To all the singles, do you get jealous when you see couples in public being all lovey on eachother?

[Apple1996]

😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔

Obviously I'm not single but I have been away from my husband for 2 months now. I seen this couple today at the park with their kids and they were being all lovey and it was for real getting me jealous. Not even because they were being lovey but seeing the dad play with the kids was getting to me too. I feel like it's worse for me because I have someone but we can't always be together. But I'm sure y'all singles can relate to this too.

[Shafaq_Mahnoor96]

That's definetly me. That occasionally does happen, but it's very rare. I don't see any couples being PDA much around here though. If I do see couples they're either not being PDA or Just talking and laughing. The only semi PDA thing I've seen around here is Just hand holding in public at max. Little stuff like hand holding doesn't affect me, unless it's my crush that's holding hands with a different girl then it would make me feel very Jealous and hurt. People out in public in general holding hands won't make me feel that way. But if there's real PDA going on anywhere near me, I would kind of feel hurt. But not jealous particularly.

The only thing I would be jealous of is their strong connection, which I don't have. Not jealous of them being a couple, but the fact that they're sitting in front of me reminding me of what I lack in my life makes me jealous. Not exactly the couple themselves. This kind of stuff is definetly relatable. But the reality is people in relationships have way more problems than single people do. Being single might be lonely but at least there's no problem that come along with being in a relationship. People don't realise the amount of freedom they get when they're single, to do whatever they want. Relationships are more harder and require effort and responsibility that come with it. It's not Just all about love.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I used to when I was younger, especially in my 20s! Imagine being in college and all of your friends, classmates, and people around you were in relationships and you could barely find a guy talk to you... I was definitely bitter and jealous.

But as I got older, I got over it. Now I just see couples and shrug it off.
That and after speaking to most couples around me, not all of them are as happy as they appear, so I'm doing pretty good staying single.

[Apple1996]

Awhh such a cute pic lol

[chris_987]

Do you even want a relationship?

[Cynicaldreamer]

@chris_987 Honestly Chris, at this point in my life I'm indifferent. If a find a guy? That would be great. But I'm not really concerned if I do or not anymore. I've been single so long I'm kind of used to being by myself now and don't stress over if I'm going to be in a relationship or not.
Finding a good guy at this point in my life would a plus, not a necessity.

[chris_987]

I blame romantic movies, the girl always finds love when she’s busy and doing her own thing in life. It teaches women that your not supposed to put in any effort cause love will always find you. As a guy if I liked a girl and she put in 1% of the effort I did I would at least feel like she cared but most girls have a timeline of how he relationship is supposed to progress and the guy is just not aware of that and the relationship dies out.

[dantheman1118]

Maybe the first couple months but now I don't think I would trade the feeling of freedom for anything. And when I say freedom it's a wide spectrum. And I don't mean it's awesome because I can just sleep around and party because it's not like that. I am free from guilt doing what I want without worrying about the feelings of someone else. I can be in my garage building shit until 4am and I don't get a guilty feeling that someone is just waiting in bed for me. I'm free from the anxiety of not remembering if I put the toilet seat down. I am free from stress on Christmas, Valentine's, etc etc. I'm free from having those feeling you got in the park. I remember those feelings and for me, they were not worth it. Tons of people pull that lifestyle off but I have found it's just not for me. I applaud those who can pull it off because it's definitely not easy. But to get back and finally answer the question, No, I don't get any sort of feelings/emotions when I see that.

[JackSmy]

I don't get jealous, and sometimes I just smile, and love what they have! A few times the lady reminded me of one I was with, and it made me smile, and remember good times, and I have never been overtly doing DPAs, but sometimes, with a few, in the right place, and time, like sunset, and a private place, some really personal things, in 'public', but just our joy, and nobody around to see!

[sejla]

I see more couples arguing about what lamp to buy or who forgot to bring the right credit card then being lovey dovey. I was a bit jealous around Christmas walking through an outdoor mall until I realized most of the couples except for a random older couple looked stressed. Most of the time it makes me ask how badly do I want to date.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Not really. I don't really crave that stuff anymore.

However, whenever I was in a relationship (and both of my relationships felt extremely one-sided and unloving), I would see other couples being sweet to each other and wish that my boyfriend at the time would do that for me.

[SydneySentinel]

Eh. I feel a tinge of jealousy but it doesn't last long.

[Cowboy6666]

Are you single?

[btbc92]

No. I am not jealous or envious of others. What I CANNOT stand if anything people being fake and acting out if they do this in public their relationship would be better or seen as good. AKA boosting their egos. If it's an authentic relationship, then I am happy, feel proud in knowing it meets the standards we should all be setting as an example. Maybe a little disappointed that I never had it. But other than that, why cover over somebody else's life and relationships and possessions? It gets you nowhere.

[Joyce_L]

Well, I'm not sure if jealous is the word. But it affects me. It's less that I don't want it for them, but I think why can it not for once be me? No-one picks me up from the airport just because they can't wait to see me. No-one calls me to say good night, just so. No-one wants to know how my day was. No-one is tender to me. So seeing couples advertise their happiness sharpens the contrast and makes me feel more lonely. Couples never seem to see. My best friends don't seem to see. I'm there to help them through their crises with their loved ones. But it is expected that I don't mind not having any.

[Anonymous]

No. I think about all the fights, nagging and issues they probably have. I think about how one of them or even both may be cheating or will cheat in the future and I think about the hell they’ll go through when they break up (because chances are, if you look at statstics, that they will break up sooner or later).

[Apple1996]

I'm also jealous of people fighting. I wish I could get in a fight with my hubby rn😥

[jazla16]

Not at all because I've been in relationships before and I know that looks can be deceiving. A couple can looking very happy in public but it's very likely they have a lot of issues at home. I, on the other hand, am living a very peaceful life as a single woman. So no, not jealous at all.

[bubbles328]

No, I was single for years at one point and was determined never to bother again. I used to go to places where there were happy couples and families with my kids. We once went to this park and my kids ditched me for the day I sat on a bench and listened. There was not one happy couple or family they were ll bickering and there I was with my well-behaved kids I raised alone chilling out. Every couple has issues and if they say they don't it's a lie I have no issues alone.

[chadpattan]

True story:

On three separate occasions, I was with a completely platonic friend. We walked by or saw some sort of public affection. Next thing I know, she's grabbing my arm, kissing me (I'm serious), grabbing me around the waist, etc.

I don't know. It doesn't bother me any. But it did seem to bother others I was around for some reason.

I had no words

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Maybe. I'm like "awwww~~ they look so cute together." Espeacially, older couples, teasing and taking care of each other. That could be my jealousy.
My aunts and uncles are happily married, and I'm looking forward to be in a healthy relationship like they do.

[Mini-Mina]

I would say initially when I see a couple being lovey, I find it nice to see people true my enjoying each other’s company. Then I feel jealousy, or rather sadness, because I haven’t got that and I don’t really see something like that happening anytime soon.

[Jjpayne]

All the time! It's the worst... 🙄 and the cherry on top is when they notice me and go WTF are you looking at and I go gee thanks for ruining my afternoon 😟

[Apple1996]

Awhh so sad😥

[Jjpayne]

Yeah... It's tough... Love is sweet but painful when you are lacking it

[FatherJack]

I don't care as I am single by choice , plus being a single parent means I will have zero options anyway , and I do not care what others do , I ignore strangers , unless I have to interact , then I am polite and businesslike. It is when the " glued to each other " hand holders in busy , narrow areas , get in my way... and the way of others , it becomes irritating then !!

[Shuri]

I did when I was single. Before I met my current SO in September 2019, I was single for two years with no dates or sex. I didn't mind doing things alone, but it was depressing seeing everyone coupled up or even with friends and I did everything alone. I started avoiding certain places like movie theaters and malls because I was constantly the only one their alone. And it wasn't my imagination. I actually sat on a bench on a Saturday morning in the summer at an outlet mall and noticed everyone who walked past me were couples or families. Or if I saw someone who was by themselves, it was usually a girl, and they all had rings on their fingers.

I'm not sure if I'd call it jealousy. It's more like envy and sadness. Like I didn't wish anything ill on those or felt they didn't deserve it. I just wondered why I didn't deserve it and why love seemed to skip over me.

[djmzes]

Simple

[Kenanimal969]

I'm single but I want to date or marry, and I respect that you are uncomfortable with other people showing that they love their families, and when I have a girlfriend or wife and kids, I will show them that I love them every place that I am! If you don't like it, go home. Watch a show on TV and change the channel when the actors 😘🥰 kiss. OR just listen to music on the radio...

[Sid51]

People who loved their partner and were loved by them will surely envy or get jealous if they are single now and see a lovely couple but those who were never been loved and are now enjoying being alone won't feel that much as they are now waiting for their perfect one.

[Snakeyes7]

I sometimes get jealous when people are even with friends when I am not around mine and sometimes I don’t really think I even belong with most of my friends. Coming up with conversation topics is like doing multivariable calculus to me and I don't know how the hell people are able to do it on the fly. I also just fear that me approaching new people will piss them off.

[DarthMeow]

I'm single since birth. I'm 23 now and no, i don't get jealous when I see couples loving each other. Maybe I'm aromantic? I don't know. I still attracted to males but i don't think i want a relationship. Not dating, not marriage. I don't need it. No, i don't care about romantic relationship actually. I don't know why.

[Curmudgeon]

I used to be that way, but I grew up and realized that I should be happy for them. Even if I could not find the right person, I realized that it really was a better world each time someone else did find his or her right person.