In general, nobody likes to be ignored but there are always exceptions to the rule.
I am single, not into dating nor am I actively seeking a partner/BF/SO and so the state of being ignored just perfectly suits my needs. I do not have the feeling that I am missing something.
Not only does it allow me to go about my daily activities without interference but also, I don't have to report to any partner when I have something planned or do activities that the partner would normally not enjoy or care to join.
In my condition and situation, it is a blessing to be ignored and the fact that I do not pay much attention to my looks is also helping in that direction. I am far less the target of harassments by others or other catcalls and attempts to be hit on.
This short POV only as a reply to this question about women being attracted by men that ignore them.
In daily life of course, it is not only rude to ignore willfully somebody but also an indicator that the person that ignores another one is uneducated or has a complex of some sort.
No. I consider ignoring someone on purpose a form of manipulation, and I think it's very easy to tell when someone does it on purpose. Knowing the other person is busy makes me miss them. But having the other person read my message without responding, or knowing they've been online and disregarded my message, makes me think they're a disrespectful asshole. Taking other people's time for granted or disregarding someone like that is really low, and I have no interest in talking to people who ignore me on purpose. I'll just start ignoring them right back.
Hahahaha, I like this so much. Because I can not count how many girls out right ignore me. It happened to me so many times that I don't give a fuck any more.
It's okay it's not your fault. I have just developed a healthy attitude. I give any girl three chances to ignore me. After that, They never hear from me. And even when I meet them, I just say hi and stuff but nothing will go on between me and her. It is pointless wasting your energy on such people. It is extremely easy to reply back and say you are busy or you are not opened to having a discussion on a particular topic rather than out right ignore a person.
@Smoothing I think that's a pretty good mindset to have. If they do it continuously, they're clearly not worth your time. Once or twice could be chalked up to being unintentional, but any more than that and it's pretty clear what their intentions are.
I think the question is about faking appearing busy so that she will miss him more. Rather than reading a text and ignoring it, he would see the notification and simply not read it to give the impression he has better things to do.
I've only ignored someone on purpose once and that's because I was at work, and my place of employment has strict rules on cell phone use. But I felt bad about it, for the record.
Well that is fair and it easy intentional. All you need to do in that case explain why you did reply straight away. There is nothing wrong with what you did because it was based on circumstances
@Smoothing I agree. @Robertcw even faking appearing busy is annoying to me. At some point, I'll probably be able to tell that he has been online without reading or responding to my message. I'm so over people playing games, and not just with me, but in general too. It's gotten to the point where I actually crave honesty and open communication more than anything. If I see a text, I respond to it immediately. If I'm missing someone at 3 am, I'll let them know. I'm sick and tired of people pretending to be something they're not, pretending to be out of reach when they aren't, pretending that they're busy when they're doing nothing at home. That shit doesn't turn me on. What turns me on is knowing that someone actually likes me and isn't afraid of responding to my text message 0.2 seconds after I sent it. I love it when people are easy to get ahold of. Just think of all the good conversations you're missing out on with someone because you're "busy" pretending you're doing something else. I'm not expecting 24/7 communication, but I am expecting open and honest communication. I want a guy to be himself when he's talking to me. Doing fake shit to make me miss him is not going to make me miss him, it's just going to prove to me that he's not the type of guy worth missing. And I see through that shit so easily. These people who pretend to be busy are usually the ones who, when you're with them, are checking their phone every 15 minutes. Then it doesn't add up when they don't respond within 2 hours. It's BS and I want none of it.
@Jamie05rhs being genuinely busy is 100% ok. If someone hasn't been online for 2 hours on whatsapp (for instance), I don't expect them to get back to me immediately and I assume they're busy with work or something else. Getting back to them ASAP is what's most important.
Yeah, I’m beginning to realize there are two sides to this.
One side is if you are trying to hookup and the other is if you want to be friends and date each other exclusively. In the latter case, I think faking being busy is a stupid idea.
But when trying to hookup it might be a good idea. If on Tinder or something it helps to not be too available regardless of your real situation. Two different things.
The more attractive the women the more she is used to having men fawn over her. A man that ignores her will cause internal conflicting anxiety in her because she can't understand why this guy is not fawning all over her. Consequently she will feel the need to justify her beauty to him and go out of her way to get him to notice her. Essentially flipping the script and getting the female to chase the man.
This is subconscious female behavior (that is why consciously many females are responding they don't like it - they don't understand the nature of their own behavior and what drives them).
Women are attention whores by their true nature. They are fueled by it. Their egos are wounded by the one that ignores especially if they like him. To relieve their ego pain they will obsess on the one that lacks attention so that they can maintain their stellar attention whore grade.
They behave differently, you just have to feel them out. For the majority of them it’s more so they’re interested in guys that aren’t interested in them… So if you are really confident and comfortable around them and give them some attention like they are a friend but behave like you’re not interested in them, then they seem to want you more. You’re ignoring their flirtations, but not them entirely. That works well especially in groups of girls… They get competitive and try to win you over. Then when you pick one she thinks she special...
Then there’s the girls that like the emotional push and pull. Like you show mild interest but not enough to be sold on her. Then she does something you don’t like and you snub her and push her away and ignore her coldly because she fucked up and you’re willing to walk. Then she freaks and tries really hard to salvage it.
Then there’s the really crazy ones that run away when you show interest and stalk you when you’re over their shit and want nothing to do with them.
According to dating gurus, women are attracted to men who ignore them, because it is an indicator that the man is of much higher status. This is said to set the hypergamy hamster running on its wheel. I think that there is truth to what they say. I gave up on women about the time that I turned 30. I stopped approaching and generally tried to avoid interacting with women. I had experienced one more bitchy rejection too many and one broken heart too many. What happened was that, after a while, women began to approach me to initiate conversations. There have even been straight up sexual propositions.
NO ONE really likes being ignored. No one wants a lover who does that all the time. Some men and women will chase after a person who ignores them or doesn't make time for them. That probably has a lot to do with how one was raised or how previous relationships have played out.
But no. No one really likes a relationship where they are not getting the attention they need.
I think they do. Helped me anyways, when I was way more shy and timid around girls, I would just ignore them. The cuter she was the less she existed to me. Actually got me some action doing this in my life. Girls get curious when a guy isn’t being thirsty lol.
I don't know anybody who likes being ignored =/ Men hate when the opposite sex ignores them so why would we enjoy it? You ignore me then im gonna assume you don't want to talk me anymore, and I don't force anyone to talk to me who doesn't want to talk to me. I will set you free if that's what you want.
I don't think you have to go that far as to ignore the girl. Just don't go out of your way to pay her a boatload of attention. Balance things out like you aren't crushing on the girl like crazy and it will tend to help in my experience. Just treat her like a normal person, almost like a guy minus maybe some flirting here and there.
Depends who it is, ignoring us, if its a creepy guy in street, yes we'd prefer to be ingored then have them cat calling us or following us around.
If it's are boyfriend or a guy we like we hate it and it really upsets us, women need lots of attention in a relationship as were very insecure and if you ingore us we will ever ingore you back and do a lot better job at it or you'll have to deal with a angry, emotional woman once your alone with her
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Oh fuck yes they do. they will pick the guy that will always tell them “I’m busy” and then they go to their friends and say “OMG Karen I hate him. he never has time for me” *guy sends a text message* suddenly niagara falls creates between her legs and says “omg Karen he said he’s outside” goes to a mediocre date and then comes back has sex and poof he disappears for another two weeks and the cycle starts over.
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Anonymous
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If a guy I like ignores me I will first question why (if we know each other and he suddenly starts to ignore me) and then if he doesn't give any good explanation i'll leave him alone because I will feel upset and hurt and think that if ever wants to talk to me again it's up to him. If it's some weird guy I don't know then yes please ignore me.
Not really but if you did their reaction could be anything she could think you don't want to associate with her, she might think your a rude dude, or she just might be a little too busy to respond even so I'd say the timing could really tell you a lot about someone in the beginning it would feel like you know nothing about the person you encountered but awhile later you begin to learn things about the person
Women like a mysterious guy, especially in the beginning. But there’s a difference between being mysterious and ignoring them. Women dislike a clingy guy, but there is a difference between paying attention to her and acting clingy.
Their thirst for attention has nothing to do with attraction. They want attention from unattractive men as well. Even negative attention. When they dress like public vaginas they prefer attention from an ugly creep instead of none at all.
I've heard this said and I asked this question myself here a few years ago, and I really do not understand the women out there who actually like being ignored or find it to be a turn on. That just feels like some really retarded schoolgirl shit.
Never we think it is derogatory and move on instantly. at least if we have a healthy self esteem or ego or have tirelessly tried and get your neglect ( a guys’) .
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Anonymous
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Not completely ignored, but if you shower her with attention constantly she may not respect you. They might see you as desperate. They like guys who have options and a life.
HELL NO!! That’s ones way to get blocked and I’ll move on to someone who’s actually worth my time and mature enough to communicate like an actual adult. Nobody got time for that SMH
No one likes to be Ignored, women I find like to be the center of attention, men are in second place in women's life's, they say they men are but even when women are here and around I still feel alone,
I don’t like to be ignored, but I also don’t like to be chased.. it’s best to be left a little u sure of where I stand and if I’m on his mind. This makes me try little harder for attention.
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