Is being too innocent/inexperienced in terms of a relationship a turnoff?

[Anonymous]

I was just wondering if a guy is turned off by a girl who is too innocent? As in, they've never had a boyfriend before, don't know how to flirt or approach people in that type of situation, never even kissed a guy, etc... And if a girl told you they didn't want to have sex till marriage, would that just completely turn you away? Or would you be willing to deal with it to go out with her?

[Rizzle]

I feel like I'd almost rather date a girl who's inexperienced with relationships. For one, they won't compare me to past boyfriends in any way. Two, it proves they probably weren't looking for just any guy to date, they were waiting for one specific guy to catch their full attention.

As far as waiting till marriage for sex.. in all honesty it would be hard to wait multiple years with a girl without SOME sort of sex.. you know at least oral would be great if we're making the sacrifice to wait on full intercourse. I'm a Christian and personally I don't think waiting till marriage for sex is a major thing.. I have multiple friends who are EXTREMELY Christian and they didn't even wait.

[Asker]

Well, I'm Christian... but this guy I like isn't, and he's had past relationships where they had sex and all. And I kind of don't want that, and he knows it. So I was wondering if me being too... prude would just make him give up or not consider me as girlfriend material.

[Rizzle]

It might or it might not. Some guys can respect the decision to wait and can control their sexual desires, and others feel like sex is a big part of relationships that shouldn't be held off till marriage. If all fails just talk to him about it... communication is almost always the best problem solver in relationships that people overlook!

[ThickRick]

No. Every man wants to be the barbarous conqueror, one who pillages the land of his enemies, beheads their King, and swiftly stakes the innocence of his lovely and overprotected princess. Every man wants to sling her on horseback, and ride into the night, away from the bounds of her safety.

[Phoma21]

Some guys would definately care about the waiting til marriage thing but if they aren't willing to wait for you then they aren't worth your time. With being inexperienced, it will give the guy a chance to help you with all those big landmarks in your life like your first kiss. I think guys like the idea of being the first for a girl.

[hopelessvirgin]

As long as their willing to learn how to have fun and fool around that's fine with me. I'm experiened too so it would be fun to figure things out together.

[snackeyg]

Nope. I wouldn't care, but I'm also completely inexperienced. Never even held hands.