Girls, have you ever been in a relationship where you were the "side chick," but didn't know you were?

[Anonymous]

I HAVE UNKNOWINGLY BEEN A SIDE CHICK.

I HAVE NOT BEEN AN UNKNOWING SIDE CHICK. AT LEAST, I DON'T THINK I HAVE.

SOMETHING ELSE OR NOT SURE.

[DishLady]

One guy tried but once he mentioned his intention I sent him on his merry way. There's no lack of little chippies out there who would be more than willing to accommodate him.

[Asker]

How old were you when this happened?

What did he say to you? Did he literally ask, "Would you like to be my side chick?"?

[DishLady]

It wasn't too long ago. It was just a gut feeling, like we were chatting all the time and suddenly he froze a moment then kicked things up again but something was just off about it, so I asked about it and he said he was seeing someone and i told him to go keep seeing her... and that it was immoral to keep two women on the hook this way. (Recently he claimed it was more than two women and I shook my head at him bc he's trying to "be friends" with me and I'm not having it.)

[Asker]

Seeing someone casually? Or seeing someone like in a real relationship?

Do you think maybe he liked you more, and wanted to trade up?

[DishLady]

Why would I know if he was seeing the other person casually or seriously? And yes, we both know he would have been "trading up" with me, but I didn't like that he was playing games at told him to take a hike.

[Asker]

And you're 51? It seems like you would be more settled at that age. Like in terms of your personal life.

Was he about your age?

[DishLady]

Yeah, we're the same age.

[DishLady]

You're a kid... don't judge good people just bc they're older.

[Asker]

Was this like on a dating app? Or just a random guy you were talking to online?

[Asker]

Sorry, I wasn't judging. I was just surprised that you're having those same problems a lot of teenagers are having.

I guess I thought dating would be different for people your age. Not sure how.

[Asker]

Do you date a lot?

[easymfbrezzy96]

Yes a few times but it doesn't hurt any less

[PeachyPie93]

Nah I'm the main bitch.. never would feel the need to be a side one since there is plenty of dudes to go around.

[Anonymous]

Anyone with "side pieces" are fucking disgusting and don't deserve to have anyone stand by them.

[Asker]

Have you been a side piece?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope because I've never dated.

[lilBigPotato]

Relationship? No. For more casual stuff, no clue

[Sparklight]

@lilBigPotato this would be my exact answer. No need for me to post twice. Just ditto.

[Anonymous]

It's much less just the byproduct. That is usually a learned acceptance. They enter relationships believing that is what they should be looking for, and repeat the destructive pattern.

[BloodyMary6]

I found out when her husband walked in on us.

[Sparklight]

@BloodyMary6 oh wow! I cannot imagine. How did he explain it. I am sure it was uncomfortable.

[BloodyMary6]

@Sparklight yea could get someone killed.

[Nikki1989]

Yup, never trust what a man tells you. Chances are he is married.

[MemeSupreme]

no but maybe i was and never found out lol

[Mon1to]

nope

[alice55]

never