Do you feel that it is okay to "like" Instagram pictures of hot women/men (nonfriends) while in a relationship? Or is this a nonissue?

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Yes, we all acknowledge that other human beings are attractive. But this seems like a total dick move to "like" them. It seems like an acknowledgement like "Hey, I'd f*** her/him."

TripleAce · Accepted Answer

Ya for sure its totally ok
Its completely a zero issue situation to me

I need her to have her individuality. How will i ever get to know her better if i dont allow her to grow individually as a person. Just look at it as expressing likes, desires, preferences
Its no different than writting it in a journal. However our media content has become so fine tuned to us that its like second nature to use the web to express yourself

But remember no different than writting your thoughts in a journal. Just now we can sort of illustrate it with graphical art on something we call the web with complex methods that help us engage on a more personal deeper level than just writting it in a journal

—> a little drawn out here but I wonder if you see what I mean

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

It's poor taste.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

I think it is childish more than anything else. I have no interest in browing pages of random men, and neither does my boyfriend have a interest in browsing random women, let alone women half naked. I think it shows immaturity more than anything else. I do not have time for nonsense and thank God I have a boyfriend who just cares about cars, engineering stuff, sports and F1. That is the benefit of dating a nerd lol😁

Ellie-V · Accepted Answer

It’s okay if your partner is okay with it. Otherwise, you’re just being an asshole because it’s going out of your way to let others know you are attracted to everyone but your partner. I feel like that is something best kept to yourself. If you like what you see, fine. But there’s no need in drawing attention to yourself about it.

Goodwifie · Answer

Sure it's just a like or just a follow but what concerns me the most is that guys are willing to disregard their partners feelings in favour of a woman who is not going to miss his likes or follow.

Logorithim · Answer

I wouldn't do it, but it is not as big a deal as it's made out to be.

MedievalDestiny · Answer

I honestly don't see why it matters. If you are with someone who you are satisfied with, you wouldn't be looking anyway. You'd be liking her photos. But to make an issue out of it seems in poor taste on the woman's part (i. e. the other half in a relationship with me). I'd think to myself that she should trust me enough to always be there for her. If you think someone is attractive, it's just better to be honest. Maybe instill a "Look, but don't touch" policy with your partner. In the end, your partner will know what you like, so if she finds likes on Instagram, it really shouldn't surprise her, but there's a difference between just liking photos and trying to message people secretly while you are involved. That's far more underhanded and devious.

But people really need to give far less credence to social media. It's the bane of today's society. I feel like I could correctly diagnose some people's behavioral disorders just by having access to their Facebook account. It's really sad the level of importance that Instagram and Snapchat have---the weight that the dating world puts on these--and the acceptance that if your friends don't like someone, trash them, ghost them, block them, they're unimportant...

That's been my experience as of late.

But overall, no, it's not a big deal, and if anything you can use those pictures to know what he likes. In the event that it becomes an escape for something more, then I 'd be worried, but just simply liking pictures is, in my mind, akin to going to the museum and admiring art.

rjroy3 · Answer

Completely okay.

Considering likes aren't broadcasted and you have to proactively look to see what your friends liked. I'm going to say it's on you not to look, rather than on them not to like. Because taking a step back to look at it all it's just silly, but the only one with practical value is the person liking. Liking a photo is input into an algorithm as a way to specialize the explore page to the user.

If I like food, dogs, pretty girls and artwork. My explore page will show me more of those things I like. I don't think partner has any place telling me what my specialized page should look like. It's only for me and the only way for her to be upset would be to go to her friends liked page then look at the photo icons individually to see what I liked.

If me liking something broadcasted to my page that is something else and when Facebook initially did that everyone hated it, because no one wants everything they like to be broadcasted.

AndrewMG · Answer

I worry about what a social media idiot I am, in the sense that I use social media so rarely and when I do it's a tool to meet my friends in person, so I'm no longer on facebook, don't use Instagram etc. Have so many family members arguing pointlessly over stupid stuff that I've decided for foreseeable future if they want to gauge my opinion they can call me/speak to me rather than see if I've hit a tick or a cross next to their opinion/picture. So if a girlfriend/potential girlfriend is ticking away on the like button who am I too argue! lol

InTimoreDei · Answer

It's definitely not acceptable for someone in a relationship to do that. I wouldn't even do that if I was single. I find it SO PATHETIC when guys go on slutty girl pictures and comment stuff like "I love you so much" or "you're so sexy baby". They need to wake up and realize they'll never get a girl like that. There are so many people on there saying the same shite. Do they really think they're so cool making comments like that on girls' selfies?

nycto · Answer

If you know it makes your partner feel insecure or bad in any way and still choose to do it, that's kind of a dick move. You're choosing to drool over a random bimbo's picture rather than respect your partners feelings. If roles were reversed and a woman were making a man insecure by drooling over another "hot" guy, I'm sure some guys can feel insecure at some point because of it. But dear lord, if a woman were to pull that they would be recognized as some "unfaithful hoe" but if men do it, it I perceived as "normal"...

Aethereal · Answer

No, I don't think it's okay. It implies to me that if they had the chance, they would sleep with that person, or leave their current SO for that person". It suggests (if not directly states) that they are settling in their current relationship, only because they can't get someone like that ("grass is greener on the other side" mentality).
It's fine to admire beauty in others, but I see no need whatsoever to react to it, especially if you're in a relationship.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

I don't think it's okay. There isn't a reason for me to peruse any pictures of hot guys but if I'm scrolling, I'm appreciative and then move on. I do think it's disrespectful to your SO to do so (just like some men excuse their rubbernecking behavior when they're with someone. It's an excuse for them to foul).

demigdss2206 · Answer

i personally dont care if its a celebrity, there's less of a chance of anything actually happening in real life. but to people close around you, i think it is disrespectful. i dont like other mens photos and my boyfriend doesn't like other womens photos, but everyone is different and they all have their own boundaries

Anonymous · Answer

I think Instagram and social media is completely destroying women and dating in the sense that these women are getting gassed up with compliments so much, their egos are high enough to be in orbit. No guy can ever measure up because for every compliment you give, there are 100’s of more attractive guys than you, doing the same thing. Women start thinking they can literally have the best of the best, even if they’re like a 6/10. An average guy will get lost in the crowd, every time. And even if you’re one of the better looking guys, you’re still competing with several others to even get noticed.

I believe in a roundabout way it’s making dating infinitely more difficult. Because now, everyone wants the best and can’t measure up.

KaliMe · Answer

My opinion is this is we are all human. I don't care if you're a man or a woman. If you see somebody you're attracted to You'll generally stare at them whether they're walking down the street, in a magazine or in pixels on your phone screen. Do I think it's okay, yes it's okay to look but don't lust and don't touch. Now if it bothers your partner that you do this and I would say no. I would say it's something that you're going to have to work out with your partner.

spartan55 · Answer

I answered 'other' because Instagram is so stupid and phony.

Grobmate · Answer

I don't think it's acceptable to like them if in a loving relationship. Mind you I'm not on social media and have never had an instagram account. But as a general rule I stay away from thots and attention seekers anyway...

hahahmm · Answer

Nope. Most of these “models” are undercover hookers or thots, actively looking for sex.

I mean, it’s okay if your partner thinks it’s great. Like couples who go to strip clubs together or buy hookers together

VaIiant · Answer

I would be uncomfortable. Its not porn- its other women he obviously is attracted to, who he's getting enjoyment simply from seeing them. Disrespectful. Am I not enough?

Titanic1912 · Answer

I don’t know. I remember when a girlfriend won the dare of getting to search her boyfriend’s phone, she saw pictures of “super hot guys” (those were her words) she asked him why and asked if he was gay. I wouldn’t do that nor would I download pictures of super hot girls to my phone because I’m in a relationship with a very attractive girl.

JamesBoradil03 · Answer

i thin its fine to check out other girls while in a relationship, you can look at other fruit in the market just dont touch them (yea douche analogy) and if the girl wants to check others out then why not just as long as there is no physical side to it its fine.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It is a nonissue... I don't even use the thing but regardless. Now, if thise she were to like happen to also be swappung spit with her; well, she's replaceable.

I don't get jealous. I show her the curb. No matter how much she may plead, begs, or tries to gain my sympathy, nothing she can do will stop me from kicking her ass to the curb. That is the consequence. Zero tolerance for bullshit.

Inneedofusername · Answer

Of course it's not. If you're drooling over other people, then that means monogamous relationships aren't for you.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Well which part is the offensive part? The looking or the liking? What is the intent behind the liking? Showing appreciation for the pic that's displayed. I'd say it comes down to the relationship. If it bothers your partner you shouldn't do it. And if you find your partner to be too restrictive then clearly you're with the wrong partner.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'd say it is pretty lame. It's literally giving some attention whore props for showing some skin to oogle over, that is ether going to ask for cash, wants attention or just wants to fuck. Being that dude/chick that falls for it, really looks lame.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Its not ok. If my woman was liking a bunch of photos of shirtless guys I would confront her about it.
I wouldn't do it. Women's self esteem is intimately tied to their image, by liking another womans photos, it makes your woman feel insecure. Women want security.

I am anti-instagram. There is no purpose to it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

hot ones, no. people you kinda know doing their best, maybe ok. definitely can cause security issues. in your case, I woudn't advise doing this (him).

Dark93 · Answer

I think its poor taste, especially in a relationship.
Besides I dont see the point in ever liking a complete stranger's selfies that they clearly posted just to get meaningless likes.
I only like my friends selfies, because they are my friends and seeing them makes me happy, even if it's just a picture.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all , it shows disrespect if u really love and care about your. partner their should be No need to

Cammy137 · Answer

It's completely acceptable, at least within my relationship. It's just a like. You aren't flirting with them, you aren't talking to them, you aren't even opening any possibilities. Someone has put up an attractive picture and you're simply saying, "hey, that is an attractive picture." I see no real problem here.

Piteka5 · Answer

I don't think it would be a super big deal. But let's face it, you shouldn't be doing that in a relationship. It could be a really hot friend, that's OK, but random people just because they look good? It's bad taste. I don't follow any girl there just because she's pretty.

Jjpayne · Answer

girls are attractive, I will not hold it against a girl to like a man with abs I would expect her to not feel the same with other girls in pictures now if its was a dating site or something suggestive on facebook then I think you have a good point

CurvyPryde32 · Answer

I like pictures of hot women all the time and my husband doesn't seem to mind. 😜 He also doesn't ever do this. I' m not sure that I would have a problem with it but I like the respect he shows by avoiding it.

Hamsteroids · Answer

I don’t like it at ALL. The only other men I like/follow are my male friends from high school, celebs, or gay guys. I don’t go out of my way to like/follow hot dudes. I have no interest in it but my boyfriend doesn’t seem to think the same 😑

brokenheartgirl · Answer

Depends how many likes, and how many woman.
Some time we like pics on insta for no reason.
preverts have lots of options other than insta. So i wouldn't take serious.
I would focus only on 'how he treats me' as his partner.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Instagram is for people who like to either tease or hook up. I can't see anyone who is looking for a wholesome and non worldly girl/guy being on it. It is like the bar scene. You won't find a husband or wife there, only bar flies.

Anonymous · Answer

If she’s half naked no it’s not okay for me. But liking a general picture that is not showing too much skin is fine with me.

R4vedave · Answer

Complete non issue unless you have insecurity/jealousy issues OR you know for a fact that this behavior extends beyond just looking at/liking pictures.

Bloodflows15 · Answer

Honestly it’s okay to be a little jealous but always swooping in when someone compliments your partner or likes their photos is a bit... well it feels like you don’t trust them and you’re insecure about the relationship.

Factshurt90 · Answer

Idgaf what he likes as long as it’s legal and tasteful (in my own weird way)😂 I’m visual myself so.. how am I going to get mad he’s liking shit if I am🤷🏾‍♀️?

aannddrreeaa · Answer

There are so many other things to fight about. I like a lot of things when I'm scrolling on Instagram because it catches my attention for 0.3 seconds and I think it's pretty. I don't look into everything like some women do. I would hope that if my boyfriend had issues with something, he'd say it and not be passive aggressive about it.

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't follow any models and I don't even have the desire to "like" any of them.  It has never even come up between us. Instagram isn't part of my life.

Rose54321 · Answer

I like looking at a nice muscluar black man do I can't berate him for doing something similare, as long as he's not talking to her, there's nothing wrong with s bit of eye candy, just don't you h

daydreammarie · Answer

They like a picture they like a picture the reason for liking it can be so many things. Doesn't mean they want to hook up with the person. That's really stupid.

beebella · Answer

If they're pics of celebrities or even just random people, then I don't see anything wrong with it. But if these are people that you actually know or have met in some way, then I think it's kinda sketchy.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

I don't know if its "okay" I don't think its seriously bad but I don't think its particularly good either. As others have said its in poor taste.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It's 'other' to me. I am happy in my present relationship; so I see no reasons to 'appreciate' good looks in others … other than just noticing it - silently.

Dsg1193 · Answer

If they’re famous and you don’t have a chance of seeing them it’s fine. But if they are in close distance or mutual friends/attainable then it can make you wary.

Anonymous · Answer

Disrespectful. If you're happy with your partner's body, why do you need to go through Instagram liking random - and probably photoshopped - images?

Anonymous · Answer

This is s really good question by the way. Define hot pictures? I mean I can see a pic of a girl doing a plain selfie and think she’s hot AF. Overly exposing themselves like swimsuits and bras or posing sexual I would like. Plus they are clearly doing it for attention. I know some people might like someone’s selfie not meaning anything by it. It’s almost a simple compliment

MecheD · Answer

Yes to an extent and no... if you know the person then yes because to me it at least shows that they are living their best life free of bs but no if you don’t know them because than it’s a pure sexual based thought that’s involved

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If i had a Special Lady in my life i couldn't like other Women's pics just not me

admles · Answer

If you are threatened by your partner clicking like on a picture online, you have bigger relationship issues to deal with.

TonyMetal_86 · Answer

Nope it's not okay miss XOXO if i had a girlfriend or wife, 1st of all i won't have time to search or look for girls on the internet, 2nd instead of clicking like on these girls pictures, i prefer to click a kiss on the lips of my girl and hug her very tight to me, 3rd she will be my everything so why would i need to look for someone else and her XOXO will be my fuel 😄

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

Every relationship is different. Wether it is okay or not is not an issue as long as you agree within the relationship.

If you do not agree, there is a problem. A polite and open discussion should ensue and either one or both parties must compromise, or the relationship must end.

RSav4013 · Answer

Yes because trust is important. People will always think others are attractive. To tell someone they're not allowed to think that is unreasonable.

Elliegirl · Answer

I guess it’s ok. It seems harmless. I would kinda wonder why he looking at them though.

Thatsamazing · Answer

... This seems pretty desperate and something only emotionally insecure people actually worry about. I don't care if someone "likes" dear God a photo of someone else.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Yeah, I agree with you. I wouldn’t like another woman’s photo if I was in a relationship just because I think it goes against my personal principle and is disrespectful to the woman I’m with.

ho0ney · Answer

It's ok, just need to be more confident, then you would not care about this kind of stuff

i1T2daty · Answer

If I were fortunate enough to own a Breitling watch I’d still admire a Patek Phillipe.

zeekitten26 · Answer

Im not insecure in my relationship so why become insecure over nonsense.

melanieeeB · Answer

Yeah totally, it's just some damn like on a fucking pic

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