My boyfriend was a virgin loser before we met. Will that ruin our relationship?

[Anonymous]

His family sheltered him and he wasn’t allowed to talk to girls and now he realizes what he missed out on all these years.

[GFNimbuscloud]

Aaall these years, and he missed out on all the wonderful women out there, ready to call him a "virgin loser," and shit all over his self-esteem. Poor guy. Sounds sooo much better off now.

Think of him like a blank slate. Sex might not be super-satisfying at first, but you can teach him exactly what you're into, and train him exactly how to please you, and since he's such a virgin loser he'll probably be eager to listen and happy to comply.

I don't know how it would have any effect on any other aspect of your relationship whatsoever.

[HereIbe]

You being a total BITCH will ruin your relationship. You call him a "loser"? You're too bitchy and evil to have relationships.

[Asker]

I’m not a bitch I’m very empathetic in real life

[HereIbe]

No, you're an evil bitch who is stuck on herself and lies to herself. If you weren't an evil bitch, you wouldn't have called him a "loser".

[ronaldo75]

You're a cunt who's going to break this guy and make him anxious of women even more. You're EXTREMELY self-centered.

[Asker]

Define evil?

[Asker]

My man got these ideas in his before I met him I’m not adding on to his problems

[Asker]

In his head*

[HereIbe]

And you are HAPPY TO REPEAT IT! You're evil. You're abusive.

[Asker]

I was gonna make a small penis joke but nah

[ronaldo75]

It's always the ugliest girls with the loosest pussies that make small dick jokes.

[HereIbe]

Thank you for proving you're an evil bitch.

[Asker]

@ronaldo75 but I didn’t make one

[Florancerose404]

I fail to understand how him being a virgin will effect your relationship.

[JosyJosy]

You calling him a virgin loser already makes me question the relationship

[Asker]

It’s what he said himself originally

[JosyJosy]

Right.

[Asker]

Basically from those lines maybe not the word loser but something of that extent.

[Kaytiee]

My boyfriend was a virgin and too VERY hidden away because of his parents. The though of calling him a virgin loser would never cross my mind.

Insulting yourself Is one thing, but when another person does it? And you're his girlfriend? Thats terrible.

[Asker]

@Kaytiee I totally disagree with him but that’s what he thinks I can’t change it

[Kaytiee]

You can, i changed my boyfriends view. You for sure shouldn't be inforcing it by calling him that too.

[Asker]

@Kaytiee how old was he when he lost virginity?

[Kaytiee]

He lost it to me, when he was 18.

[Asker]

@Kaytiee lol he was 22 my boyfriend. His parents were Christians and conservative.

[Asker]

Did he’s parents get mad at you for taking the boy’s innocence away?

[Asker]

His**

[Kaytiee]

No, not at all. And he wasn't innocent, whether being bought up by strict parents or not everyone is hormonal some experience hormones from the age of 9.

[Asker]

@Kaytiee my man was super naive and shy just like a little boy that’s why I liked him. I got a bad vibe from his parents but they adopted the idea of him not being a virgin anymore.

[JosyJosy]

was huh

[Asker]

Something is really off with you. Not anymore he really broke out of his shell thanks to me.

[JosyJosy]

Hehe ;)

You say something's off with me, yet you accepted him calling himself a loser and started saying it too, that's off in my eyes

That he came out of his shell though Now that's a good thing, it really is.

[Asker]

If he thinks he was then he was in his mind I’ve tried to make him think differently but he didn’t. What’s wrong with pointing out something negative about someone’s past? I get that it was a very politically correct use of wording because I wasn’t thinking deeply when I wrote this.

[JosyJosy]

That's what I wanted to hear. Yeah I'm a bitch in this regard. Anyway, why do you think it'd ruin your relationship?

[Kaytiee]

Whats wrong? Is you're inforcing his insecurity. I'm not saying lie thats worse, I'm saying find ways to look forward and change that. It was his past, and who cares? He has the potential to be everything and more now its behind him. Sex too young, or whoring around man or woman isn't anything to brag about anyway.

My ex who was a virgin, was the sweetest gentleman I've ever been with. If you're the kind of girl who wants to go out, drink go to pubs and get shitfaced then maybe a guy who has his morals in check isn't for you.

[JosyJosy]

@Kaytiee Yeah hearing this about virgins from a partner is definitely a first

[Asker]

I hate drinking. I didn’t think anything of his virginity until he complained. I don’t think of sexuality as “sleeping around” or “whoring” if used moderately, safely, and consenting. It’s not that black and white. I think a lot of that “moral” idea comes from the misgony, and jealously, of male egos.

[Cammy137]

Sounds like you're really helping the situation by calling him a "virgin loser" when he's now feeling bad and regretting being a "virgin loser".

[Kaytiee]

Yeah thinking the same, she's no better.

[Cammy137]

Its like calling someone a fat pig and then getting annoyed at them because they don't want to eat Dominos with you anymore

[Kaytiee]

Exactly, my boyfriend was a virgin and too VERY hidden away because of his parents. The though of calling him a virgin loser would never cross my mind.

[ronaldo75]

Being a virgin makes someone a loser? If you're such a judgmental bitch this relationship is already doomed. You're going to pick and make comments like that until he explodes then you'll play the victim. I can smell your type from miles away.

[LogicBomber]

If you see him as a virgin loser, your relationship will fail because of your attitude... NOT his status before you.

[PrudentGuy]

Now he realized? Good. There is much hope. Start a life with him. Have fun.

[someginger]

It shouldn't maybe calling him a loser BC he was a virgin isn't going to help anything

[Anonymous]

Hopefully he will find someone supportive and kind that shares a mutual attraction and connection. Are you sure this is you?

[Anonymous]

Try long conversation and actually listen to him , may be he will say things that actually doesn’t make sense but still listen and try to solve

[outside_Toronto]

based on your perception, it's already ruined

[SpunkNugget]

Yes it is over

[Asker]

No it’s not

[SpunkNugget]

Yes it is, he's a virgin loser

[Hassaniscool]

What u mean by loser