Is it SELFISH for someone to NOT want an open relationship and/or "share" their partner with other people? (Page 2)

[Dchrls78104]

If it's selfish, then I'd be guilty, unrepentant, and not sorry. An "open relationship" is not a relationship, it is a fool's arrangement. A relationship is by nature exclusive; the bodies of both individual are a closed set and belong only to each other.

[QueenTanya]

Nope. I'd want my man all to myself. Why the hell would I want to share?

[Anonymous]

It’s selfish to expect for someone to do something just because you want them to. But, it’s not selfish to want to be in a monogamous relationship nor is it selfish to believe that you are in one. If your partner never specifies that they don’t want a relationship with just you then THEY are the selfish one.

[DorkVader]

It's a matter of knowing yourself. If you wanna be exclusively monogamous, its your preference. Find a partner who agrees. Its selfish for others to have the expectation you're okay with an open relationship when you're not.

[Gottabsavagee]

No it’s the only right. If you love someone truly there is no way you’d want to share your partner or have more partners

[NoEstrogen]

There is no blanket answer to this one. It depends on the nature of the relationship and the individuals involved. Some established couples do share but usually within defined parameters. If it's a friends with benefits arrangement just be sure everyone is clear.

[Hamsteroids]

I could neverrrrr be in an open relationship. Like it’s not even a real relationship. It’s stupid

[Mr_Kapstar]

We are all selfish in a way. If we weren't at least a little bit selfish we wouldn't be alive. But generally, the most important thing is, share your opinion with the other person, if they don't like the idea, move on. An opinion is an opinion. Besides, they're as selfish about keeping you for themselves, as you are selfish for wanting it your way, to have your partner AND at the same time plough other people. It's a matter of perspective.

[SexyAshh]

Its not selfish its just your preference.

some people aren't cut out for open relationships, while others are.

If your partner can't accept whichever decision you have then they are not the partner for you

[Marilynjuana]

I have said no to that before and it just meant I have standards :3

[DanOh2018]

Yes it is a bit selfish, and involves repression of normal human nature. At least in my opinion. Repression leads to negative emotions and behavioral slips.

That said, being traditionally exclusive has a host of advantages. Including risk reduction and the social advantages of marriage.

[goaded]

Not at all, it's just the way you are. Both people have to freely agree to something like that.

[Gstacy1989]

Is it possible to love 2 people at once? Or to find more than 1 person attractive?
I think it is but that doesn’t mean it’s right... I would want my partner all to myself

[MissDawn7961]

why should any one share their man or woman with someone else? be selfish and get your man or woman when you want them and not wait on someone to use them and share them

[markscott]

It depends on what you mean by share. You can share their friendship, humor, intellect, sportsmanship, kindness, etc. But that doesn't mean you have to have any interest in sharing their bodies.

[bandito18]

It’s not selfish at all, that’s just their preference

[Reach500]

I have no intention of ever "sharing" a partner. I don't care if it's selfish, lol

[itsaed_94]

It's not selfish, it's how it is supposed to be, how it's right. "Como Dios manda", say the Spanish.
I'm monogamous and very jealous.

[Dreewskii]

I'm poly but if I'm with some who's mini sacrifice my urges for my partner, that's loyalty

[Lord_Ateag]

Yes, it is selfish. Everyone saying it's not selfish is biased. If someone wants to tie you down to satisfy their own feelings with zero consideration for your desires, it is selfish. Monogamy is selfish.

[H-N-A]

Doesn’t make sense to me 🙄
Either you’re single OR in a relationship.

Don’t make it complicated