I got mad at my boyfriend for not replying to my goodnight text message?

[Anonymous]

Okay so my boyfriend is a terrible texter and I knew that from the start and I accepted it. If anyone who doesn't know us would go through our text conversations it would seem like I'm talking to the wall; he often doesn't see the text or leaves me on seen forever, disappears in the middle of conversation, practically 0 affection, etc. etc., but fine! We talked about it and I let it go, but the ONLY thing I begged him to improve when it comes to texting is to at least reply to my goodnight text. That's all! I told him it's important to me, that I can't sleep if I don't see a reply back. I also said that it doesn't matter when he sees it, even if it's the next day I just need a text back. We don't get to see each other often due to opposite work schedules so I think this is a bare minimum effort to make. He agreed and said he'll do it. Well it lasted for about a week and then he started ignoring my goodnight messages again. The first time it happened again, he said his phone was out of battery and he saw it in the morning. I let it go. Then the next night he ignored it again and I didn't say anything (was already semi-mad). But last night was a flip for me, when he ignored it AGAIN. Three nights in a row. He saw the text and didn't bother to reply. For the record, he's still at work at that time, but still he's seen it and it literally takes 5 seconds to write a "goodnight" back! By this point I was really mad and was thinking that he is actually doing it on purpose to torture me, so after an hour I called him and said couple of mean things, I was furies. He started apologizing by saying that was distracted by something and forgot to reply, begged me to not be mad saying how he loves me and stuff. I told him we'll talk when we see each other.
I don't know what to do, I'm even thinking about breakup. If he can't commit to this one tiny little thing then how will he commit to anything more serious? Am I asking for too much? Am I over-reacting?

[Dazed0N0Confused]

If you know he is a bad texter, I don't understand why you're getting so bent out of shape about it. Some people just don't like to text. And if the guy is at work, then he really shouldn't be pulling out his phone anyway. Maybe get a cat or a dog to cuddle with. Or have a calm conversation with him next time you see him and ask him why he isn't a big texter. Express yourself in a calm manner... Because, no offense, it sounds like you're making a mountain out of an ant hill.

[boggboss]

You seem overly needy for texting and he seems to have a more carefree outlook on it it's a clear indercation of you two being incompatible the reason he only changed for a week is because it's not somthing he enjoys doing naturly

[Asker]

I am not needy for texting, I am needy for a goodnight reply. I don't see how can someone be bother by replying to a simple goodnight text?

[boggboss]

Again just because it's somthing you do don't mean it's the norm for others if u feel it's somthing u need to break up over then do it but when u got with him you accepted he was a bad texter so why u expected differnt is kinda on you

[Asker]

Because he agreed to it. Why tell me he'll do it if he doesn't want to? Back then when we talked about it I nicely asked him if it's something that's doable for him and he said OF COURSE IT'S NOT.

[Asker]

*It is.

[boggboss]

Because he only agreed to keep you happy not because he wants to or enjoy

[Asker]

Well then that means he's a liar. Telling me what I want to hear making me think he's enjoying it. What an amazing relationship. At least I'm honest.

[boggboss]

But your not honest as you knew he was bad with texting and you said you accepted that yet you then asked him to change thinking that's what he would enjoy doing lol

[Asker]

I accepted he was bad at texting in general, didn't knew he was bad at replying goodnight stuff too since we never did that. We don't text at all throughout the day and that's what I accepted, but then as compromise asked if we could do a goodnight thing. That's the first time I even started texting a goodnight. Anyway, there is no point talking to you, you are trying to make this as somehow my fault. I assure you no women would agree to a relationship where there's no texting and only hangout once a week. I compromised way more then normal and if you are on his side then you both should grow the fuck up. Or be single forever.

[boggboss]

Like I said it nether of your faults lol you two are incompatible simple you wait on his messages whilst he don't do the same for you clearly which shows you two need and want differnt things

[boggboss]

Again it's about finding the medium in the relationship and ensuing everyone is happy with how it's going if your not speak to him about it don't sit on it and get angry lol

[lalahi21]

Maybe he felt sleep before u send the goodnight to him so do is confronted him and ask him why u not answer my goodnight message u definitely u mighty be understanding each other dont do get a wrong disition

[Anonymous]

I would say overreacting. Guys do not make big deal of such small stuff. It's annoying when girls do.

It's up to you whether it is big enough for you to break up over.

[Asker]

I don't think it's worth a breakup but then what? I think I'll tell him its fine that I'm not mad anymore but then I won't be texting a goodnight anymore. There, everyone happy.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. But I don't think that would truly satisfy you. You might feel like you are the only one making changes and making sacrifices.

And I didn't get why you fought about it? Yeah he didn't reply. And you felt bad. But couldn't you have just said, "hey jerkface, why didn't you reply to my goodnight msg? Don't be ungrateful. Reply me next time. "

Or you could have immediately said that time when he didn't reply for a while. "Hello? What? You aren't gonna wish me back?"

[Asker]

I did that the first time he ignored it. He had a "reason" and was I okay with it. Then second time I ignored that he didn't reply, thought it's some kind of reason again. But the third time was too much. I guess we should just drop the goodnight texts since it's apparently not working.

[Opinion Owner]

You use words that really dont make it look like you are ready to let go.

[Browneye57]

You have now proven yourself a giant pain in the ass. You'll be lucky if he doesn't dump you. I would tell you to piss up a rope.

[Anonymous]

tldr,

If you are getting pissy over petty shit, expect this relationship to end sooner than later.
Males get tired of childish nonsense and shit tests.

[wigwentmissing]

Thats so stupid how you wanna break up over that and yea you are overreacting