Am I a bad person because I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I started liking someone else?

[zabrinatan]

Well, me and my ex were going out for 6 months and it's a long distance relationship. I had a lot of things going on with my life- family, friends and tons of pressure. Then, I met a new guy. We started becoming close because we just clicked. We were great friends. Sometimes I find myself lying to my boyfriend about being away just to see this other guy. I started losing hope in our relationship since it is a long distance relationship. I just didn't think it would work anymore. I started comparing this new guy to him and I found many good things about this new guy. I could not believe my self because just before I met this guy, I was completely in love with my boyfriend but when all the problems and pressure started coming, I guess I longed for someone to be there and hold me and kiss me which this new guy has provided me. So I broke up with my ex boyfriend. I didn't tell hm I met a new guy because it would break his heart. He is still a good friend of mine uptil now but he still longs for my love. I don't know what to do. Should I just tell him that I have a new boyfriend which is what this new guy is in my life? Am I a bad person for having a change of heart? I feel bad everyday because we did share many good memories and love but also, he loves me more than anything and I can still feel it.

[kgrrl2323]

i don't think you did anything wrong. it's best that you broke up with the one person before you got with the other one. the feelings weren't there anymore. the only problem I see is that it seems like you just left this person to be with someone closer so that they could be there all the time. I hope this new person isn't a rebound in the way that he was just closer so you chose him. but if you're happy now and are still hearing from your ex that he loves you and misses you, you need to be honest with him that you have found someone new and are now seeing him. wish him luck that he's going to find a great girl. hope this helps

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're a bad person. Your boyfriend just couldn't provide you with things you needed...with things that make you human.

I know people will judge you for cheating, but at the end of the day you need to do right by you. The hard part about this is that you HAVE to tell your boyfriend about this.

[IndieFanGirl93]

I don't think this makes you a bad person at all,I think sometimes choosing between two things and especially two guys would be hard.

But I do think you should tell your ex you are dating someone else,and say you still care about him and are thankful for the times you shared together.

[malekoniky]

You are not a bad person. But you should not lie. At least you shouldn't have when you were together. I don't think you should tell him now what he does not need to know.

Remeber one thing.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.

If you love a guy. You should stay with him even when something happens, even when you two have trouble. If you and your ex were together, you should have stayed. Now, you should think of staying with new guy. If you mind that it is not going well from time to time, you will end up not having any real love in your heart.

Wish you luck!

[zabrinatan]

Thanks very much :)

[Landerson09]

You aren't a bad person!...my heart just breaks after reading this post...The truth of the matter is that he might be cheating on you too because he's probably going through the same things and while you think that he won't survive ...the truth is that when a hot girl walks by, he will realize that he can live without you and he's back in the dating game...life's short ..go for what you want but don't think for a second that he can't deal without you because he can