Because as humans, we crave variety and occasionally want new and exciting things.
In other words, when you're with the same person for too long, you feel like you're stuck in a rut.
Personally I see that as being comfortable and stable with someone, but what do I know?
Now there are two ways to fix that: change up your routine and do new things with your partner, such as travel, spice things up in bed, or do something different with them... like rock climbing or skiing.
Or if you don't feel like they're a good match for you, end things! Boredom can be caused by incompatible as well, such as dating someone purely off looks, only to realize they're an airhead and cannot hold a real conversation.
They think their SO's purpose is to entertain them. They are not bored of them, they are bored of their own life and somehow think it the problem is their SO. Immature people generally. I don't mind being bored, everyone gets bored sometimes it's just natural. But I certainly do not expect of my partner to entertain me. It's a good thing if he can and is willing (if he thinks of something interesting for us to do) but it's okay if he's busy or just wants to do something else alone or with friends. I might get moody and chill myself too, but it never has anything to do with him.
Sometime's it's not necessarily boredom in the relationship as much as it is complacency, meaning, get up off your butt and go on a Rd trip to someplace you've never been, Pull over a few hours in the trip to go to the bathroom somewhere in the middle of the woods or gas station and park where you are hard to see in plain sight, And Show them a sexual Experience that they'll remember forever! Then make the trip one to remember forever... Try to plan on doing something like that 3-4 times a year. Even if only for a weekend, you just need a change of scenery, I'm sure! 💯
Probably you're not getting what you expected like at first, it's all going well & smooth then suddenly she start displaying annoying qualities, exhibiting bad attitude.. sometimes it's hard to swallow you know especially when it coming and coming... It all gets boring
Getting bored in a relationship sounds like it’d come from someone who’s not mature enough for a relationship.
I mean.. if you’re looking for constant novelty/change, then something that offers stability or security in your life isn’t what you need. Sure, my relationship gets ‘boring’ at times but there’s almost a sense of comfort in that. In knowing that, regardless of how crazy or stressful work might be, I know that I can always look forward to coming home to my boyfriend for some cuddles, ranting, or whatever.
It’s when the honeymoon phase ends and the euphoria is gone and is inevitable no matter who you are with. The problem is, that is when people mistakenly think that it is time to leave. If it really is the time to leave then it wouldn’t be the case that many of our family members have been married and together for half of the time they have been alive.
When this happens you need to really consider if you would continue the relationship despite the euphoria being gone, all the flaws are visible and if it is worth putting them through the pain of a breakup over something they have never done to you. Unfortunately, many people think it is.
Lack of novelty in the relationship, complacency. Most often happens when people move from the honeymoon phase and become too comfortable with each other that they no longer invest the same effort they once did when they started dating. Sometimes, they themselves and their priorities change and they just kind of drift apart.
Routine and more complaining than appreciating people always want to be appreciated and paid attention to. And in begning of relationship you always go for extra mile to make your partner happy and as days pass you start sering there flaws and you try to hide yours..
Monotony makes people bored of things and situations fast. That's why you have explore each other's personalities and favorite hobbies to keep the inquisitive wanderer inside satisfied. You can also explore nearby caves or go on a nature walk together. Or just find new couple activities to do together every other week. 🤷
If your bored ask yourself if your partners happiness and wellbeing are more important to you than your own. If the answer isn't a quick and easy yes then end it. If the answer isn't yes then you dont love them and the relationship is doomed.
One gets bored when you don't mix it up, do things differently or do different things that you'd not even wanna do by yourself. If you stick to the same routine with you partner... you're bound to get bored of doing the same things with him/her eventually
I have actually put a lot of thought into relationships. I really believe that it comes down to we are all a little bit selfish. When things begin to get boring, most of the time we wish that the other person would do something better. Has anyone ever said they were getting bored, so I'm going to engage in the activities that they enjoy even though I don't?
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You're not compatible. You should be best friends as a couple, if you aren't then it might not work as well if you can't see you would be able to have fun together if you weren't dating. Also if you grow apart you might feel bored because you aren't compatible anymore.
Sometimes the lack of fun going out stuff like that, at times the same thang day in and day out. At times I do believe there needs to b a change to thangs like getting out more not being a home body 24-7
Because as people we change. Or, the opposite in fact, we want a constant "sameness", so when that doesn't happen the relationship can get boring sadly. there's nothing wrong with relationships not working out, but knowing what went wrong is always a good thing to know.
They never knew the person to begin with. They most likely met the person, caught feelings, and then started creating this persona for them based upon a few bits if information. After the limerance wore off they started saying to themselves, "Who is this person"? "The person i fell in love with wasn't like this"! And they're right, they never were. But they couldn't see it till now because their head was loaded up with Oxytocin.
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