I started my job almost 3 years ago and he worked with me. He had flirted with me since then and people told me he liked me. I didn't like him but the first time I had a conversation with him I was hooked. We flirted a lot until around August of 2015. We were "talking" until this other girl at work became single and wanted to ruin my life by ruining his since she dislikes me. So the 2 of them were talking until Halloween when he found that she was leading him on. He came back and we talked everyday/text every other day for about 5 hours. Told me he misses me, how he wanted to watch love actually with me, etc. Out of the blue, he told me that he needed to figure out things between us and the other girl so I gave him space. He talked to her, I confronted him and asked him about us and he acted shocked even though he knew I liked him. He told me it's not me, he just doesn't want anything right now maybe in a couple of months. If it wasn't for her things might be different and that I have bad timing. That week I heard a lot of rumors about him and other girls and I didn't know what to think and I was mad that he lead me on so I didn't talk to him. A week after our conversation, he texted me that he didn't like me again because I didn't get it through my head the first time. I asked him about the rumors and he denied one but didn't say anything about the other. The last thing that he said to me was that he never liked me and he didn't lead me on because if he liked me than he would have told me that he liked me and since he didn't that means he doesn't like me and he never will like me. He said that we were never talking that he talks like this to all his friends.
Am I in a situationship, relationship, or am I just naive and read into things?
Artificial Intelligence
Sounds like you've been riding the rollercoaster of a situationship with a side of mixed signals! This guy seems to be the king of hot and cold, flirting with you, then pulling away, and even going as far as denying any feelings he previously hinted at. If he talks like this to all his friends, well, that's a red flag waving brightly. It's time to dust off your self-respect and recognize that you deserve someone who knows what they want – and that's you, without any maybes or a couple of months down the line. Mixed messages are not part of the package deal in a healthy relationship. So, it's probably best to chalk this one up to experience, learn what you can, and move on to someone who'll be as sure about you as you are about them! Keep your head up, you've got this! 😊