Do you hate when people call you "babe, hun, sweety, love", etc. that aren't your bf/gf?

[Anonymous]

Do you hate when people call you babe, hun, sweety, love that aren't your bf/gf? Especially whwn you already have a gf/bf. I personally hate when random girls say this. If you call everyone babe then what do you call your significant other, you know? It takes away the meaning of it. It's supposed to be used as a term of endearment. It just makes me mad because I only want my girl to call me that. I was just at the gas station and the stupid lady says "Is that all hunny?"

[arsenal25]

I just had this conversation with my friend yesterday! I absolutely hateeeeeee when guys say hey sweety! I am not your sweety! even if we are just dating, hey sweety OK sweety, I always correct them I have a name don't call me that please. People say I take it too seriously to get annoyed lol but it just really bugs me, b.c. than I am like you call me this already what do you do when I am not around? call other girls same thing? since you use it so lightly. I usually also thought lame guys use it lol but noticed even guys in my graduate school sometimes say it -___-, there is a doctor in my class and he always says the word sweety to me ( I know he flirts too) and ah it kind of makes me annoyed but I can't say anything to him lol will sound rude.

[Asker]

So you would only want a guy to call you those names if you guys were serious for awhile and you really meant something to him and no one else, right? because this is perosnally how I feel. I don't ever want to hear that unless I mean something to you, you know?

[arsenal25]

Yea when we are actually exclusive than I have no problem, and it's been a while than I don't mind him calling me that. I don't use the word "i love you" either, unless it's to my family. Sometimes I'll say love ya to really close friends. The whole OK love you bye, end of any conversation with anyone I never return I don't know why I am just weird like that bc. I mean I love you but I don't "love you love you"? hard to explain.

[Asker]

Yeah, I never say "I love you" unless it's to a girl I truly do love. I don't even say it to my family because well my family is not like that. We're not the huggy, "I love you" type of family. So, it's very rare that I'll say that. But, also I think it has more meaning when I do say it, since those words carry such a strong meaning to me. I also don't like to confuse family love with romantic love. I think there should be different words for both actually to distinguish between the two. When

[Asker]

I think of "love" I think of the romantic love. That's why I don't like anyone saying it to me unless they mean it.

[arsenal25]

lolll we think so much alike :) same I started using love you recently with family its kind of nice lol but usually with my sister and mom I still have a hard time saying it to my dad and brother.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's just how I grew up I guess. It just sort of annoys me because people don't even think about it. They don't even know what they are saying. They just throw those things around so carelessly. Do you think that maybe it's harder to say to your father and your brother because they are males? Hmmm you sound kind of interesting...

[arsenal25]

definitely because they are males, I think that is one of the reasons. My parents were always loving, but didn't show much affection I guess when I grew up. To me love you, and other terms of endearment are only for those who I really care about, I just have a hard time showing affection in general which I have been working on a bit. But if I ever say those words I have to really mean them, if I don't love you I'd just avoid saying it to you period lol and I get mad if people throw around those wor

[arsenal25]

also if a guy says it too early hunny, babe, sweety I lose trust or I am really cautious b.c. if I am those things to you now? so is some other girl, so not special lol

[naturally]

I don't mind it if my girl friends call me that, we call each other darlin, babe, hun, bitch(lol) as nick names and that's OK but I don't like it when my guy friends call me those names, even if they are being totally sincere I feel it's condescending and I hate it.

[Asker]

I don't think it"s condescending at all. They're just terms of endearment, meant for someone special.

[naturally]

Possibly but just not the way I feel.

[MWalsh89]

It only bothers me when it's guys basically the same age as myself and I don't know them...or if it's not in their nature to do it normally and I do know them. To be honest, it's weird from any younger guy(looks/is under 30) that's not my boyfriend or family.

[shacodraco]

actually, yeah it kind of annoys me. I also hate it when people call me buddy. makes me feel like a kid.

[midnightdisaster94]

ur absolutly rite..it does take away from the meaning

[Asker]

Yes, it does.

[KarKingJack]

Hey buddy.

[shacodraco]

excuse you?

[KarKingJack]

I call most people I have affection for Baby or Doll. Never once called the girl I'm in love with either.

[Anonymous]

I've been living in the south for twelve years, and people here do this all the time. I've picked up on it to some degree. It's usually in the form of darlin', or my dear. I guess I have a honey, since we've started calling each other darlin'. I'm trying see how much he'll appreciate baby though. I guess the best way to say it is that I have a lot of darlin's, but only one baby.

I do use them in a derogatory fashion when yelling at other drivers. It's better than cussing, I reckon.

So, no I don't get upset at all. Here even if they use your name, they have a way of making it sound like a pet name. It's in the way they say it, or they'll use it a lot in conversation. I like it and the use of pet names, but then I'm a really friendly, affectionate person.

[milkyway487]

Yeah, I have never had a boyfriend. But I don't enjoy being called that. Depending on the tone of voice coming from the guy, it can make you feel like a piece of meat or something.

Of course old ladies call me that too, but I figure when I am that old I will get the pleasure of annoying teenagers by calling them that, so I should just let them. The funny part is when they start trying to set me up with thier grandsons. lol.

[1-3-2-4]

yes I hate it.. I had to tell this girl to stop because a girl I was interested in was around... now that I told her to stop the other girl is acting all funny with me.. but it's not related because they don't like each other anyways.

[Anonymous]

Nah it doesn't bother me. My boss when he walks past me will go 'excuse me love.' Then another one of my bosses will be like 'babe, put this out front.' It's pretty normal, and one has a wife and the other has a girlfriend of 7 years. I normally don't call a guy babe/baby/love/etc even if they are my boyfriend. I always wanted to though, I just like calling other people 'love,' makes me feel British. :) The only person I call 'babe' or 'baby' is my dog, and he's not even a person haha.

[lala-193]

Im sorry to say but I constantly call people hun, it doesn't matter how old they are I say it to everyone, I don't think about it I just do. it doesn't bother me but I now some people find it really annoying

[sdhaynes89]

It's not about what you say, it's how you say it. You can "love" to play video games, or "love" to shop, but you don't really mean it! Its who's saying it and how they're saying it that counts. People will always have pet names for others, so don't worry about it! Just remember that no matter who calls you that, it's your girl saying it that makes it special :)

[Asker]

I don't think you understnad my point. If you always say "I love this, I love that" it loses it's meaning. I'm one of those people that believe that you should never say the word love unless you are telling someone that you love them and you truly mean it. It means so much more because you don't just throw it around carelessly. "Love" is a strong word. The proper thing to say would be to say "I like video games, I like to shop, etc. Why would you say something that you didn't mean? I don't

[Asker]

...understand that. I only want to hear terms of endearmant from my girl and no one else. When other girls say that and they don't mean it it just loses it's meaning. If I only hear that from her it makes it a lot more special. I know that there are girls that know what I'm talking about because guys say that stuff a lot and don't mean it.

[sdhaynes89]

Yes I know what you mean. For me the problem is my boyfriend says it too much and it makes it not special, which kinda sucks... but I would never complain about that! It would be rude you know!

[question423]

Yes...I hate it so much...one of my friends calls me hunny sometimes and I am older than her...it annoys me...anyways, yeah I kind of get weirded out when guys say sweety or babe, it always makes me think they want sex (Even though the may not)

[kaseykahneno1]

when my friends call me them I don't care. but when strangers call me those names its kinda creepy. lol

[girly1986]

I like to call my significant other with original nicknames, which are born through our inside jokes and are a bit unusual. Honeys and sweeties are for friends.

[bluejayway]

I have no problem with it personally, I call my friends hon...I call my boyfriend honey bunny. I have different terms of endearment for different people.

[miki94]

No I dislike it. If he uses my nickname I don't mind. Or if he makes one that sounds normal out of my name I'm fine with it. Otherwise no.

[ihatework]

i hate when guys call me chief or boss, I'm not concerned with what a girl calls me too much.

[MissRealistic]

Heehee, I have heard guys say that to one another.

[brunettebelle]

YES! WITH THE PASSION! PLUS THESE NAMES AREN'T CUTE THEY ARE PATHETIC!

[helpingjessie]

not if I'm younger than them. if theyre older than me or if they just say that to everyone, its not that bad, I got used to it after a while.

[SimplySiobhan]

Um no, I don't hate it...I actually call a lot of friends hun...they don't seem to be bothered by it either.

[ZenQueen]

no, it doesn't bother me as long as its not meant to be demeaning.

[Anonymous]

i don't like when random people call me babe, and I'm okay with all the other terms if an older person says them to me (i.e. 40 years old and up lol).

[sweet_18]

I don't hate it, but I don't LOVE it either. I'm OK with it though. As long as it's not used excessively.

[DJKlaasJan]

in England we say love a lot so don't be always offended. It depends on the person's culture and where they come from.

[Asker]

"love" has a meaning that should only be used in the proper context.

[DJKlaasJan]

umm it is a proper context, I'm saying that we say "hello love" a lot I don't see why tht needs a vote down

[Asker]

You don't get my point. Why would you call somebody love? Do you know what that word even means? I didn't vote you down.

[MandMandM]

@ DJKlaasJan

Be gentle with him, he probably doesn't know what football is (divided by a common language and all that).

[DJKlaasJan]

@MandMandM ha ha I'm trying to find a way to show him that in different countries, words can be used in different ways.

@QA: yes I know what the word means and I know what you're asking. "Boot" in USA doesn't hve the same meaning in UK. When we call somebody love, its a way of being friendly to people. Sort of like respect, when you bump into someone, you can say "oh, sorry love!' Its not physics really and quite easy to understand. You would hve to be really ignorant to not get this.

[sunshine3442]

I think calling a guy/ girl honey, sweetie isn't a bad thing. Its when your telling people you love them and your not with them that it gets to be a problem

[MandMandM]

Hate is too strong. Not keen on it.

[thelaziestKitty]

Oops, I hope not. I do that.

[echo324908]

Thank god it has never happended to me!

[Chocobo93]

I actually kinda like it.

[Asker]

The only reason I could possibly think of that you would like it is because it makes you feel better about yourself...am I right?

[Chocobo93]

I would say it makes me feel good, but not better about myself. I have a pretty high self esteem, so I don't go around fishing for compliments. I just think of it as something to call someone when you don't feel like using their name (or in my case, you forgot it). My older friend, who's like my mentor, calls me sweetie and I feel nice knowing I'm her sweetie. I've never had a man call me any of the things you mentioned, so it's not like I like the male attention.

[Anonymous]

not at all. why would I hate it?

[Asker]

because they don't mean it.