Is being incompatible physically a legitimate reason to breakup?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is really great and I love him, but I don’t know if I can stay with him. I’m tiny, a little under five feet tall and under 100lbs. He’s huge, like 6’6” and probably 300lbs. He’s also really big down there, like much bigger than other guys I’ve been with. Normally in relationships I’m the one that wants sex more but he wants it all the time. Like ten times a day.

Is there anything I can do?

[TommyWiseau69]

I personally do not know or cannot really wrap my mind on how short women are okay with a gigantic height difference and same with tall men. As a fully grown 5'4 male I cannot even look at a guy thats 6'0 or taller straight in the eyes without tilting my head up. Even men and women that are like 5'6 - 5'9 are relatively small to tall men. How on Earth is someone that small okay with a height difference that big. The fact that a fully grown AVERAGE HEIGHT male is small to a tall guy is saying something. If you are physically incompatible with a guy that huge than yeah it will cause problems. You probably have to like jump to even kiss the guy like damn or he has to literally maneuver almost his whole body down to just reach your head. You do you, but I'm so glad I don't have to tower the hell out of women. Makes everything so much better and easier.

[Asker]

When we kiss he just picks me up and I like that he can carry me. And reach high shelves.

[MrOracle]

No matter how attracted you are to someone initially, what makes the biggest impact on your ability to sustain a relationship long-term is compatibility. Morals, values, and life goals are a huge component of that, but so is physical compatibility and libido compatibility. Two people don't have to be an exact match, but they need to be within a reasonable range of each other.

It doesn't sound like that's the case here, and that's unfortunate, but if you are already struggling now, it won't get any easier.

[strateguy632]

in general body size is not a reason because you would not get together if really incompatible but libido is an issue different frequencies is reason to break up. find someone with similar rate and rythm.

[slatyb]

You can stay or go. You can try to reach an agreement on sexual frequency.