the generality is around the negative aspect, not the generality of men.
The overall attitude is prententious but whatever. Its okay if you want to think that men in general or a general types of men think of women as slaves. Id just think that conclusion is preposterous and silly. I don't even know what groups there out there possibly would.
@Spawnface well true she said later that not all guys are like that She also said that women do it too Organizing speech isn't always necessary, the points that are in there are And I think she generalized at first because most guys do it? But I'm sure she would agree that most women are bad these days and only wanna manipulate good guys for personal gain Both sides are just as bad
The way it is organized is bad though. It can be detrimental to herself. As I pointed out the optics make her look sexist. Especially because you might reach the same conclusions as having picked up on the subtleties provided.
Its tough love. Not everyone has to fall and never get up from a conflict. I don't regard her as a hienous person if I may need to say so, I genuinely feel that way. People can easily get absorbed by mantras and dogma. It can be self destructive. These particular examples show bad omens.
@Spawnface You are totally correct, I should not have made a general statement and I do apologize to those who felt I made a general statement about men.
My point is that I disapprove of the term and meaning behind "side dude/side chick" as to me it sounds as someone is considered of lesser value in the eye of whomever says it.
It makes me feel just sufficiently good to be used as a substitute sexual object to fulfill whatever wishes/desires he/she cannot have with his/her regular partner.
Its okay to generalise but it should be treated with caution. If I were to say "Black women can't read", it is true for a miniscule percent of the global population, such as the impoverished areas of Africa. It is insidiary to those that may feel included by the generalization. Words like "some" gives the inferance of differentiation, although "some" is still insidiary to the portions in consideration of the phrase "black women can't read".
So Im not upset by the use of generalization. As I pointed out originally, one can assume by inferance that the reason you made a follow up statement including the notion that not all men are bad is too appear less callous. This could have been easily avoided by iniatially using the word "some", or any word expressing dileniation. The inferance was then reinforced behind the statement regarding a negative general statement, which one word in front of the other changes the meaning immensely. The connoation expressed through the apparent sarcasm is that you do not in truth believe in your following statements but are under duress because of societal implications.
So in actuallity it is because you made a absolutie statement and not a generalized statement. One that may only be an error.
I whole heartedly agree twith the condemnation towards people with side partners. That is less important to state though.
This level of articulation is not something I would whole heartedly condemn but Its useful through your later progression for in the public eye it may leave you in a indefensable position.
Feel free to attack morbidly disgusting and insidious things too. Just he careful because "Justice" is a double bladed sword best held by the handle.
what your obviously not getting is i don't date a guy inless i have known him for a year or more so i know his true colors i am not gonna be some girl running around getting her heat broken because she wasn't careful
No, haven't even had a date. But I don't think it's neccessarily all that hienous. My moral convictions would suggest that it is in almost any respect, however I'm not convinced that the rest of society has much of any good reason to condemn it other than "I don't like it". Like, what is the golden rules being trespassed? I know mine, but do others know theirs? Like, to me its equivical to how a sterotypical heterosexual of old days passed may have treated a homosexual, in that it's mostly preferencial disgust.
Lol I think you misread my post. Umm... super lonely and super desperate? Making quite the assumption there, lol
No I think it might not popularily be bad because the context that differentiates good and bad is ambiguous and meaningless among the droves of the popular mind. What I believe their reasoning boils down to is I dont like it.
Dude, ignore her. She's 15. I think these 15 year olds and 16 year olds read anything longer than a sentence and process it as "desperation" because they are literally to small-minded to think yet.
So. Its fun talking to people. I am not hurt by them. It gives them a chance to have a talk that may be useful in some way. Like I am not showing hostility, maybe she can see that not everyone has to be
@Spawnface : Ah, you're one of the people who think : "Maybe if this person see's that I'm nice they will cool it and-" Bro. Listen, that's what I thought before I came to my new college. You wanna know what I learned? Some people are literally assholes as a reflex. . . And there is no stopping it. . . You can be the coolest, nicest, chilliest mofo, and some girl half your size with twice the ego will still treat you like shit for funsies and KEEP doing it.
She will not see it, she will only use your niceties as a welcome to walk all over you. She's a person who doesn't differentiate kindness and weakness. She's garbage that hasn't grown up yet.
Do. Not. Waste.
Your time on her.
Some people are unhappy and unlucky and cannot be helped.
Is that last bit from a song? looks like it would be.
here's the thing though. You gotta play the game of shooting hundreds of bullets to hit the target... Sorry best analogy I got... Like that BS you point out with people in college or whatever, it certainly happens. It also happens because people are generally stupid and it's a viable strategy to exist under.
Like, people don't have a clue of what the meaning of whatever they do is. I mean the same anti bullying guy is pushing for a bully the bully policy most the time. People see that that type of ignorance works as a way to conduct themselves day by day. It works because its incredibly basic and easy to imitate. This method turns into power and every time it is reciprocated it gets stronger. But it has its limits. Genuine raw power is always the determining factor behind the flow of energy. there's forces out there with greater potential. People never see the calm well mannered black belt kid/MMA fighter as much of a threat and usually shit on them until. that day that boy puts those guys in their rightful place...
That principle applies with character. The greater, stronger force wins and sometimes its just thatvpeople haven't seen the power they should be. But if it takes place and starts rolling it has impact. Its not worth disposing because its that very power thats overlooked that is essential to the wellbeing of everyone. Great men aren't the result of standing down to weaker men.
No. It sounds rather deceiving. Either your in a committed relationship, or you're open to playing the field. Dosen't seem right to me to do both, unless SO knows.
Yes, had one for only one day, it was online texting tho, I admitted it to my girlfriend instantly and I apologized and offered an instant breakup (she shouldn't have refused), plus it made me feel guilty and shitty for the next 4 months Would never do it again and I learned my lesson
what does listening to rap have to do with it? its just music... rihanna also makes songs about murdering men and i still lsten to it.. its just a song
@thot because that’s all the talk about how do you listen to that crap all the time but then you would never lower yourself to doing it Rihanna didn’t make a song about murdering men smh you’re talking about Man Down. That’s not what she meant.
Ps. Back then it was called cheating. Side chick or dude implies all the time in my opinion, Dating more than one person. I think dating is ok as long as everyone sees it for what it is. But if one party sees it as a relationship and the other knows they feel that way, yet still has a side piece, I think that’s cheating.
"Sees it as a relationship" .. it should be verbally made crystal clear if you are in a relationship or not.. if it's not, then you should not assume it is...
We actually got a pretty cool roster in that basket though. Those girls are clueless to how awesome it is in there. They dont understand that the nerds will take over.
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