Are you bitter towards the opposite gender? & Are you able to get sex and relationships?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends how someone defines bitter. A few girls called me "bitter" at one point just because I said that I didn't know if I would find someone (and especially soon). And it was a time in my life that for a short while, I was kind of resigned and sort of calm about the idea that I might not have anyone (or might not ever get married or I might marry "old".) It was a very short time in my life where I was kind of at peace with it.

I'm not bitter. If I get shot down, I'm still friendly, and I try to treat them just as well as I did before I got shot down. If a woman gives going out on a date a try, it's way more than I expect, so she gets a lot of points for trying. I'm not even nasty to the girls who have been mean to me (and there are so, SO many of those), even if they probably deserve it back. Yeah, it's unfortunate and disappointing that so many girls feel they can be as nasty or rude as they want (in general), when I treat them with kindess and respect, but that's their choice. Que Sera sera. Good luck with that. I move on.

I DO think that there are a lot of problems that guys have to watch out for, especially these days, and I get why a lot of guys would say "screw it" and drop out of the dating pool because there is so many conflicting "rules" about dating. I say I'm almost at that point, but I think I'm too stupid to give it up completely. I have too much hope (or maybe blind faith). But I'm going to keep my head down and try to stay vigilant; if something makes me uncomfortable, not just to ignore my gut because I want to date, even if she's toxic or dangerous.

jss123 · Accepted Answer

I became bitter when almost every woman I dated told me how fantastic and I amazing I am and how well I treat them but left me for the first attractive bad boy that came along. I've been cheated a few times too. My ex wife cheated on me openly. She was abusive and nasty. Dragged out a simple divorce for 4 years because I had the nerve to leave her. Eg. We had a prenuptial agreement. She first denied it existed. Her own lawyer drew it up!! He got me an official copy from the court. When we finally got divorced she blatantly ignored the settlement agreement we signed. Luckily I no longer need to deal with her as we had no kids.

Women aren't any better when it comes to cheating they just pretend they are. They're also mainly interested in how physically attractive a man is how he treats her is mostly irrelevant.

Two of my exes left me for bad boy narcissists. I met one recently and for every little thing she apologises. She was never like that. He drives her car and expects her to get to work and home by herself. She works close to me and they've had to send her for counselling.
She left me without telling me about the bad boy. I found out when she changed her profile photo. Attractiveness isn't everything. I think I have every reason to be bitter. I'm not anymore I've decided to stay single for at least 5 years.

AiahZ · Accepted Answer

I love guys! I've always, um, gotten what I wanted sexually, so I don't feel resentment towards any guys. And five of my favorite people in the whole world are guys--my dad and my four older brothers. But I think I might feel differently if guys treated me the way I've seen some of them treat other girls on campus. And I've seen even MORE women being super cruel to short or chubby guys. At my college there was even a circulating rating system among the girls for incoming freshmen to the grad students. Some girl three years behind me had (irony) her CS major brother create a by-invitation-only file-share of all the "doable" guys on campus. And girls would update the file after they had sex with guys or dated guys. They rated guys FIRST OF ALL on height, then on stuff like face, clothes, earning potential, and other stuff you can imagine on your own. I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure some of the personal info in that circulating file was illegal. I'm serious, if you think guys are the only ones who can be cruel, you're in denial.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say I'm bitter... just wary of trusting men outside of friendship.

When you've been hurt and spited too many times, it does lead to bitterness.

As for am I able to get sex and relationships?
No to both. Not even if I put up a "free and available!" sign! However I'm NOT blaming men for my inability to get sex or a relationship. I refuse to do flings and one night stands, AND I have standards for dating. Making it harder for me to find someone worth my time and effort.

Are you bitter towards the opposite gender? & Are you able to get sex and relationships?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is true that all of the people who have screwed me over in relationships were females, but that is the unavoidable result of being 100% heterosexual. I have not overgeneralized, and I still cherish a good woman. I have not had any problem finding a partner over the past 20 years but I am still looking for The One.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Why be bitter towards the opposite sex? Be bitter towards the person/people who've hurt you, but don't blame the whole gender for the mistakes of others.
Besides, how do you expect to have any kind of relationship with someone if the opposite sex if your carrying all that bitterness around. It's going to spill over into how you treat them and how you treat them. Let go of the bitterness or maybe you should just switch teams if you can't 🤷

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I chose B. I genuinely don't crave sex or relationships, and am not bitter towards the opposite gender.

I have zero problems with guys, in fact I generally find them a lot of fun to be around. I'm able to have sex and relationships, but just don't want them.

sejla · Answer

No not bitter. Each man is different so there is no point being angry at entire gender. I guess I was lucky to have a pretty good dad so I don't have any childhood male bitterness that followed me into adulthood.

ElissaDido · Answer

I'm not bitter towards men and I don't even try to have sex becauseiI'm waiting for marriage.  My bitterness isn't directed towards an entire gender.  But Rather, on specific individuals.

razelove · Answer

Relationships take some work, but being bitter towards women, or men in general is the same as racism. No relationship there will work with that foundation.

Anonymous · Answer

this question reminds me of a quote, statement, that was released on social media by a dating, relationship, attraction coach for guys, men, he said:

"If you’re angry, bitter and secretly hate women, don’t be surprised if you keep getting rejected. Women smell hidden agendas better than men ever could.”

that quote, statement, did piss me off because it reminds me, that girls, women, can have those exact same type of feelings or mindset towards guys, men, but yet there will still be plenty of guys pursuing them or hitting on them, will overlook those negative qualities on her, still be willing to be her boyfriend, but if a guy is like that towards girls, women, he is doomed from the start. Women still sense those feelings or mindset from him miles away no matter how much he tries to hide it or cover it.

When I have felt that way towards girls, women, and i'm sure for many other guys as well, it's not so much that we actually want to cause harm towards women, it's not that we are blaming them for our failures and short-comings, it's more due to envy towards the social advantages that women have over men and resentment of what they expect of us in the dating/relationship game, system, etc.

MrOracle · Answer

No. Despite being of the generation that bore the brunt of the social revolution of the late 60s, I don't resent women. I fully grasp that women have their own struggles and that we men aren't always easy for women to deal with either. Being bitter would just be a waste of energy.

Being bitter would also be counterproductive in getting women and sex. And while I'm far from a Casanova, I can usually find SOME female interest if I try. Full romantic relationships are more difficult to come by, and not as easy to find as I'd like, but I can't really fault women for that either.

SoWhAt249 · Answer

I don't get a lot of sex, and I've only been in two relationships my whole life. I try to, but I'm very introverted and where I live, girls will extremely rarely come up to you. Most often, they guy has to put in most of effort. Being introverted, it's extremely hard for me to approach girls. 40% all the sex I've experienced was while I was drunk because only then I get loose, and most of the rest was in my 2 relationships. But I am bitter towards the opposide hender. Not because I don't get a lot of sex or relationships, but simply because I feel I'm less awkward than when I'm acting normal.

SkipStop · Answer

I've never kissed or dated and I'm 29. I was depressed back in my early college years seeing everyone having sex. Even in the park, which was awkward. I gave up and moved on. Once the metoo movement started I realized that women are much worse than I thought. So now I totally avoid them whenever possible. I wear a spy camera on my shirt in case I get a false accusation attack on me just for asking a female co-worker for the paper documents I needed. Who knows? Maybe asking a work-related question is sexual assault these days. Until things go back to normal I want nothing to do with women.

Jjpayne · Answer

I said this "'I'm unable to get satisfying sex or relationships. I'm bitter towards the opposite gender, and the root of it is because I can't get satisfying sex or relationships" I said this because I honestly struggle with getting a simple meet up at a coffee shop. We both can buy our own coffee and we have a simple conversation. We exchange information if we want to do it again. I don't think it has to be that difficult. It feels like every man needs 5 layers of protection because until you know him he is a rapist and a stalker... which I get and I understand that a girl needs to be careful but at what point does being careful and being fair to men meet? I think chances have to be taken and its fair to give people a shot because, well if we made it this far then we must have been doing something right publicly. I don't know, I think for the dating pool guys get the short end of the stick

Anpu23 · Answer

I suppose that I still have some anger and trust issues involving women. It's hard to be really hurt and not have those issues. I have a wonderful wife, and before her had multiple girlfriends some even simultaneously. And I'm no where near as bad as I was. But my anger had nothing to do with the inability to have sex, though my own sexual desire certainly played into it. I waa very angry at myself for wanting sex, that my desire was a betrayal of myself. And a woman who I found attractive added to that desire... Creating even grater anger I was convinced that love was nothing but an excuse to screw and I wanted nothing to do with that act.

Liston · Answer

No time for bitterness... met many a lovely, patient and genrously helpful in my time. of course had many a raging argument... now i have time to think back and can acknowledge my own selfishness. Women nearly always appeared to be smarter than me and almost certainly more courageous... they were so ok often dumped with the heavy load of rearing the children and having to pay the rent. Any anger now i address to myself as these days affection, understanding and loyalty (and perhaps a little mad sex now and then) if i still have blue tablet or two around the place.

Anonymous · Answer

No and yes.
I've been screwed over by men both men i've dated and just platonic male friends. My best friend was a guy and he completely screwed me over in the end and constantly started arguments just for the sake of stirring the pot (and they say men are less drama...) but no i'm not bitter towards men. I have 2 male friends who are wonderful people, my brother is a great person too. Being a jerk has nothing to do with gender, it's entirely a personality-thing. It's only immature to be hateful towards an entire gender just because a couple people you met were rotten eggs, and bitterness isn't attractive or smart.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually no, I find talking to guys MUCH easier as well as being around them from my experiences

probably is just the area I live in but (for example) when I would see a counsellor for my mental health, I always requested them to be male because whenever I would have female counsellors, it was just a gossip, drama, “girly talk” thing for them vs a time for them to actually listen and help me which is what all the guy counsellors I’ve had have been like

same with old friends, still have guy friends from YEARS ago and they’re amazing to be around but girls... not so much

pajamasam · Answer

Sex? Yes
Friendship? Yes
Relationship? Yes
Bitter toward women? No

Women are just men with slightly different anatomy. The minute you think of them as different is the minute you let your head get in the way of treating them like normal people.

Rocky_Jocky57 · Answer

I jave no reason to be bitter, every guy I see isn't the ones that have hurt me. So, I have no reason to hate on them. Also, I have some amazing men in my life that make the douchebags irrelevant to me. And im able to get sex if i wanted to, but im happy being a virgin.

I feel like guys have a harder time in the sex department than girls do. Most giys wouldn't pass up an opportunity to have sex

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not bitter because I'm missing out, but I am bitter about the reactions people have to those who ask for help in this area.

I feel like women honestly feel like the whole self development thing is for men only. If a man doesn't act or behave, or look the way she wants, he's trash.

It stems from a lot of real oppression that woman have gone through, but if a guy makes a mistake or you're just not compatible it doesn't make the other person trash. As much as women love to parade how their the more mature gender, they act very much on emotion.

lucas262 · Answer

Bitter?
Iv been mgtow since 2015, once I learned the hard truths about male and female nature and the sociology involved I was pissed, then I was depressed, then I accepted it, you cannot hate anyone for their nature because it is just that nature.

What I can hate is a twisted system.

people hate out of ignorance or petty stubbonress, usually an act of pride.

oliverofjones · Answer

I am not bitter at one group. There is enough to go around. Myself for being weird. Other men for making relationships tougher, women for a large list of problems, movies for unrealistic expectations, there are many people to be bitter at. But I refuse to let it consume me and keep trying anyway.

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