Have you ever accepted the fact that you are the side guy/girl?

[Finchie40]

I use to be a loyal and devoted guy in committed relationships and I still am if I meet the right girl that chooses me like I choose her that makes me her top priority the same way I make her mine , but unfortunately I had my heart shit on by selfish females’ that wanted their cake and to eat it to. Females’ that I thought loved me like I loved them that back stabbed me and betrayed me by cheating and lying and being selfish etc.. Most females’ I meet these days lie about their relationship status to me and I assume they are being honest with me , so I will end up in bed with them and have a lot of sex. thinking she is being honest with me , but sadly the truth eventually shines and she turns out to be a liar and married or already in a relationship with someone else. Unfortunately this happened to me a handful of times with girls’ to the point I no longer care what her relationship status is , because I am an honest guy and I am not an investigator when i go out having a good time , I assume she is being honest with me the same way I am honest with her , but, when I eventually find out these girls’ are married or in a relationship after the fact , I make it clear to her that this is just sex and nothing more , By encountering these situations as often as I do , I feel like loyalty is a bunch of bullshit I think the rise of social media destroyed the foundations of relationships and a majority of people have become selfish cheating liars. For me to get into a serious relationship with a girl again it’s sadly going to take time and it’s going to take her time to prove to me she isn’t a liar and a cheater. I am an honest guy and I will only be in a relationship with an honest loyal girl , otherwise it’s just sex to me and nothing more. I rather stay single over being lied to and cheated on in a relationship. I also witnessed so many relationships and other couples where cheating occurs from both sexes. It’s sad that our society is this way.

[Crimsyjo]

I'd never be a side girl as in invested with someone and thinking it a relationship. But like you, if it's just sex then it's a bit different. I won't seek or chase or get with anyone who I know is in a relationship. Even casually. But if I'm already in a casual sex relationship with someone and they start seeing someone yet want to carry on with me then well... I'm in this situation and actually I don't mind. Cos I came first. And I only have casual sex with under 25's ish so relationship was never on the cards. Makes me feel good they don't wanna end good sex with me. I used to care but then started thinking why should I miss out? It's them who should be not cheating. If our situations were reverse I'd end our sex. So I'm still a good person. I wouldn't cheat even if in dating stage. If it got to point i start dating and really liking the guy. I'd feel bad to still see my casuals.

[Finchie40]

When I meet a girl I am attracted to , my intentions is to be more and more with each other , I am honest and upfront with every girl I meet that I am interested in in, I am not one for games and drama , but sadly I end up meeting girls’ that are all about games and drama that I assume are being honest with em , This one night I met a beautiful girl that made me melt , her and I hit it off big time and by the end of the night she invited me to come into her place to have a drink , so I went in and we instantly started making out , and then ended up having sex , To me the chemistry and connection and passion was there ,, she was rocking my word by how beautiful she was to my eyes , we kissed for hours and had amazing passionate sex , After we finished. , she looked at the time and said I’m sorry but my boyfriend is going to be home from work soon , I said are
You serious? She said yes I’m sorry I lied to you but I had to have you. I did laugh but at the same time I was like WTF? As I was leaving she said can I see you again , I said when you dump your boyfriend and walked away

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah see that sucks. Cos your looking for more so the deception kicks when you think you found someone with potential. It's the deception that's worse really. I mean.. what a shitty girlfriend. If she just happened to be single and u got together u wd have been the boyfriend one day getting home from work none the wiser.
I wish people were up front and honest. Like sex can just be sex. It's no big deal. But don't pretend u looking for more if you ain't. Makes it so much harder finding a genuine relationship.

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s just the way this crazy society is

[Crimsyjo]

I am surprised by women doing it. Maybe its a stereotype that men are worse? But where I am in UK I'm sure women are less like that. But I don't hang with many women. And my experiences with men from tinder is that many of those are cheaters. Or time wasters lying. So I guess we see the world from opposite ends (you see the women, me the men). How sad that both sides are just as bad as each other.

[Finchie40]

Here in the USA a lot of females’’ do not value traditional relationships, why a lot of men here go for girls’in other countries that were raised to respect and value their partner , Asian Girls’ are Philopeno girls’ are a popular choice for Males here in the US because of that reason

[Anonymous]

I was a side girl for almost a year. I had really low self worth and thought that it was all that I was good for. I cried a lot until one day I just couldn’t take being treated as an option anymore so I left. I would NEVER be okay with being the second option any more.

[Finchie40]

Yea I don’t stay for long

[Oldschool1981]

OK, I was with a woman for 14 years. Around the 7th year, she starts seeing another guy on the side. I was accepting of it, so there was no need for us to break up; she could continue dating him on the side. About a year later, she decides to move in with him but continue to see me on the side. The other guy thought I was out of the picture. Anyway, it stayed like that for a couple years until they broke up, so she just came back to live with me.

[princeofromance]

No, I am not about to be the third wheel in any relationship. I walk away when this happens to me. I met a woman who is stuck on her ex-boyfriend and still lives with him and everything. I did pursue her for about 4 months and simply gave up when I knew there was no chance for our relationship to evolve into something more.

[7Phoenix7]

Good 👍

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, love warrior! 💪 Sounds like you've been through a real emotional rollercoaster, huh? Let me say, loyalty isn't out of style, and you deserve honesty and affection, no doubt about it!

Being the side guy unknowingly can definitely sting, but don't lose hope. Remember, you're not alone in this relationship jungle. When you meet someone new, take it slow, focus on compatibility, and let trust build naturally like a soft melody. So yeah, hold onto your standards and keep that heart open enough for love to sneak in, because it just might surprise you in the best way possible! 🌟❤️

[7Phoenix7]

I was never a side girl. I will never be a side girl.

Period. The End. Lol

[Finchie40]

I never wanted to be one either but in todays’ world it sadly happens more than we like to think it does

[7Phoenix7]

I'm glad i haven't dealt with that. I would hate that...

[Sam1133]

How did you know that you're not a side girl? Lol.

[7Phoenix7]

@Sam1133 because I met him in hs and we got together while I was a senior. We got married 4 years later.

I was never the side girl. There were girls wanting to be his side girl though...

[Sam1133]

Oh ohk if you married him then you won 🏆

[fivebyfour]

I was in a cuck relationship for a while, so sexwise I was the side guy, but the dynamics were that I was her real partner, her other guys she used for sex and then dumped them when she was bored with them,,,

She was a serious size queen, and I'm rather modest in that department,,,

[IslaTheWitch]

I've never been a side person... but I put a lot of time and effort into getting to know people...

[Emmytexrex]

Once I notice such I leave the relationship

[Finchie40]

To me it’s not a relationship to begin with if I find out she has been lying to me , She is just a piece of ass that was a good time for a short time

[Anonymous]

No. I've had women that tried to make me thier side guy and I've always told them get lost. I'd rather just be single than accept that.

[Anonymous]

On the plus side, you're getting plenty of sex 🙂

[Jay-_-]

Never been one and never will be.

[Anonymous]

I've never been in such a situation.

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Sam1133]

How its feel being side girl?

[Agape93]

Doesn't bother me

[Sam1133]

Why? Are you in deep love that you're willing to became side girl? Or sex was so hot that you don't mind tp became side girl?

[Agape93]

More like it's an open relationship so the concept of being the side partner just means they have a second partner, and by nature of an open relationship, you're fine with it.

[Sam1133]

Nice so you don't mind doing hookups?

[Agape93]

I don't do those anymore. Haven't for many years. I have dedicated partners for that.

[Sam1133]

Very nice
So now you're in committed relationship?

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Sam1133]

Would you help me please?
How did you come out from hookups? I'm addicted to hookups and want to stop. But how? 😭

[Agape93]

It's called self control.

[Sam1133]

But how? I bet it's not happened in one day

[Agape93]

I managed it. Occupy your time with something else. Video games, movies, hiking etc.

Hell, get a good fleshlight

[Sam1133]

Yes I tried divert my attention..
Do you have high sex drive?

[Agape93]

Then keep trying. Have discipline.

[Sam1133]

I tried n have disciplined
But my high sex drive push me to do hookups with my friends with benefits..

How to control high sex drive?

[Agape93]

Then your not trying hard enough and don't have discipline.

[Sam1133]

Uff ohk I will try again thank you miss