Is there ever true potential for a serious relationship from a situationship?

[Anonymous]

Rekindled with an ex-situationship of a few years a few months ago. I always kind of wanted more but never had the capacity or emotional maturity for it. We started talking again and have cleared some of the air and turns out we both wanted something more serious. Should I go for it?

[MrOracle]

While not impossible, it's very rare. Usually it was a situationship in the first place because the other person didn't want a relationship, and in nearly all cases, that doesn't change.

Women routinely work against their own best interests by getting with guys who they know don't want a relationship when she clearly does. And they do this because they want guys who are more attractive and who are more tolerant of the woman's lower moral standards, plus it teaches these guys that they don't need to make any commitment or have any responsibility and can still get laid.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of relationships. As the gatekeeper of sex, it is your responsibility to choose only "relationship men" (guys who are already looking for a serious relationship) if you expect to have any chance of having a serious relationship. No one will stop you from choosing the hot guys, but we all know those guys won't be committing to anyone, so if you pick those guys and develop feelings, you WILL get hurt and it's your own fault. You are never going to convert a "casual sex" guy into a relationship guy.

[Finchie40]

The chances of it actually working out is very slim chance , sadly to say , mainly because of the resentments you have for each other , just because you both think you cleared the air , that means nothing , that’s just a temporary band aid that will eventually fall off and go back to the way things were before , it’s your life and your choice , so I can’t tell you what to do , I am just giving advice based off of my own personal experiences, once and ex always an ex , people that truly care and value each other don’t walk away from each other period.

[Asker]

That makes sense, in this situation I was the one who walked away when they made efforts to reach out. I like to hope there are no resentments toward me but this is definitely something I want to ask them.

[Finchie40]

That’s something you should ask yourself as well , since you were the one that walked away? Why did you walk away? Really ask yourself that question? As for him, he more than likely has resentments towards you for walking away , so these are some things you should really consider before putting yourself into a commitment with someone , just because you feel you cleared the air , Is that air really cleared , is that air eventually going to come back? Again I am not telling you what to do , I am just giving you some advice.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you say it’s mainly your fault things ended and not because he was bs-ing makes me feel like there’s potential. If you give him another shot, just do your best to assure you’re both in the right frame of mind beforehand. I’d also say to mentally prepare for if it doesn’t work. Sometimes even if all the right cards are in place things still fall apart.

[Asker]

Thanks, I’m trying to be hopeful but wanted feedback to see if it was thinking reasonably. But I will try to also prepare for if things don’t work out.

[Opinion Owner]

No prob! Best way to prepare is just not to set your expectations too high or invest too soon. Make sure proper boundaries are in place and be ready to uphold them if need be. Being hopeful is fine but practicality comes first since this isn’t your first rodeo.

[Anonymous]

It's possible. As with all relationships, it takes two, so if the two of you are in agreement that it's more than what it was, then it can proceed to the next level, but one should not get too invested in trying to make it into something it's not or won't ever be if the other party seems totally disinterested.

[coachTanthony]

Sure it's possible but highly unlikely. Once you sit down and figure out that you're both not compatible or want the same things you all just go back to having sex. Usually how it works.

[laraWM]

Yes if you are comfortable, tell him what you feel

[Nikki1989]

Yes, people get together all the time that way.

[FunkyMonkee]

What's a situationship? There's no such word.

[Asker]

Situationship is a term used to describe a romantic relationship that is not exclusive/not labeled

[FunkyMonkee]

Situation.

[OddBeMe]

Probably not from “rekindled” romances. There were deeper reasons you broke up.

[Billlewis]

There's always the possibility of it.

[sheikalana]

It can happen but it's rare.

[johnnydeeeep]

I don't know should you?

[Anonymous]

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