Yeah, let me start off by saying that I am confused somehow.I don't know why but I get a very specific and distinct image when a man and a woman got married. There are men out there, who are YouTubers and spend a big amount of time bringing good and entertaining contents to it's viewers. They are men, who are married (at some point they have mentioned "my wife" or "announcement - I am going on honeymoon with my fiance"). And it does seem like they are happily in a relationship/marriage.
Here are some examples:
TheGamingMerchant - This guy got married in the previous year and I noticed no difference in the amount/quality of his content uploaded. He uploads game leaks, secret game update info (not part of patchnotes), Easter eggs, story lores, tips & tricks for Apex Legends. These things occupy him for like 5 hours long. Jayborino - This guy is also married and he uploads how he plays through certain games and mods. A pretty fun guy. He uploads content 1-2 times within 1-2 days, each which can last from 10 minutes to an hour. TheActionLab - This guy has a PhD and does science videos about all sorts of experiments involving physics, chemical reactions & structures, pressure, properties, lights, sounds and so on. He uploads not as much as the other 2 above because he conducts scientific research a lot before uploading it to YT.
And all of them have video recording, cutting, editing and rendering to do and then to upload it on YT. And they aren't even looking tired.
How did they find and get married with the right woman? I thought married women drain away our time and energy and money, so that we can't even do these things 😳😳😳 But for those youtubers that is anything but the case. See, that's what I meant when I said I'm confused.
here's a thought sir, ever think of a woman who appreciates a man with a brain? thats in his head... not his dick? not trying to be rude but there's way to many men who think and act on their dicks thoughts. as a geek myself, i love to see what a mans brain is into. if its nothing but fucking and sex related? no thanks.
and what do these mens wives do? they could be the one behind the camera filming or help discuss next video. they could also be disabled that which allows the men more time as she's off reading a book she loves.
my guy works in IT sohis spare time. he fiddles with building web applications. i can spend my time if he's on a roll bc i find his brain more attractive. we chat on breaks or i throw ideas at him bc im a graphic designer. :) try to see it from both sides.
That's what I'm trying to do. On one youtuber (theActionLab) his wife assisted him during one or two experiments. The other 2 didn't even show their wife as far as I can recall (not that it's a bad thing but we don't know what they're like).
Finding the right woman is as difficult as finding the right man is. Don't compare your life to Youtubers' lives - they're about as fake as they get, it's their job. Would you tell your boss that you're stressed out if he asked you how you were doing in a short conversation? I don't think so. That's why most Youtubers hide their private lives, which is their right after all. That they found wives is due to having a good personality, which most likely also contributed to their Youtube success - however, I've never heard of any of these guys.
I don't fall for these "fake lives" on social media. I don't even have social media. But they tend to keep it private for reasons I fully understand but it does seem, that they are content with their wife. And I wonder how they do that.
Well, one did mention, that he's going on honeymoon with his wife, that he married just some months ago. But the true test results will show after 3-5 years whether they're going to stay together or separate.
Man nennt das 7. Ehejahr doch auch „verflixt“, nicht? It depends on how long they were together before getting married too; if they were dating for like 3+ years, one should factor that in as well. I don’t think getting married changes too much for people who already live together tbh :
I found mine while working the hardest in my life, often over 100 hours/week. There's still free time here and there. Sometimes I'd meet my now-wife immediately after work. She was working too and we'd sometimes just meet in work clothes. There were a few dates where I aborted halfway though. We'd be having dinner and talking and my mind would drift to concerns about the project I was working on, and I told her I'm so sorry and that my mind is so preoccupied with work and that I don't mean to be such poor company and I need to return home to resume working but she's free to stay with me. She understood and accepted graciously. My work output did drop quite a bit though *after* marriage, but not before.
In my case, around the time I met my wife, it was also the first time I was promoted to lead a team. And I wasn't a very good leader initially. I was concerned with everyone and everything, and the type who would try to pick up everyone's slack by doing their work for them. It took some time for me to learn how to delegate and enforce discipline. Over the years though I learned and got a bit lazy. :-D
I met her at a picnic on a Sunday if I recall correctly. I still took a bit of time off on a weekend now and then with friends. I wasn't obliged to work weekends but often did just because I had that tendency at first to try to do everything on my own. It also helped that she was very independent. She wasn't one of those needy types who would doubt whether I cared for her or not if I got lost in my work for an entire week and didn't reply much or see her much during the time. On the contrary it's like she shared similar views as me that even limited time together can be very precious -- quality over quantity.
Deeper into the process though, very often she'd spend the night at my apartment and we'd actually both have work early in the morning at times... so we'd shower, get in our work clothes, and go... then meet again for a late dinner -- sometimes very late like midnight, head back to my apartment, repeat.
The infrastructure might also help. We met and dated in Tokyo and didn't live too far from each other, about 20 mins by subway, a little bit shorter by car. But very often I didn't bother to drive on our dates. It was more convenient and faster to just meet at the train station, head to dinner or something, have some fun, hang out at my place. And the dense nature of Tokyo gave us plenty of distractions and dating ideas when we had more free time than just a quick dinner together to do something without going far.
I think it would have been much more difficult if we lived kind of far away from each other or didn't have so much to do together in the local area. Might have still managed by that would make things a bit more difficult. Aside from not living far away from each other, she finished her work at an office which was just about 5-10 mins from where I lived by train. So it was especially easy to meet her after she finished working if I could find a break during that period.
One last point to keep in mind about YouTubers is that given the remote nature of their work, they might have a lot of freedom over how they schedule their time to work and their free time. So even if they're prolific and very productive in their work, they might be able to adopt a schedule that's very convenient for dating a girl -- like aligning their free time to match hers.
Yikes! Since you mentioned the schedule I must be screwed then because I am working full time AND finishing my bachelors degree - also full time. Money talks and I have no choice but to win it.
Guess it's not my turn to find a woman. Hence I'm an impatient person in every other aspect.
You might be able to reap the rewards of that after you finish the degree. There's no need to rush these things. If you find some spare time it helps to make some connections and socialize and network, make some friends, have some fun whenever you have the tiniest bit of spare time. That can be useful even for most jobs to help get along with teams in ways that can help with promotions. You might meet a very nice girl at some point doing that. I never bothered with things like online dating. I did the best just having fun meeting people when I could, not just potential dating material but friends -- both sexes, various age groups, have fun when I can and interesting conversations. Then along the way I find myself, perhaps, in interesting convo with a girl, she's getting a bit flirty or attentive, seems nice, steer convo to interests and invite her somewhere that fits if I can.
There are no unicorns. All women are like that (AWALT). Today’s loving girl is tomorrow’s spiteful harpie who cheat, cuckold and use the armed force of the state to extort from the man everything that he has and will have ever.
Because these women often have hobbies and interests of their own!. E. g. their wives have a life too. Sometimes, the wives will have their own business and YouTube channel!
It's because they are famous. Now, the true question is can their marriage last? The consequences of marriage is high for these guys; if I were their financial advisor, I would recommend not getting married.
I don't know- I'm still trying to find her. Sometimes I wonder if I missed the boat when I was in my 20s and had really nice girlfriends who probably were the right ones.
You can do that but I'm afraid you'll spend too much time trying to find clues about their wife. TheActionLab's wife assisted him on a few videos during his experiments. The other 2 gamer youtubers aren't showing their wives but they did mention "my wife" during their videos.
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