Is destroying and throwing objects enough reason to break up?

[Anonymous]

I'm still healing from Feb's break-up. Do you think this was enough reason to break up?

We didn't argue much and it only got heated few times. In 3 occasions I threw things on the floor, flipped a small table with 2 cups (breaking them) or threw objects on the wall in the opposite direction. He broke up on the 3rd episode. Then his assumption surprised me. He really thought he would be next one day. I take my anger on objects, never on people.

Would you break up over that?

Yes

No

Updates

+1 y

I went into a crazy mode on those 3 times... but like mentioned I would never hurt a person. I only break, destroy and throw objects

[standingUP]

Most serial killer start somewhere and if someone is giving signs of instability early on then they could only expect that behavior to escalate. That was wise for him to move on.

Stable people do not do these type of things. You are not dealing with emotional trauma very well. It could be internalized by individual circumstances to get you to the point of finding out what triggers that but that doesn't solve anything.

It all boils down that you are riddled with fear. Fear is an illusion and this is why it has the ability to be suppressed most of your days. Until you get to a boiling off point or a trigger. You may thing little outbursts are fine but you'd be minimizing it. If all the sudden your driving near a cliff with your family and snap loss control and DONE !
Minimizing does nothing but give you an excuse to avoid seeking help.

Of course I sense you don' t want advice from what I have done which was Bring God into my life. Pray and meditate also doing a complete self fearless inventory and addressed these issues with the 12 steps. So if that is not your belief of recovery then go pay a bunch of money to a shrink.
God is free.

[abc3643]

Absolutely.
If you can't keep your shit together, you are dangerous and possibly lethal or suicidal.

Maybe this will help:

[abc3643]

[websterII]

you know under domestic violence laws they arrest you if you break something.. breaking stuff is violence. you need to fix yourself

[Unit1]

Objects matter too.

i wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman breaking objects out of anger.

[Dchrls78104]

Neither would I; what if one of the objects she broke were my nose?

[Unit1]

@Dchrls78104 Or the car?
Or the door?
Or the keys?
Or she throws a mug into the monitor?
Think of the potential.
Make the right choice.

[ItsTheNephilim]

He broke up with you once before? It's for the best you break up with him.

[Subject_VI]

Get a punching bag, then you'll get healthy as well

[DaMack999]

Woman that can't control her anger is capable of anything. No thanks I would walked out too.

[Dchrls78104]

I think it would be, for me. Uncontrolled anger is just that---uncontrolled.

[Liam_Hayden]

Maybe his mom or dad was violent when he was a child.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Violent tendencies are alarming.

[Dchrls78104]

And enough to disqualify a person from a relationship.

[Iron_Man]

No it’s not

[Asker]

I tried to explain to him that I only take my anger on objects, never on people but he still broke up.

[Iron_Man]

He’s a pussy I do that myself let him go