Do you feel that it is okay to "like" Instagram pictures of hot women/men (nonfriends) while in a relationship? Or is this a nonissue?

[StingRayxoxo]

Yes, we all acknowledge that other human beings are attractive. But this seems like a total dick move to "like" them. It seems like an acknowledgement like "Hey, I'd f*** her/him."

Yes, it's okay because...

No, it's not okay...

Other...

[TripleAce]

Ya for sure its totally ok
Its completely a zero issue situation to me

I need her to have her individuality. How will i ever get to know her better if i dont allow her to grow individually as a person. Just look at it as expressing likes, desires, preferences
Its no different than writting it in a journal. However our media content has become so fine tuned to us that its like second nature to use the web to express yourself

But remember no different than writting your thoughts in a journal. Just now we can sort of illustrate it with graphical art on something we call the web with complex methods that help us engage on a more personal deeper level than just writting it in a journal

—> a little drawn out here but I wonder if you see what I mean

[StingRayxoxo]

I understand-- but I'd rather be in sync with my individuality that doesn't involve looking at someone else.
Plus, my self worth can't hold up against the constant acknowledgement of the attractiveness of others. I know that's a "me" problem and not my partner's. But I hope that him knowing how bad it makes me feel is enough to warrant respect of those feelings in some way.

[TripleAce]

I understand what you mean ya
Ok so you’re ok that he does find others attractive, which is bound to happen, you just don’t want to see it or know about it

Something like that?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It's poor taste.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I think it is childish more than anything else. I have no interest in browing pages of random men, and neither does my boyfriend have a interest in browsing random women, let alone women half naked. I think it shows immaturity more than anything else. I do not have time for nonsense and thank God I have a boyfriend who just cares about cars, engineering stuff, sports and F1. That is the benefit of dating a nerd lol😁

[Mamamialetmego]

I love F1, cars and science and i'm not nerd.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Good for you!

[Mamamialetmego]

Is that sarcasm? Lol

[XRabbitHeartX]

Nope😉😁😋🥳

[Mamamialetmego]

Hehe

[Ellie-V]

It’s okay if your partner is okay with it. Otherwise, you’re just being an asshole because it’s going out of your way to let others know you are attracted to everyone but your partner. I feel like that is something best kept to yourself. If you like what you see, fine. But there’s no need in drawing attention to yourself about it.

[Goodwifie]

https://youtu.be/P0oXbI8_SE0

Sure it's just a like or just a follow but what concerns me the most is that guys are willing to disregard their partners feelings in favour of a woman who is not going to miss his likes or follow.

[Goodwifie]

https://youtu.be/5QP8LWxWTlM

[Logorithim]

I wouldn't do it, but it is not as big a deal as it's made out to be.

[MedievalDestiny]

I honestly don't see why it matters. If you are with someone who you are satisfied with, you wouldn't be looking anyway. You'd be liking her photos. But to make an issue out of it seems in poor taste on the woman's part (i. e. the other half in a relationship with me). I'd think to myself that she should trust me enough to always be there for her. If you think someone is attractive, it's just better to be honest. Maybe instill a "Look, but don't touch" policy with your partner. In the end, your partner will know what you like, so if she finds likes on Instagram, it really shouldn't surprise her, but there's a difference between just liking photos and trying to message people secretly while you are involved. That's far more underhanded and devious.

But people really need to give far less credence to social media. It's the bane of today's society. I feel like I could correctly diagnose some people's behavioral disorders just by having access to their Facebook account. It's really sad the level of importance that Instagram and Snapchat have---the weight that the dating world puts on these--and the acceptance that if your friends don't like someone, trash them, ghost them, block them, they're unimportant...

That's been my experience as of late.

But overall, no, it's not a big deal, and if anything you can use those pictures to know what he likes. In the event that it becomes an escape for something more, then I 'd be worried, but just simply liking pictures is, in my mind, akin to going to the museum and admiring art.

[rjroy3]

Completely okay.

Considering likes aren't broadcasted and you have to proactively look to see what your friends liked. I'm going to say it's on you not to look, rather than on them not to like. Because taking a step back to look at it all it's just silly, but the only one with practical value is the person liking. Liking a photo is input into an algorithm as a way to specialize the explore page to the user.

If I like food, dogs, pretty girls and artwork. My explore page will show me more of those things I like. I don't think partner has any place telling me what my specialized page should look like. It's only for me and the only way for her to be upset would be to go to her friends liked page then look at the photo icons individually to see what I liked.

If me liking something broadcasted to my page that is something else and when Facebook initially did that everyone hated it, because no one wants everything they like to be broadcasted.

[AndrewMG]

I worry about what a social media idiot I am, in the sense that I use social media so rarely and when I do it's a tool to meet my friends in person, so I'm no longer on facebook, don't use Instagram etc. Have so many family members arguing pointlessly over stupid stuff that I've decided for foreseeable future if they want to gauge my opinion they can call me/speak to me rather than see if I've hit a tick or a cross next to their opinion/picture. So if a girlfriend/potential girlfriend is ticking away on the like button who am I too argue! lol

[InTimoreDei]

It's definitely not acceptable for someone in a relationship to do that. I wouldn't even do that if I was single. I find it SO PATHETIC when guys go on slutty girl pictures and comment stuff like "I love you so much" or "you're so sexy baby". They need to wake up and realize they'll never get a girl like that. There are so many people on there saying the same shite. Do they really think they're so cool making comments like that on girls' selfies?

[nycto]

If you know it makes your partner feel insecure or bad in any way and still choose to do it, that's kind of a dick move. You're choosing to drool over a random bimbo's picture rather than respect your partners feelings. If roles were reversed and a woman were making a man insecure by drooling over another "hot" guy, I'm sure some guys can feel insecure at some point because of it. But dear lord, if a woman were to pull that they would be recognized as some "unfaithful hoe" but if men do it, it I perceived as "normal"...

[Aethereal]

No, I don't think it's okay. It implies to me that if they had the chance, they would sleep with that person, or leave their current SO for that person". It suggests (if not directly states) that they are settling in their current relationship, only because they can't get someone like that ("grass is greener on the other side" mentality).
It's fine to admire beauty in others, but I see no need whatsoever to react to it, especially if you're in a relationship.

[AuroraRoseat]

I don't think it's okay. There isn't a reason for me to peruse any pictures of hot guys but if I'm scrolling, I'm appreciative and then move on. I do think it's disrespectful to your SO to do so (just like some men excuse their rubbernecking behavior when they're with someone. It's an excuse for them to foul).

[demigdss2206]

i personally dont care if its a celebrity, there's less of a chance of anything actually happening in real life. but to people close around you, i think it is disrespectful. i dont like other mens photos and my boyfriend doesn't like other womens photos, but everyone is different and they all have their own boundaries

[Anonymous]

I think Instagram and social media is completely destroying women and dating in the sense that these women are getting gassed up with compliments so much, their egos are high enough to be in orbit. No guy can ever measure up because for every compliment you give, there are 100’s of more attractive guys than you, doing the same thing. Women start thinking they can literally have the best of the best, even if they’re like a 6/10. An average guy will get lost in the crowd, every time. And even if you’re one of the better looking guys, you’re still competing with several others to even get noticed.

I believe in a roundabout way it’s making dating infinitely more difficult. Because now, everyone wants the best and can’t measure up.

[ReasonCalm]

10000% correct sad times. Add to this girls getting there body's cut open to have bigger lips breasts and ass and I for one hate that.

[KaliMe]

My opinion is this is we are all human. I don't care if you're a man or a woman. If you see somebody you're attracted to You'll generally stare at them whether they're walking down the street, in a magazine or in pixels on your phone screen. Do I think it's okay, yes it's okay to look but don't lust and don't touch. Now if it bothers your partner that you do this and I would say no. I would say it's something that you're going to have to work out with your partner.

[spartan55]

I answered 'other' because Instagram is so stupid and phony.

[StingRayxoxo]

Instagram was just an example of places where people could do this, that's all.

[spartan55]

Sure, I understand... that and Snapchat drive me crazy.

[Grobmate]

I don't think it's acceptable to like them if in a loving relationship. Mind you I'm not on social media and have never had an instagram account. But as a general rule I stay away from thots and attention seekers anyway...

[hahahmm]

Nope. Most of these “models” are undercover hookers or thots, actively looking for sex.

I mean, it’s okay if your partner thinks it’s great. Like couples who go to strip clubs together or buy hookers together

[VaIiant]

I would be uncomfortable. Its not porn- its other women he obviously is attracted to, who he's getting enjoyment simply from seeing them. Disrespectful. Am I not enough?

[Titanic1912]

I don’t know. I remember when a girlfriend won the dare of getting to search her boyfriend’s phone, she saw pictures of “super hot guys” (those were her words) she asked him why and asked if he was gay. I wouldn’t do that nor would I download pictures of super hot girls to my phone because I’m in a relationship with a very attractive girl.

[JamesBoradil03]

i thin its fine to check out other girls while in a relationship, you can look at other fruit in the market just dont touch them (yea douche analogy) and if the girl wants to check others out then why not just as long as there is no physical side to it its fine.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is a nonissue... I don't even use the thing but regardless. Now, if thise she were to like happen to also be swappung spit with her; well, she's replaceable.

I don't get jealous. I show her the curb. No matter how much she may plead, begs, or tries to gain my sympathy, nothing she can do will stop me from kicking her ass to the curb. That is the consequence. Zero tolerance for bullshit.

[Inneedofusername]

Of course it's not. If you're drooling over other people, then that means monogamous relationships aren't for you.