Is it possible to get attached to someone online?

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Majority of the people would say "Yes", but the other less than a half would say "No". Some people Just truly believe that you have to meet someone personally in order for any attachment to be possible. What are you're thoughts?

[simonqq]

Well I grew heavily attached to my ex whom was ldr. However I do think it's necessary to meet or at least video chat a lot before you start throwing out love claims. Me and her talked on the phone almost daily for months and months and video chatted a bunch. Then I went and met her and it only confirmed how I felt.

So I do think it's possible but meeting and spending time in real life is very necessary to know if you are compatible in the daily life.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

It can also Just be regular attachment without having feelings or claiming you love them though. But what if you don't video chat with them or call them? What if you Just text them and that's all that the relationship is based off of? Is it still possible to get attached in that way? And yeah I can agree to you're last sentence.

[simonqq]

It's definitely possible to get attached that way but in my opinion it doesn't reflect the truth regarding feelings. You haven't seen enough of each other to know if what you feel is real or not.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well yeah I can understand that, people get lached on more to the Idea of this online person that when they ever do actually end up meeting them in real life they turn out different than expected. But it's more more painful when the other person on the other side of the screen doesn't feel the same way and could care less. People don't even take online connections seriously.

[simonqq]

Yeah that sucks but still the same time I don't blame them. After my ldr I don't really have any interest in the same thing again even if it's a beautiful or great girl because I know it's going to be really really difficult no matter what. Unless you both have a bunch of money then it's not really a problem.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well yeah stuff like this is difficult, especially when you live overseas from each other. No one takes a person that they met online seriously because they know it would probably never go anywhere. That's the sad part especially when they stop talking forever and the attached person is never able to get over that one person.

[chriss]

Yes it is possible because when you speak to each other a lot you might notice that you click with the person and that it could be a potential
partner. The only problem is that you could never know if the person is faking online so you will eventually have to meet up to see if he is truly the one.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah there are a lot of online catfishes. People are not what they seem from afar. But some people say they can't get attached to a person they only know of online. I don't know what to say about it, but I think I do believe in online attachment even though you haven't met them personally.

[505error]

I’ve never become attached to someone I met online. I got used to talking to people that I met online, but never attached.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Do you think it would be possible though? And also it's good that you didn't, it gets painful when the other person doenst feel the same way...☹

[Stingray444]

Well, I know how to make you understand: (BTW, I'm on my computer, so I'll have to reply to your SC messages after school.. sorry again xd...)

*Dating online is just like dating someone irl* .. EXCEPT, it's like dating someone IRL with Either a face mask OR their TRUE face (identity)... ; Imagine dating someone irl, and after you get close and really love them, they take off their literal mask, and they turn out to be the opposite gender or even not as they say.. THAT'S catfishing online, but comparing to IRL dating... Imagine it like that. You risk at either dating who they say they are or the mask...

This may be EXTREMELY unlikely to happen irl, but it's common online (without an actual physical face mask ofc, an online one, if you feel me haha), but people choose online because they want it easier, and it's good for shy people to choose Various people to date, or even to skip the "just-friends first" and go straight to dating, etc. ... BUT with online, there's always a risk, like I said.

Hope I helped you understand better ^.^

[Stingray444]

So yes, in conclusion, It's definitely possible to be attracted and love someone online. But the fuss is about whether you're dating them or a catfish, and if it's True attraction. Well, that's where my example comes in

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Okay, no worries. Don't rush yourself. And 😂😂 Face mask... that's a perfect example to give for all those catfishes online. But yeah I get what you're saying, and that's what I've talked about in previous replies. It's easy for someone not to portray who they really are online, but that also could be because they're Insecure and would probably think you would hate the way they look if they showed you their real face. But regardless people should be honest about who they really are, things really do get worse if they're showing you pictures of someone else etc. People tend to get more attached to the Idea of the person if the other person is not being honest about themselves.

Ofc this would never happen at all irl because you've literally top to bottom already and so you know how they truly look like. They can't really lie to you then, but Online I would agree that definetly they can do that. As long as they haven't met you irl before talking to you online it's possible. Yeah I agree to that, it's definetly easier to express yourself better through text and messages than if you were to talk on the phone or irl. Perfect place for shy ones and Introverts. Yeah, online is definetly riskier, anyone that gets attached easily from people they met online and never irl should be careful lol people aren't sometimes what they seem from a distance or from what they say.

And thanks for you're Insight 😊

[Stingray444]

Exactly, and also: Just stay safe and be careful with whoever you date! A lot of things are possible from fakes, to they only want something from you, or they wish you harm... Hopefully none of these things happen tho. Just be careful! :)

[randomguy777]

I believe it is yes. With online yes there is the possibility of the other individual being fake or a catfish but still they can mean a lot to you. Online it is an entirely different experience then in person. Its more of getting to know the actual person and formulating your opinion and views on them without seeing them. It eliminates the bias we all have with physical appearances. Each way of interacting with individuals has its own positives and negatives though.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I can understand that, it's more of the person on the other side not revealing their true selves more than anything. But there's also stuff to consider, the reason they catfish might be because they are Insecure and don't think they're good looking. That's happened before. And yeah agree it's more like a game of determining who they are without seeing them in person. Not all online friendships work out though. It's rare, and people don't take a person they haven't met seriously.

[Jonny_]

Yeah definitely, it's tougher but very possible. I've connected with a lot of people online over years of talking, the downside tends to be geography especially when I live on a small island instead of a mainland hub.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well it's happened to me in the past before and it was so easy for me to get attached. He didn't reciprocate the same feeling though. He saw me as nothing while he was my everything. Then in the end blamed me for getting so overly attached to someone I haven't met personally. I got rid of him, he was a Jerk. But I still miss him..

[Dusty_06]

It is, I mean I found a few people that I've talked to online that I've grown to really like and been attached- but fizzled out. I mean you invest your time with someone- of course you'll care

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Oh so you got attached for a little while, but then lost Interest. Yeah that also happens. Of course some decent people out there do care, but there's loads of jerks online that don't really care and are Just around for passing time then leaving. People have never taken online friendships seriously, it's sad but it's the reality. They only Invest more time in someone they know personally and seen personally. I don't know why no one bothers to Invest in an online friendship, maybe it's because they think it won't last forever...🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

I have liked people. But, I agree, I haven’t caught feels online. Now, I have met people that I got to know better through social media and caught feels later.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

So it's not possible in you're case to get attached to someone online?

[Fitgamer27]

I have and we ended up dating and eventually moved there. Didn't end up being for forever. It was still an amazing relationship

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

You actually met her in real life? Well you're one of the lucky ones that was able to make it work out, it's a rare occurnace for an online friendship to last. Even though it wasn't forever you guys went as far as meeting in real life, which did kind of work out...

[Fitgamer27]

It definitely did. We were only like a state apart. It was hot to be honest. So much tension and build up before we met and got to kiss... among other things lol

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah when meeting someone you were talking to online it is nerve wracking a bit. Can be awkward silences in between too.

[Fitgamer27]

True. Awkward for about an hour than it went really well

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Oh that's good to know, not every online relationship turns out so smoothly though..

[COMMODOREII]

It's a lot of work and trust to be able to fall for someone online but it is better to meet in person.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well it's happened to me before, I easily fell for a guy I met on social media. But we don't talk anymore since he wasn't as attached as I was. I still miss him but he was a Jerk. After that Incident yes I would rather meet someone in real life...

[COMMODOREII]

Tbh i too would rather meet someone irl. To have an actual date and converse in person. All of this online communication detaches who you really are and who you really are talking to.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I agree. Can't really know what the other person is like in reality since they sometimes appear different to what they portray online.

[COMMODOREII]

Exactly.

[Silent_Eyes]

Yes, it is very much possible. Happened to me twice.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Oh, how did it go for you? Did they feel the same way?

[Silent_Eyes]

I had an LDR with one of them and we crashed horribly. The second one didn't have an idea that I liked her 😄

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Lol second one didn't have any Idea that you liked her? And then you Just stopped talking to her?

[Silent_Eyes]

Yes, but not on purpose. I've also been told that I seem too detached even from the ones that I like. That, plus it is too difficult for me to like someone. Even I happen to like someone, I am too critical of liking them and that I may end up hurting them. So Ig it is better to never let them know 🙂.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Maybe it's Just you're personality, some people Just like space more than others. But you shouldn't say that, you don't know what opportunities you're missing by not letting people know that you like them. You could be missing out on much, and you wouldn't even know it. You wouldn't hurt them unless they're super clingy and always want to spend time with you, which is rare.

[Silent_Eyes]

Yeah, I have been thinking to work upon that but I give up on people way too soon.
I may never admit this IRL but fear of rejection haunts me too!
I know I shouldn't do that but I will definitely take your advice 😊

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well deep down Inside I also have a fear of rejection. Nothing is more painful than that for me. It's takes me months to get over it. Especially when the person said rude and hurtful things because they didn't want me at all, and were pushing it a bit too far. But still, we should always give things a chance, if you feel like someone is already pushing you away subtly Just take the hint and waste no more time. Because when the "big rejection" comes it'll be much more worse if you're sensitive towards rejection. You'd get hurt a lot less by picking up the hints.

[Silent_Eyes]

'Well deep down Inside I also have a fear of rejection. Nothing is more painful than that for me.'
Damn that must suck! That's really the most painful thing for you?

And yeah I agree on the part of subtle rejections. You just need to get the idea. But I would still prefer blunt rejection more, no confusions there.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Well I wouldn't say "The most painful" but something "over the top" painful. Yes, all rejections suck lol not Just for me but for anyone and everyone. Yeah but blunt rejection is 10x more painful than getting subtly rejected. But I can see someone being confused if they're being rejected subtly or not.

[Jerre]

I have been attracted to several people online. Was fortunate enough to live close to several that I actually met and dated.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Oh nice. For some people it works out, for others it doesn't. People don't even bother with online relationships, they'd rather know them in real life. No one really takes someone you only know online seriously...🤷🏻‍♀️

[some101]

It is better than real life. unfortunately, people can pretend as the perfect person online

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Why's it better than in real life? Also is it still possible to still get attached online? Yeah I agree with you nothing is what it seems online.

[some101]

Because we can talk anything online. We can know someone in deeper levels when we talk to them online. Tho, as I said, he she can give out fake details.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I feel like texting in general is less nerve wracking than talking to someone in person. It's Just more comfortable and less awkward. Though yeah not everyone is going to tell the truth about everything...

[some101]

Trust me I met the worse. She used her own dignity to deceive me.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

How did she decieve you? I felt like I've betrayed by an online person before tbh...

[some101]

Can't post those on here.

[GreenGold1992]

very possible, but not everyone may be who they say they are online

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah I can understand that, it's also really easy to take an online person out of you're life Just by blocking them. They would never bother or be able to talk to you again. Whereas with someone you know in real life it's harder since you'll see them one day or another, and would have to explain yourself. That's the sad part.

[Laozi]

Yup. That's possible.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

How? Some people say it isn't without knowing or seeing them in person.

[Laozi]

Seeing isn't the only way to catch the feelings. You can experience them through text and call. If you spend enough time texting and calling with someone, you can get feel for them.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Yeah that's what I say, but people Just don't believe. They feel like we have to be able to meet in real life for it to happen, and then start blaming us for getting attached to someone we haven't met personally. Although the fact is true that we get more attached to the Idea of them than anything...

[Laozi]

It doesn't matter what others think of us. What matters really is what we think? If we are really happy with what we have then that's enough.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

True...

[Dchrls78104]

Possibly, but unwise and dangerous.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

Why would it be dangerous?

[Dchrls78104]

Because you don't know just what or who you are dealing with, online. One time a woman I. My country went work see a man she had chatted with online. She never made it back home. Some time later her body was found. She'd been murdered.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

I think I heard this story from another user around here lol, he was also telling me exactly what you're saying right know. But yeah that's true it's dangerous, but painful if the other person doesn't feel the same way or could care less about you.

[Suhailadil89]

I almost married someone i met online