How can I let go after a breakup when I still love him?

[Anonymous]

When people say let go after a breakup, how can you let go when you still love them? I just don't know how to ☹️

[Guy13]

This guy has obviously emotionally disconnected to you and likely is banging some other girl during your time together. Now, you're lying to yourself with the notion that he still loves you, therefore, you are continuously focusing on him. This in turn feeds your desperate state and belief that he will return one day... And the relationship will that hot, passionate, and perfect place once again.

No, he's not changing his mind. It is not happening.

The only thing I know to do in difficult times is to 1. hyper focus upon you goals. I am assuming that you have these. Now, it is time to take all this wasted desperate Energy and throw it into chasing your dreams. 2. Get in the gym and sand out those rough edges. 3. Stop going to the places, trails, and spots where you two hang out. Change dog parks. Don't lie, I know you're doing this...

4. Get rid of all your shared crap and mementos. Especially your digital play lists etc... Pack it up in a box IF you must keep it. Better idea is put the City receptacle below your bedroom window and have at it. Perhaps, a party and bonfire on the beach with friends... and bring your laptop for Digital Erase click and shots. 5. Please grieve...what are you a man with the Avoidance ? 6. Attend professional organizations events and seminars as yu begin to Network... along those lines hit www.meetup.com and joining the Indoor Outdoor/Soccer as there are eally good-looking men there and I am not ugly..."Internationals" type.

And finally, 7. When his sad ass comes back crawling around begging because you can live a full life without him, "Just Say No To Drugs"... It has already been one bad Trip.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your advice 💞

[Sunssong]

Well, the process involves controlling your consciousness. For the untrained the easiest way to do that would be to focus on some activity and do that activity to a significant enough degree that is demands all your thoughts.

In other words, find something that commands your attention more than the hurt.

If you do this you will find that it becomes a gift. Unrequited love or hate break is the start of many peoples success in life.

Don't do anything crazy to try to get him back. You two have proven you don't know what you're doing. You need time to grow and hopefully in that time you happen to figure out the secret to lasting relationships. It's rather simple.

[quaranta]

You have to endure the painful path of letting the time doing its course. It will heal you but you have to let it work, which means you shouldn't wait for his messages (block him if it helps you not hoping for his messages staring at the phone all the day), and you shouldn't stalk him on social media. The more you stay away, the more time will heal you. To be really fully over him you will need around half the time you spent being into him, which can be accelerated if you find another man in the meanwhile.
Granted you will get over him at some point if you let the process work, at first you'll have a rollercoaster between:"I don't care about him!" and "Oh no I need him so badly!", but then after some months you will wonder how's possible you were so hurt (now). So all you have to do is trusting that you will survive this and that time will heal.

[comekitty]

First, I'm so sorry. Break ups are never easy - especially if you're still attached but I promise you will get through this and come out stronger and wiser than before.

If you haven't already, I'd say start by ending all contact - text, social media, whatever else. You don't need those kind of games.

Remove all reminders.

Then try doing something special for yourself - something that makes. you feel good - such as getting your hair or nails done, or treat yourself to a special purchase.

Stop listening to songs that remind you of him or bring about sadness.

Finally, keep yourself busy - too busy to think about him. Hang out with your friends , find a new hobby, concentrate on goals you may have.

It will take time but you'll get through ths.

Sending you happy thoughts and hugs! 💕

[Asker]

Thanks you. I appreciate your advice 💞

[Beatrix7]

its very difficult hunni but get out more and cry the pain out some tears are good to get out to help then theresno more that day show ure worthy of yourself u dont need a usless feck and love yourself more than ure ex and when youwant to react take a step back and breathe hun hope ure ok i feel the same and know how you feel and also helping yself with it

[Asker]

Thank you 💞

[Beatrix7]

your welcome i know how you feel ma dear

[Beatrix7]

helping yourself with this is hard very

[Asker]

I just wish I could move past the pain

[Beatrix7]

me to hunni its very hard

[Lycirian]

They are a lot of different ways to move on. But you got to choose which way is the best for you. Of course you can cry and listen to some depressing music but this will bring you nothing in the end. It is really just nothing more then waiting time.

It doesn't work out it was not your destiny to be to be with him. Go Shopping, go out with friends have fun. Just do it don't think about it. I really know what I'm talking about trust me.

[Asker]

Thank you 💞

[LickwidSkie]

It takes time. People tell you to find things to distract yourself, but if you're like me doing things doesn't really take your mind off of it. Just try to remember that no matter how bad it feels right now, one day the pain will be gone and you'll be over it.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Buffy went to hell and back, after she broke up with Angel. Sometimes you just have to go "through hell" to get over it

[Asker]

Thanks. Good point

[SphynxUK]

You don’t let go. It just gets easier to cope with the more time passes.

[Zandoval]

Give it time, distance yourself, focus on other things.

[Anonymous]

by giving yourself time. naturally you'll heal and move on when your mind thinks it's ready

[Anonymous]

Let me put it this way. What is your other option?

[Anonymous]

Aww such a wonderful heart you have...
Make yourself busy somewhere else...

[Anonymous]

Learn to love yourself more than you love him

[KrakenAttackin]

Just know that Chad will never commit.

[Mayo503]

Need to put him out of your head and move on