I love him, but why can't I see myself growing old with him?

[Anonymous]

I can't bear losing him. He has my heart, I know he does. He's the only guy I've ever loved this much. In all honesty I even think he's the first guy I've truly loved. I hate the fact that I feel this way, that I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with him. I dont know why, when I know losing him would hurt the most.

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+1 y

I don't know what to do. it doesn't feel right to break up with him but again it seems I can't imagine growing old with him. its gonna hurt when he leaves. do I break up with him? I don't know wtf.

[Derekk]

Do you feel like there are any incompatibilities that may be giving the rational side of you some thought?

[Asker]

there are, actually. but im worried im just overthinking it and it may not be a big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

Just because you feel you love someone doesn’t mean you’re right for each other

[jennifer_bloom]

It could be your gut telling you that something is wrong

[Ripper_E]

Being in love doesn't mean you can be committed for life. That's why some get divorced. Love is not enough. You need more.

[Dchrls78104]

Unless there's a solid reason you can't see yourself getting old with him (such as his being already married), the truth is that you only tell us that you love him when in reality you do not.