What's the best way to make a man happy?

[MandaFanta]

In a relationship, what should be the most important aspects?

[Xoxocutekitty]

Most guys want someone they can spend a lot of time with, someone with whom it feels "easy" and drama free. Be upfront about what you want, tell him what behaviors are unacceptable, and make him feel appreciated for the little things he does (heck sometimes i even "create" little tasks for him to feel good, like opening jars or lifting something I COULD lift, but I mean willing hands are useful hands ;) ).
For some guys being happy in a relationship means sex and/or gourmet meals on tap, but in reality, those are the first things to go when relationships "get hard." Really, keeping someone happy and motivated is like being a good boss at work. Even when you're mad or he is underperforming, he needs to know that 1) there is changeable actionable solution 2) he's still a good person worthy of love and respect 3) you're loyal enough to see through his mistakes.

In a perfectly balanced relationship, just being together (knowing that you want to be there and don't want to be with anyone else) should be enough to "keep someone happy." Big life tip: People become "unhappy" with relationships for thousands of reasons that don't come from the relationship. Men are pushed to be selfish in their career pursuits and women are following suit. The skills used to apply 100% of your time and energy climbing the corporate ladder and over-valuing your potential, very often conflict with who you are, where you come from, and fostering supportive/ protective instincts for building a home life worth "coming home to." There comes a point in time for most people, where they realize that no relationship they enter into will be happy, because they themselves are too busy chasing happiness to actually be happy, let alone try and provide that for a partner.

[VanillaSalt]

This... fucking... statement... here...

[VanillaSalt]

You are absolutely correct... men want to be not so much controlled but directed... point us to the problem needing fixed and we got this... all for that smile, gratitude, ego boost, knowledge we have succeeded...

Also though the sex better not dry up... sports only one reason we want women... the other 50% is physical ie sex...

[IronLady6354]

Sex is an obvious one. Every man goes crazy over sex. Haha.
However, men who really want to be with you because they have feelings for you will want more than just that. Don't get me wrong, he'll want sex too (in fact, if he has real feelings for you he'll want sex with you ever more). However, he'll also want emotional love and intimacy. Physical touch is a big deal for my man, and I'm not just talking about sexual touch (although he really likes that too). Snuggling, holding hands, romantic (but less sexual) kissing, etc. is a really big deal for him too. Me saying nice things about him is a big deal for him too.
You should read about the 5 love languages. Everyone has certain ones that are a big deal to them (and perhaps a few that aren't so important). Figure out which love language is your man's language. Use that language to show how much you love him.

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

[B2281]

That's a good question, especially depending on the kind of relationship, and because everyone is different the answer is going to be very different from guy to guy.

So let me treat this question seriously and avoid certain subjects like sex. Sure it's very important in a long term relationship, but let me focus on things I'd like when building a relationship.

1. Communication. Very important to know what someone is thinking. And similar to another question of yours, make it direct communication instead of a guessing game.
2. Let me do nice gentlemanly things for her such as simply opening a door without it somehow turning into a sexist issue.
3. There are times guys need alone time as well, like when we are stressed from something. Sometimes it's better to let us think about it first for a while before we decide to share our problems, because we may still be putting what's going on in our minds together.
4. When there is an argument that needs to take place, and in a healthy relationship there will always be arguments. But be mindful not to go too far because if you argue in the wrong frame of mind nothing will be resolved and just make it worse.

Those are the negatives I suppose.

But the number one thing to make us happy is for our partner in our relationship to not just be our partner, but to be our best friend who we love to simply spend time with.

[B2281]

Thanks for selecting my opinion as one of your most helpful.

[devdole]

In my opinion a men want so much more than Sex, give him romantic affection, praise him, Cuddle him (you can be a bigger spoon if possible), give him feeling of oneness. Give him a nice touch, dance with him. Understanding a men is so simple you just have to enjoy and spend good time with him. Just be a crazy girl, being childish, make the kid inside of him come out for some moments. And most importantly cock with him. You don't have to do any big thing. He will be happy even by a small effort.😊😊😊😊

[Artificial Intelligence]

Best Tips for Making Your Man Feel Loved and Happy

According to studies, one of the main things that makes a man feel loved and happy is when his partner expresses appreciation for him. There are many little ways to show your man that you appreciate him, and these small gestures can make a big difference in his happiness.

Here are some tips for making your man feel loved and happy:

1. Tell him how much you appreciate him.

Whether it’s for doing the dishes, taking out the trash, or simply being there for you, let him know that you are grateful for what he does.

2. Give him a hug and a kiss.

A physical show of affection is always a nice way to make your man feel loved.

3. Do something nice for him.

Whether it’s making him breakfast in bed, taking care of a chore that he hates, or simply giving him a massage, do something that will make his day a little easier.

4. Write him a heartfelt letter.

Sometimes the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, but a heartfelt letter expressing your love and appreciation will definitely make him feel loved.

5. Make time for him.

In today’s busy world, it can be easy to forget to make time for your partner. Whether it’s going on a date night, taking a weekend trip, or just spending some quality time together, make sure to carve out some time for the two of you.

By following these tips, you can make your man feel loved and happy in no time!

What makes a man happy most?

It's no secret that men and women are different when it comes to what makes them happy. While there are some generalities, it's important to remember that not all men are the same.

With that said, here are four things that tend to make men happy:

1. Fewer commitments.

Men are often happiest when they have fewer commitments. This could be fewer commitments at work, or fewer commitments at home. When a man feels like he has too many things on his plate, it can start to wear on him.

2. More free time.

This ties in with having fewer commitments. Men often want more free time to do the things they enjoy. This could be hobbies, time with friends, or just time to relax.

3. A sense of accomplishment.

Men are often happiest when they feel like they've accomplished something. This could be at work, at home, or in their personal life. When a man feels like he's made progress, it can really boost his mood.

4. A feeling of significance.

Lastly, men often want to feel like they're significant. This could be in their role at work, in their family, or in their community. When a man feels like he matters, it can go a long way in making him happy.

[AmandaYVR]

The basics would be sex, food, affection, kindness. All men like and need those (and women too.)
But what really tells a man he is cared for are the gestures (often small, occasionally large) that show or tell him that you know him, and thought of him and his likes and preferences, specifically. It's often not about the size, but the specificity.

[AmandaYVR]

So, MandaFanta, I'm the only female who answered your q so far.
What do you make of that - do they think it's better answered by the men themselves? Or is it that they just don't care what makes them happy?

[MandaFanta]

Well like 50% just said sex but some do have interesting answers

[AmandaYVR]

No, read my comment again. My point is the zero female engagement on this topic.

[hbg84]

Amandayvr is correct. Men like ther occasional "flowers" in this case not actual flowers. Buy him a shirt of his favorite band, race driver, etc. Buy him that new movie here wants to see or take him to see it. Take interest in the things he likes to do. You don't have to like them just show interest and occasionally do them with him. Cook his favorite meal if you can't cook order it or hire someone to cook it for him. The sex stuff isn't the most important. But also be his personal porn star. Experiment in the bedroom. Try new things like erotic roleplay.

[Apple1996]

Make sure he has a full stomach and empty balls. That seems to be what makes most men happy

[dr_sascha]

hahahha lmao

[bananathunder]

the secret combo...

[Gagname]

Wow so naughty

[Apple1996]

@Gagname yes very naughty

[Anonymous]

I’m reading the men’s comments and I must say, I feel like you guys are right but that hasn’t worked for me. I have tried to be everything I could for men who didn’t appreciate what I brought to the table. It hasn’t been TOO often but twice, especially with the first man. I started off with no trust issues and he slowly gave me reasons to Ben insecure within the relationship. I didn’t come into things nagging or controlling, and every time I had a feeling about him I would turn out to be right. I just constantly felt like the way he treated me was just different than how I would ever treat him because on the surface I was the one who would nag him but behind closed doors I was honest, I was faithful, and I cared about the relationship while he did not. When I left it was the only time he seemed to want to actually make things work and it wasn’t very short lived. The second man who I failed to make happy a I can take responsibility that I wasn’t ready for anything serious so I just didn’t care whether things worked or didn’t. When things began to fall apart instead of trying to make it work (like the first time) I just let them. Both of these experiences made me feel that ultimately I was just better alone. If I was always made to feel like it was more problems in a relationship than single then I just didn’t want one anymore. The second man was just someone I liked so it wasn’t as impactful, but being with the first man and realizing that I could never satisfy him even with multiple rounds of sex every night, communication, commitment, loyalty, and supporting him-realizing it was never enough made me just wish i never met him. Because I wondered if I would ever get over the feeling of not being good enough. I finally decided that in my next relationship I would just love myself and allow my partner to love me with me. Maybe that will work better next time

[Opinion Owner]

And the nagging wouldn’t be little pointless shit like “pick you socks up”. It would be me telling him things that felt needed to be resolved or I would never be happy in the relationship because these things were repeatedly happening. Like I would get tired of being ignored and ask for some time with him that didn’t consist of sex, I would ask for him to talk to me because I mostly just felt alone even though I had him I felt like I was single, I asked him to stop lying to me (which was the biggest and most frequent thing I would nag about) because he was ALWAYS lying and I would catch him in a lie and he would still continue to lie and turn things around to make me look like I was crazy. I would ask him to stop keeping in contact with his ex because I felt that he was clearly still in love with her OR to instead leave me alone and stop calling me crying when I decided I had enough. He couldn’t manage to do either and he always made me feel bad by saying he felt like I didn’t love him if I left. But I was supposed to just endure all that shit without ever speaking up about how I felt? I realize the thing I should have did was just leave. But I stayed and tried to fix things because at one point I was happy being with him and suddenly I just felt unhappy while his happiness was still a priority to me, even more than my own. Because if it wasn’t I would have left him way before he had the chance to keep hurting me with his lying and cheating and broken promises that he probably never even attempted to keep.

[Definitely]

It really sounds like you got the short stick. You shouldn't think that you weren't enough for someone, because that's a self destructing thought. A relationship is built by two people that work together towards a common goal. Since you said you worked really hard while he'd still not be satisfied, that's a first sign that you had an imbalance there. Speaking about on a recurrent and president situation, when one works too much results in the other one working too little, leading to failure. When you do that, you're often taken for granted or seen as desperate, which gives security to the other person to think that anything goes with you. This means that the relationship can turn into something toxic, where the one working less has more power over you and abuses it in various ways.
On the other hand, it could be that a common goal was also missing, not leaving much direction for the relationship.
I highly believe you have stumbled upon someone that wasn't mature enough from everything you said. And as you may know, kids don't really know what responsibility means, nor do they completely understand the concept of working. The do know that they can get away from those things by just running away. That person was not ready to have a relationship in the first place.
You are wrong about one thing. It is fine to love yourself. In fact, that should come as one of the priorities in life, however, you need to find the balance between that and loving your partner. It's not easy, and no one can tell you how to measure "love" in that context, but that is what you should aim for. Compromises are quite common and they are fine, but they also must be rewarded in an equivalent way. Those equivalences of value are specific for each person, so communication is the key to keep things going and to ensure you're heading towards something together, not alone.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Know what his 'Love Languages' are, and use them every day. And yes, lots of sex too. If you're not enjoying the sex, it's better to have an awkward conversation and figure out together what's missing from your sex life. If you need to guide him on how to make you orgasm, then set egos aside and just help him out. Every man's nightmare is to find out their wife or girlfriend was "faking it" the entire relationship. When you're both getting your daily orgasms from one another, then most other problems fade into the background.

[SirRexington]

Give him attention. Remind him that HE is YOUR man and why. Hug him when he isn't expecting it. Play with his hair (if he has any), initiate cuddling and kiss him anywhere on his face neck or shoulders. Say I love you on a semi regular basis. Be sure to do things that prove to him he made the right choice and that you made the right choice. You don't even have to have constant sexy time. It's all about the hugs and the cuddles and the affirmation that he is the guy who you dream about and are extra happy to see next to you when you wake up from your dream.

[Browneye57]

Wow! You actually have to ask, after all the posts here on GAG.

Guys have three basic needs/wants:
1. Sex
2. Food
3. Attention/Love/Respect

If you provide all of these he could want, he'll remain completely in love with you, forever loyal and true.
"He'll swim through shark infested waters to bring you lemonade." __Dr. Laura

About two-thirds of women get this, the rest either don't believe it, can't be bothered, or think it's beneath them. You have to CHOOSE a guy that is WORTHY, otherwise all best are off.
And if you fail, don't be surprised when he wanders off looking for a woman that WILL provide them.

Men are very simple creatures. Women? Now that's a whole 'nother can of worms. LOL

[Oram52]

I'm in UK here doesn't seem to me 2/3rd of women get it in UK or America Lol
But yeah you're right on money. I was going to say food and sex.

[Browneye57]

@Oram52 - We did an informal survey on a mostly mens forum, asking if they thought their SO's get it. About 62% did, the rest didn't.

Women project their own feelings and emotions on everyone else. Whatever it is THEY think or feel, they're just sure everyone else does too. You even see it in the word tracks, like in questions here, "How do you men feel about [such and such]?" Sorry honey, the guys just don't have all those feelings like you do in the first place. And because of they way they communicate - their hidden agenda in everything that comes out of their mouth, that is what they look for in whatever men say or ask. You hear the, "What does it mean when he says...[name anything they say]". Instead of just accepting what they're saying at face value, they're just sure there is some hidden meaning.

Men are simple creatures. The successful ones work hard, are kind, thoughtful, creative, and stick to what they have to do to get what they want. Women on the otherhand will often claim that people owe them something, that they are where they are in life due to some uncontrollable outside influence or person. And you hear those word tracks as well, "He made me...", "I had no choice", or the "I was out of options". And they simply LOVE to play the victim. So many are just sure they're a victim in someway, there is NEVER any acceptance what influence their thoughts and decisions, actions, may have played a part.

Even when couples split - a woman does not accept any responsibility - it is ALWAYS the man's fault.
If she cheats or bails it was because he was an asshole. Even her friends and relatives will back her up on this, "He's such an asshole, you deserve to be HAPPY." "Just dump the asshole, you deserve better".
Now if the guy cheats or bails on her, it's because he is a COMPLETE ASSHOLE. Just ask them!!

[Walt832]

Just lovely, friendship, honesty, FAITHFUL and be straight forward. Just don't bring drama and make things complicated like controlling or jealousy or over reacting on small little biny tiny bit things.

Example, 🙉 I swear 😂 I've seen little things left behind. I don't say nothing I just grab it put it back were it belongs 🤷‍♂️. No drama. Compare screaming or searching your man all the way to the garage only because he didn't put the pen back with the rest with the pens🤣.

Don't forget sex 😉. 😘.

[Reaperbot666]

honesty, loyalty, respect, if she maintains herself well physically, mentally and emotionally, being supportive, encouraging, quality time with his partner, but also some alone time to relax, be straight forward with what you need and desire from him.

this goes for all relationships types really.

[JackSmy]

Be yourself, and share things, TOGETHER! You are not responsible to 'make' him happy, and if he sometimes isn't, it isn't your fault!!
Each person in a relationship is in charge of their feelings, and nobody can "MAKE YOU FEEL" anything that you don't choose, to feel, yourself!
YOU are in control of your feelings, and NEVER someone else!!
SOOOOO many people cannot understand that, and they don't take responsibility for themselves, and their lives, and try to blame others, when things don't go as they want.

[Ripper_E]

The way to a man's heart is

Pie

[MandaFanta]

Soo true!

[Anonymous]

Feed him well, fuck him however he wants it, then rub his back as he goes to sleep. When he wakes up in the morning, fuck him again, then bring him a cup of coffee to drink in bed while you prepare his breakfast.

I don't expect this from my partner, and I think this would be a bit much for most guys, but I don't know how any guy could complain f he received this treatment.

[FatherJack]

Do not use him as your personal whipping boy and constantly nag , complain & moan about everything , be in a constant foul mood , don't be lazy and expect him to do everything... this is why I made my wife my ex , and dumped her 5 years ago.. had enough. Too many men here overemphasizing the sex part , even a man with a libido like a tomcat with 4 ball bags , is NOT going to want sex with you after enduring that shit !!

[MandaFanta]

Agreed

[iamurgigolo]

The best answer for this is nobody gets completely satisfied. But there are a lot of things we can do to make our partner happy.
When it comes to men
-> Men needs Attention from his partner
-> Find his insecurities and try to make it better
-> Physical Connection is important
-> Try to find his fantasy and explore that together
-> If he is adventurous be adventurous together
-> Always mention him he is the best, that will boost his confidence and he will drool over you

These are the basic things which you can do. As I mentioned there is no fast rule. Its always a balance when it comes to relationship

[dac91]

Truly didn't want to read anything after this

[iamurgigolo]

Happy that you liked my opinion 😃

[kaylaS91]

Things like good sex are true for making anyone in a relationship happy.


I think one part that is often overlooked with men is making sure to validate them on a deeper level. Like.. sure, appreciation for him helping service your car is good but if you notice he’s upset with you or just after work, ask him what’s going on. Offer him an outlet for his frustrations so that he can be reminded that he’s not alone and that you’ve got his back.

[hbg84]

Smart woman @kayla591

[Gagname]

You’re so thoughtful @kaylaS91

[Prof_Don]

Men like to feel loved and appreciated for the all the little things they do in life. Being nurtuting & physically affectionate to him means a lot.


Also, if a man is venting about anything in conversation, respect how sacred of a moment that is! Men rarely open up like that, so please be confidential about the conversation and not gossip to others about that conversation.

[VanillaSalt]

Support and sex... these are the basics as to why men get married... at good mans out there working his as of for you treating you right and giving you the best life he can so take the load off and support him... and sex is sex common sex drives men...

[chrissykerdock]

give him a blowjob let him cum in your mouth that should and will do the trick he will be a happy w th that... it wouldn't hurt to wear a nice mini skirt as well.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well for me she has to love me and be affectionate and nurturing. She has to be a complete cuddle whore because I am a complete cuddle whore. Also lots of sex (despite popular belief its not just the physical, its also the intimacy and knowing that she wants me (after all I show that I want her by buying her things by protecting her etc. However for guys their isn't much we get from women beyond nurturing us and having sex so those are pretty important for that reason).

[Realistic07]

Mind being more specific?
Sorry, but happiness is not a quantifiable statement you’re gonna have to get a little bit more specific than that for a real answer.


For example are you talking about in life, sexually, family wise, individually?
Narrow it down A bit; because right now to me its like asking “what do you think a random stranger is thinking?”
The answer being “i don’t know its a random stranger.”


See what im getting at?

[Realistic07]

like in any romantic relationship keep in mind that you can’t simply go up to either party and say hey what are you care about in this relationship.

The reason you can’t do that is simply; because any and all relationships are an understanding between two parties that each other is important. Both form an understanding that the importance the other person has in their life with an in itself is important, and is so very significant that two people are going to define it within themselves.

Bear in mind that the definition of what that relationship is and how it’s defined by two parties is a very personal and interpersonal experience between both people.
So to ask what makes a man happy completely factors out the fact that there is two people that must do this Physiological and psychological dance to form a secured bond with the other.

I guess that’s truthfully the fullness of my answers or at least at this current point in time.

[Angelo75]

This is a VERY difficult question to answer in 1 shot.
It depends a lot on the man.
Way younger boys will say "sex" easily.
But these values will shift while he grows.
It will usually and up being "loyalty/respect/love/sex".

As for the cooking, well it is important, but if you can't cook you can still order takeout or fastfood. But the other stuff mentioned above can't be easily obtained elsewhere.