wow, this is exactly how my most recent ex was. We broke up more times than I can count and he hurt me so much. he was mentally and a little physically abusive. I saw red flags all over the place, but I ignored them or he convinced me that what I "thought" was the truth was just my insecurities. he was a very good "smooth talker" and talked his way out of a lot. and every time we broke up I kept telling myself that I HAD to move on. that he was no good for me. but I loved him, and the thought of him with someone else sickened me. and the fear of me not finding anyone else also kept me with him. eventually though he finally broke up with me (4 mths ago) and we haven't talked in about 7 weeks. I was devasted and did all the things you shouldn't do...called, teexted, begged, cried, emailed. he got ugly, he told me he was with someone else and how much happier he was without me
he also continued to abuse me by putting ALL the blame on me. it was MY FAULT he moved on so quickly, MY FAULT he broke up with me, MY FAULT that there was no chance to reconcile.
but still...i miss him (sometimes). crazy huh? so I know what your going through. there is no reason in the world why we should miss these jerks or shed any more tears over them. there is no reason why we should care what they are doing with their life. but we do. and I guess it just proves that we were more invested then they were.
avoidance is key. no contact at all with him and tell any mutual friends that you may have that you DO NOT want to hear anything about him. I don't know how you feel, but I feel that my ex destroyed the person who I was before I met him. I am always sad, depressed. I am 10 times more mistrusting of men and am 10 times more pickier now than ever which is unfair to the truly good guys out there.
i have learned so much from that relationship though and hopefully you did to. because if you didnt, you went and are going through all this pain for nothing! and if he gets with someone quickly, it just shows how insecure HE is because he is so scared to be alone. you on the other hand, hopefully know what you do and don't want and are secure enough with yourslef that you will not settle for just any guy. I wish you the best of luck and sorry for the long answer. I hope you feel better soon
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:( I'm sorry and I really do know how you feel. Reading your story just reminds me of my ex. But just let me tell you somthing, if he ever comes back just don't accept him because those kind of guys know when they have us in the palm of their hand so when they feel like leaving their going to leave but they will feel confident in returning back because they know how we feel about them and think we will always be here for them with open arms. Someday he's going to feel lonely and come back but this time just stay strong, believe me I know it's tough but if we keep giving chances hoping to make the relationship better, well then you're never going to heal. It sucks but it's the truth. It's better to just wait for someone who does appreciate. But if that person never comes, well better single than always heartbroken.
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There are plenty of d***s in the sea. Its in the human nature to want what we can't have. Maybe God wans us to meet the wrong people so that when we finally meet the right ones, we know how to apriaciate their company. When it comes down to relationships, it usually takes half the time to get over it than the relationship actually lasted. So in your case, the flashbacks of all those good times is bringing you down.
I think you answered your own question. You said you were faithful, loyal, supportive, and he was none of those things. If he is none of those things, you must have a strong will to be the angel that looks over his shoulder, but that guy doesn't see the need to be any of those things. I don't have all the answers but moving on might be the best thing to do, because those couples who put equal commitment to the relationship, is what lasts.
Stay strong.
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Sorry that happened to you, just stay away from him. Remember, nobody leaves this world without paying the things they did wrong. If he tries to contact you again, ignore him. If it's possible, change your phone number, e-mail, and everything he knows about you. Then he will see what he lost.
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