To all the singles, do you get jealous when you see couples in public being all lovey on eachother?

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Obviously I'm not single but I have been away from my husband for 2 months now. I seen this couple today at the park with their kids and they were being all lovey and it was for real getting me jealous. Not even because they were being lovey but seeing the dad play with the kids was getting to me too. I feel like it's worse for me because I have someone but we can't always be together. But I'm sure y'all singles can relate to this too.

Shafaq_Mahnoor96 · Accepted Answer

That's definetly me. That occasionally does happen, but it's very rare. I don't see any couples being PDA much around here though. If I do see couples they're either not being PDA or Just talking and laughing. The only semi PDA thing I've seen around here is Just hand holding in public at max. Little stuff like hand holding doesn't affect me, unless it's my crush that's holding hands with a different girl then it would make me feel very Jealous and hurt. People out in public in general holding hands won't make me feel that way. But if there's real PDA going on anywhere near me, I would kind of feel hurt. But not jealous particularly.

The only thing I would be jealous of is their strong connection, which I don't have. Not jealous of them being a couple, but the fact that they're sitting in front of me reminding me of what I lack in my life makes me jealous. Not exactly the couple themselves. This kind of stuff is definetly relatable. But the reality is people in relationships have way more problems than single people do. Being single might be lonely but at least there's no problem that come along with being in a relationship. People don't realise the amount of freedom they get when they're single, to do whatever they want. Relationships are more harder and require effort and responsibility that come with it. It's not Just all about love.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I used to when I was younger, especially in my 20s! Imagine being in college and all of your friends, classmates, and people around you were in relationships and you could barely find a guy talk to you... I was definitely bitter and jealous.

But as I got older, I got over it. Now I just see couples and shrug it off.
That and after speaking to most couples around me, not all of them are as happy as they appear, so I'm doing pretty good staying single.

To all the singles, do you get jealous when you see couples in public being all lovey on eachother?

dantheman1118 · Accepted Answer

Maybe the first couple months but now I don't think I would trade the feeling of freedom for anything. And when I say freedom it's a wide spectrum. And I don't mean it's awesome because I can just sleep around and party because it's not like that. I am free from guilt doing what I want without worrying about the feelings of someone else. I can be in my garage building shit until 4am and I don't get a guilty feeling that someone is just waiting in bed for me. I'm free from the anxiety of not remembering if I put the toilet seat down. I am free from stress on Christmas, Valentine's, etc etc. I'm free from having those feeling you got in the park. I remember those feelings and for me, they were not worth it. Tons of people pull that lifestyle off but I have found it's just not for me. I applaud those who can pull it off because it's definitely not easy. But to get back and finally answer the question, No, I don't get any sort of feelings/emotions when I see that.

JackSmy · Accepted Answer

I don't get jealous, and sometimes I just smile, and love what they have! A few times the lady reminded me of one I was with, and it made me smile, and remember good times, and I have never been overtly doing DPAs, but sometimes, with a few, in the right place, and time, like sunset, and a private place, some really personal things, in 'public', but just our joy, and nobody around to see!

sejla · Answer

I see more couples arguing about what lamp to buy or who forgot to bring the right credit card then being lovey dovey. I was a bit jealous around Christmas walking through an outdoor mall until I realized most of the couples except for a random older couple looked stressed. Most of the time it makes me ask how badly do I want to date.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Not really. I don't really crave that stuff anymore.

However, whenever I was in a relationship (and both of my relationships felt extremely one-sided and unloving), I would see other couples being sweet to each other and wish that my boyfriend at the time would do that for me.

SydneySentinel · Answer

Eh. I feel a tinge of jealousy but it doesn't last long.

btbc92 · Answer

No. I am not jealous or envious of others. What I CANNOT stand if anything people being fake and acting out if they do this in public their relationship would be better or seen as good. AKA boosting their egos. If it's an authentic relationship, then I am happy, feel proud in knowing it meets the standards we should all be setting as an example. Maybe a little disappointed that I never had it. But other than that, why cover over somebody else's life and relationships and possessions? It gets you nowhere.

Joyce_L · Answer

Well, I'm not sure if jealous is the word. But it affects me. It's less that I don't want it for them, but I think why can it not for once be me? No-one picks me up from the airport just because they can't wait to see me. No-one calls me to say good night, just so. No-one wants to know how my day was. No-one is tender to me. So seeing couples advertise their happiness sharpens the contrast and makes me feel more lonely. Couples never seem to see. My best friends don't seem to see. I'm there to help them through their crises with their loved ones. But it is expected that I don't mind not having any.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I think about all the fights, nagging and issues they probably have. I think about how one of them or even both may be cheating or will cheat in the future and I think about the hell they’ll go through when they break up (because chances are, if you look at statstics, that they will break up sooner or later).

jazla16 · Answer

Not at all because I've been in relationships before and I know that looks can be deceiving. A couple can looking very happy in public but it's very likely they have a lot of issues at home. I, on the other hand, am living a very peaceful life as a single woman. So no, not jealous at all.

bubbles328 · Answer

No, I was single for years at one point and was determined never to bother again. I used to go to places where there were happy couples and families with my kids. We once went to this park and my kids ditched me for the day I sat on a bench and listened. There was not one happy couple or family they were ll bickering and there I was with my well-behaved kids I raised alone chilling out. Every couple has issues and if they say they don't it's a lie I have no issues alone.

chadpattan · Answer

True story:

On three separate occasions, I was with a completely platonic friend. We walked by or saw some sort of public affection. Next thing I know, she's grabbing my arm, kissing me (I'm serious), grabbing me around the waist, etc.

I don't know. It doesn't bother me any. But it did seem to bother others I was around for some reason.

I had no words

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Maybe. I'm like "awwww~~ they look so cute together." Espeacially, older couples, teasing and taking care of each other. That could be my jealousy.
My aunts and uncles are happily married, and I'm looking forward to be in a healthy relationship like they do.

Mini-Mina · Answer

I would say initially when I see a couple being lovey, I find it nice to see people true my enjoying each other’s company. Then I feel jealousy, or rather sadness, because I haven’t got that and I don’t really see something like that happening anytime soon.

Jjpayne · Answer

All the time! It's the worst... 🙄 and the cherry on top is when they notice me and go WTF are you looking at and I go gee thanks for ruining my afternoon 😟

FatherJack · Answer

I don't care as I am single by choice , plus being a single parent means I will have zero options anyway , and I do not care what others do , I ignore strangers , unless I have to interact , then I am polite and businesslike. It is when the " glued to each other " hand holders in busy , narrow areas , get in my way... and the way of others , it becomes irritating then !!

Shuri · Answer

I did when I was single. Before I met my current SO in September 2019, I was single for two years with no dates or sex. I didn't mind doing things alone, but it was depressing seeing everyone coupled up or even with friends and I did everything alone. I started avoiding certain places like movie theaters and malls because I was constantly the only one their alone. And it wasn't my imagination. I actually sat on a bench on a Saturday morning in the summer at an outlet mall and noticed everyone who walked past me were couples or families. Or if I saw someone who was by themselves, it was usually a girl, and they all had rings on their fingers.

I'm not sure if I'd call it jealousy. It's more like envy and sadness. Like I didn't wish anything ill on those or felt they didn't deserve it. I just wondered why I didn't deserve it and why love seemed to skip over me.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

DarthMeow · Answer

I'm single since birth. I'm 23 now and no, i don't get jealous when I see couples loving each other. Maybe I'm aromantic? I don't know. I still attracted to males but i don't think i want a relationship. Not dating, not marriage. I don't need it. No, i don't care about romantic relationship actually. I don't know why.

Kenanimal969 · Answer

I'm single but I want to date or marry, and I respect that you are uncomfortable with other people showing that they love their families, and when I have a girlfriend or wife and kids, I will show them that I love them every place that I am! If you don't like it, go home. Watch a show on TV and change the channel when the actors 😘🥰 kiss. OR just listen to music on the radio...

Sid51 · Answer

People who loved their partner and were loved by them will surely envy or get jealous if they are single now and see a lovely couple but those who were never been loved and are now enjoying being alone won't feel that much as they are now waiting for their perfect one.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I sometimes get jealous when people are even with friends when I am not around mine and sometimes I don’t really think I even belong with most of my friends. Coming up with conversation topics is like doing multivariable calculus to me and I don't know how the hell people are able to do it on the fly. I also just fear that me approaching new people will piss them off.

Curmudgeon · Answer

I used to be that way, but I grew up and realized that I should be happy for them. Even if I could not find the right person, I realized that it really was a better world each time someone else did find his or her right person.

vedu18 · Answer

After a break up I used to feel jealous of couples but later I realised that this jealousy is of no use and it would fetch me nothing but sorrow and lower down my confidence. I realised that being with myself , alone and free from all the bonds with the world is what I ever wanted. I feel liberated and happy and I am enjoying being single🤘🏻, no commitments no stress, no insecurities. Only fun 🕺

Surely · Answer

You poor girl! Can't say that I was ever jealous.  Maybe just a little lonely and yearning for the closeness if not in a relationship at the time.

foxrider77 · Answer

You could be the DD and when Chris drops off Meg you could have your alone time with Chris. Maybe let him drive and you do that thing with your tongue again.

SirRexington · Answer

Envious, yes. Jealous, no. I seek and desire a companion. I want what they have. But I don't wish to see them break up or get into an argument.

I just want to also have a partner and friend to share my life with.

gagsucs · Answer

not jelous, but i do for a slight moment think "hm,, wish that was me" but i dont have some deep thoughtful debate about it in my mind n shit, i jus see it, notice it, n walk on

Titanic1912 · Answer

Not only do I get jealous by seeing other couples in public but I get jealous when all of my friends are getting engaged and married and I’m still left here all alone and wonder why no woman will love me.

TonyTheGuid0 · Answer

The first thing that comes to mind is "she's dating a loser and he's dating moron". I just can't take 99% of relationships serious. They never last as a couple, nor were they ever meant for each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Well at the moment yes, i get jealous and sometimes also angry to couples in my age.

But i guess the reason is because i broke up the contact to a girl a few days ago which i had a friend with benefits thing going on. So i am freshly hurted from girls...
Before that i seldom got jealous when i saw couples

Dolemite510 · Answer

No cuz aside from the cutesy crap it’s usually an annoyed guy listening to his girl bitching at him 🤣

MindYourEyes · Answer

Not jealous. But it does make me miss the feeling sometimes

Guanfei · Answer

Yep. Which is why I often un follow people on social medias when they show that kind of stuff too much.

Noah14 · Answer

No honestly I feel that if they want to do that go for it. Like that's great that you love each other so much. Now when they start getting cocky or disruptive with it then its different

proteus912 · Answer

Im not single but when i was, i hate to admit it but i did get jealous of other couples in public and their pda

Mikayla3 · Answer

Yes, I wish it was me and someone that loves me too. But, I try and be happy for the other couple because I think it's good to spread love.

Truthatanycost · Answer

No, I often laugh at their lack of freedom. I remember one time I saw this couple... the guys girlfriend was eying me like I was dinner.

Ianto · Answer

I agree with you that in some ways it is worse when you are part of a couple but no with each other. As well as feeling alone, there is a sense of injustice because you are part of a couple, not a sad lonely dweeb. My ex reported a similar feeling.

ohheccin · Answer

No, I just feel really awkward. Cause now I either have to go somewhere else or look away and pretend they’re not there 💀

DiegoO · Answer

Light years ago, yeah, then I realize is not such a big deal. People are in relationships and they aren't happy, so where is happiness? It can only be found within your mind.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Not much no, I do believe some people are meant to be together

Some people have good healthy respectful relationships

While others most likely haven’t had the chance to find someone they get along with in a romantic way

Bax854 · Answer

Not really as many couples dont seem to be happy with each other. They seem to mostly date to impress other people. If I saw a girl I liked with another guy then thats a different story as I would then be jealous and pissed.

Billlewis · Answer

Oh, very much so, but it's the good kind of jealousy.

Sensmind · Answer

I understand that - I would say it is not jealousy more a yearning, not a destructive emotion

emmamarie · Answer

I used to be lol, but I just got over it I guess because I know my time will come

DizzyDesii · Answer

More so it gives me hope rather than a feeling of jealousy

anonbrunette99 · Answer

Sometimes I will think awh that’s really sweet but I don’t get jealous

SimonF0reman · Answer

yes I do... it's not the relationship I'm jealous of however its the connection with someone I yearn for

cheapshotbob · Answer

i do and try too avoid places that have high traffic loving going on between people. lol

SexyAshh · Answer

No i get more so grossed out.  Im open minded but extreme pda in public is just gross unless your out at bars at night.

DorkVader · Answer

Sometimes. When they're happy and playful because that's what I want

Drowningkingfish · Answer

No jealousy so much, but it does make me consider what I am (my personal worth).

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. That’s why I hate Valentines Day. It’s just a constant reminder that other people have what I want more than anything else. I’m happy for them, but it hurts like crazy to see it.

ThatGuy123456789 · Answer

Yes. I want to love someone. And when I see people being completely dicks and still getting a girl, I wonder what is wrong with me.

MuhammmadalMahdi · Answer

Personally, no but otherwise, I have many close friends who feel that way. It's natural and the intensity of your naturally born jealousy will vary depending on your own beautiful natural soul-based inclinations.

wildbilly123 · Answer

Not at all. I enjoy seeing people in love, i have been there and it is an experience that should not be taken for granted. If you are fortunate to experience these feelings and you let them get away. They may never find their way back...

worldscolide · Answer

When I was single, it made me feel jealous and honestly depressed.. I didn't find the person I was going to marry until I was 29.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No because i'm as equally witness to their very public fights. And i think how blessed i am to not have to deal wirh that s***. Lol

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't but I know plenty of people who do feel that way. I guess it's like that if you really want to be with someone.

ShineDJJ · Answer

No. I'm perfectly secure in my singlehood. I actually think that a lot of PDA is cute so long as the couple is not being obnoxious and/or gross.

tartaarsaus · Answer

No, I am pretty neutral. I tend to not feel strong emotions about pretty much anything I see on the street

rainbowdash_444 · Answer

No not at all unfortunately I don’t mind seeing couples happy together

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