Girls that call you names? For example ''loser'' but don't mean it?

[james215]

yeah well I was just wondering a lot of girls call me names jokingly obviously and by the way I'm not a loser or ugly ahhaha half the girls that do call me names end up liking me but anyway...girls that do that is it their way of flirting differently :| the name calling is mainly over the internet but yeah girls why exactly do yous do it haha

just wondering cause the majority that do it end up liking me (not sounding up myself but its true.)

[ArtistBboy]

[ Reality Check ] + psychology

- It's bothering you, otherwise you wouldn't be asking about it (The name calling)

- You try to believe highly of yourself, but are having difficulty with the self-esteem part

- You like to impress people (You're trying to blow this off likes it's nothing)

- Name calling, is not "Fun" or "Flirty"

etc

Talk to them just like normal, they are your friends - but when they say something about you being a jerk, don't be a pushover and DO NOT SAY:

"It really hurts my feelings when you say that..."

|OR|

"Jesus! Aren't you a b___h?"

What you do want to do - is to reinforce what works, if they start name calling to get your attention (just like the kid that pokes you physically trying to have you pay attention) - IGNORE them. Don't give them the time of day, if they are excessive and/or abusive with it - then bluntly say "Enough - I like your company, but I won't be belittled for someone elses' entertainment"

Anyone that thinks this is "fun" "flirty" or otherwise, simply finds it fun with a BEST friend, which is different than a relationship. You wouldn't go up to your wife and go "Hoe- get me some milk" (sarcasm)

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[james215]

Nah its not bothering me man haha I wanna know if a girls way of flirting or what :p

nah I don't have trouble with self esteem either

name calling can be flirty and its not bad the way they say it lol

and ohh yeah they don't call me a jerk or anything like that its all joking sorta stuff brah

thanks for the good reply though I get where your comming from but nah its just curiousity

[ArtistBboy]

Ahh sorry the culture didn't really shine through in your OP - if you're fine with it, then it is what it is; though I think you would be better off not putting up with it. Some people will look at you like a pushover and try to boss you around. Anyways man, I'll catch ya later ^_^

[james215]

Haha yeah my bad I know what ya mean by it didn't show

and yeah I get what you mean by the pushover part but nahh people know who I am and I'm far from a push over haha

but yeah thanks for the answer, was real good

[ArtistBboy]

Anytime man, I appreciate your maturity in not exploding like "Hell no it's not like that, blah blah blah!!!" haha - I get that alot.

Anyways man, it's been a pleasure - I'll see you around

[james215]

Haha that's alright you seeem like a cool dude :p

[ArtistBboy]

Thanks man - y tu tambien (and you also)

[james215]

Haha you fluent in spanish , I know it pretty good (half south american) :D

[ArtistBboy]

Claro que si - Solo tuve un poco del espanol en collegio... Pero estoy trabajando para un compania que trata de assister las personas con problemas del mobile (fonos).

Luego - hasta manana wey, necesito hacer trabajo lol~ ArtistBBoy

[james215]

Haha I'm suprised that I understood every word , I can't write in spanish but I understand it for some reason :D

its good that your looking after people ayy

[anniefifthofnovember]

Dont worry about ir. Some of us are too proud or too chicken to tell a guy [specially a friend] "I like you", so [speaking for my self] I tease them are joke around saying "haha, loser" or other kind of stuff that shouldnt be taken seriously, because as far as I'm aware I'm not making the guy uncofortable.

In this case, joke around with them too, but do not cross the line that makes you being different of a gentleman dude to a total douche that makes heavy-not cool jokes.

Well, this is of my point of view haha.

Good luck (:

[Peccavi]

Well it is because - for me anyways - we get nervous, and it's like a reflex kind of thing

- *giggle* " you loser" - we don't mean it, and most of the time we wish we could tell you we like you but we are too prideful,l too scared to do it.

hope this helped in any way

have a nice day

P. =]

[sexybabe123]

Some girls do this to flirt. Or They don't want to tell you they like you when they actually do like you. Like me if I like a guy I call him names but inside I like to him a lot but I like to annoy him. You know what dey sed that's how mommy and daddy started out. N dey have been liking you for a long time.

[james215]

Haha yeah sounds about spot onn thanks for the reply

[Fearless94]

it's somewhat a girls way of flirting

and were trying to make you say something back

if you no there jokeing then that means the girls into u