How can we make men happy?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. Communicate with us and be direct, we genuinely have no idea what you want just to tell us, and we'll make it happen.

2. Regular physical affection, hugs, cuddles, kisses spooning in bed should be a part of the daily routine.

3. Say thank you or show thanks when we try to do something sweet. It's shocking to me how many womans heads this goes over speaking from experience.

4. Men NEVER get flowers and almost never get gifts. If you give a man flowers, he'll probably remember you forever because it's literally never ever happened to them before. It's a first for like over 90% of us. I've never received flowers before and would be dumbstruck if I did.

5. Be engaged in the relationship. Suggest date idea's sometimes or ask him where he wants to go sometimes. It feels like the expectation is for the man to do all that all the time and it's fucking exhausting. In fact, if you ask most guys who gave up dating, why they did they're all going to give the same answers. 1. "Too much work I'm too tired." 2. "Too expensive" or 3. "Too much emotional pain."

6. Kind of a subsection of 2. but every so often it's nice being the little spoon not just the big one. Men want to be held too and often times don't know how to ask for physical affection because most of us have been denied it most of our lives. Just because your boyfriend doesn't ask for a hug, or a kiss doesn't mean he doesn't want one. Most of the time they just don't know how to ask for one.

7. Sex is important when you hit that stage of the relationship. Saying no is normal but saying no too much is frustrating and gets aggravating after a while and causes resentment. People have sexual needs in a relationship if they aren't met once that bridge is crossed it will cause problems. Trust me your boyfriends does tons of things for you he doesn't want to if he's a good one.

Odds are you have tasks you ask him to do on a regular basis he hates but he does them for you. So, when a guy spends his day trying to make you happy and he wants some physical attention after it feels like your being snubbed for affection by your partner after spending all day waiting on them. It comes across as ungrateful and distant.

Also, men really do get blue balls. It's a real thing. If you work us up, then say no, we actually get pain in our testicles. Like physical soreness and pain If you were ever getting hot and heavy with a guy and then suddenly backed off and he got pissed at you.

That's at least part of why although the other part was, he was probably getting excited. and then suddenly got rejected which would piss you off too. Tell me when was the last time you got excited about something and were in a good mood then it got canceled last minute? I imagine you weren't happy about it either when it happened to you

That's also why I'm willing to bet when this happened any of you who did this saw him go to the bathroom. It's not just the pain from blue balls that's the problem either it get's our hormones all worked up and we can't think straight until they're gone. We get anxious and stressed until we get the relief so when you reject them the default response is almost always "Ok I got to jerk off now."

With all this in mind is it any shock woman piss men off with this behavior when they do it?

8. Try to be engaged and be involved in our interests. If your boyfriend likes fishing, try learning about fishing. If he likes building models learn about what the models are of and why they're cool to him and if he likes video games give them a try you might realize you like them too if you and your partner have chemistry even if you thought, you hated it. Sometimes all you need for a hobby to suddenly be fun is the right person to do it with. It also shows emotional investment and that you care about our happiness too.

9. Don't let your parents walk all over you or all over them. I've seen a shocking number of people on here in their 30s still letting their parents make dating decisions for them on who they are and aren't allowed to see. It's insane, advocate for yourself and your SO. Relationships are hard enough without over controlling people getting in the way and ruining everything.

10. Don't flirt or be alone with other guys period and your boyfriend should be doing the same for you with girls. Its ok for girls to have guy friends and guys to have friends that are girls even in a relationship but once you're no longer single. Being alone with them in private or flirting with them even jokingly is disrespectful and inappropriate.

If you want to hang out with your opposite sex friend that's fine but you should always have a friend of your gender as a third wheel or have your SO, there with once you reach that point from then on. Meeting with someone in private of the opposite sex and doing something like going out even as friends is kind of emotional cheating unless you ask you SO and they say yes, it's ok.

At that point it's basically a date. You also shouldn't be physically affectionate with other guys. No hugs and ABSOLUTELY no kisses even on the cheek. The only time where a hug like that would be acceptable is if their friend is crying or having some kind of breakdown like a family member or favorite pet died, I totally understand in those circumstances. When a friend is crying not giving them a hug is a dick move at that point hell if I was there, I'd try to help the dude feel better too because I don't want my SO to have to watch her friend cry, that sucks.

11. Don't cheat. Sounds simple but based on what I see on GAG this somehow eludes a shocking number of both male and female manwhores/sluts.

12. Men don't get compliments very often and this often leads to a shit ego. A few compliments a day will go a long way. Woman really underestimate how much it means to a man when his SO tells him "You did good." It doesn't matter that they're just words it's nice to hear them when they're genuinely meant and boost our whole day possibly even our week or month.

13. When you hit that part of the relationship where love is formed. The bare minimum for times you should say "I love you" per day is 1. If you're not telling your SO at least once a day that you love them once you hit that stage of the relationship you're fucking up. The words are small, but they mean a lot to a guy to hear. Like they mean a lot a lot to a guy. A lot, a lot, a lot.

For the record this all applies to both sexes. If you're a girl and your boyfriend is disrespecting these lines, it's a concern some more than others. Cheating for example should instantly be game over in a relationship. to you. In fact, as a rule of thumb almost all of this applies both ways. If you're a guy this is how you should treat your girl if you're a girl this is how you should treat your guy and if you're gay/lesbian this should be how you treat your SO.

The big difference is it's just on men's end this stuff is constantly neglected most of the time. Men feel like they're expected to just give, give, give, and feel like they get nothing back and feel unloved because of a lack of these kinds of things. He's not going to be happy living like that nobody is. A relationship is a partnership. The love you give should always be returned with equal love or you will drift apart.

AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

I am afraid we are dealing with an angry generation. The promise of America has not held true for them. My generation had the highest divorce rate in hundreds of years. The children had to watch the fighting and abuse that ensued. No one spent time with them. Parental love was reduced to cash. And they sat in front of computers playing games that introduced them to blowing people away and the unrealistic concept of "game over" replay. Life is fragile killing someone is permanent. Add to that the fact that industry had to send all the jobs overseas to countries with cheap labor to continue to pay dividends high enough to maintain investor populations. So the children of the Ones who built the country , "made America Great", expected to do as good as their fathers. That is not happening. Industry had to survive and it meant cutting the throats of the ones that made this country great. Not much reason to smile. I think they would smile if they had opportunities, not working three jobs to afford a home for a small family.

Historical note In 1986 through 1992 I worked for an Anatomy professor whose father was a Pathologist in the German Army. He told his son that It was not superior intellect that won the war for the Americans, It was not Superior military officers and tactics that won the war for the Americans. It was a superior industrial concept. German made thing vastly more finely machined that required more maintenance. Americans built thing a little loose so they did not jam under harsh conditions. Germans built machines that could easily be repaired on the field. American just pushed the old one out of the way and drove a new one off the ship. . His father said "we just could not keep up. So. sending the jobs to Mexico and China may have sealed our fate. I am worried.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Some psychologists have the opinion making man happy is working against your own interests. However I don't agree. Unconditional and spontaneous affection shouldn't be one way road.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Get them another girls

goaded · Answer

Why do you think you have to? You should find someone who likes the same things you do, talk to them about what they want from the future (even if it's that you both want a short term relationship or one night stand, that's OK, too, but use protection). If you communicate, he'll tell you what he wants and you'll tell him what you want. You'll make each other happy.

Shiprex · Answer

Get to know them and maybe even join in with their hobbies EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T enjoy them. Support them in them. Do something to initiate and make time for them to be able to treat you.

Example.
Suggest, "It would be nice to do...:" sometime soon.

Anonymous · Answer

respect and appreciation are the main pillars

the vast majority of jobs that are dangerous yet keep society running whether it be food, water, electricity, infrastructure, engineering, emergency services, police, military etc. are mostly done by men whom society has taken for granted

kellytheman · Answer

Just be nice and loving. Show that you appreciate him like make him a sandwich and he will be happy and return the favor like go somewhere you want to go. Do anything small to show your appreciation. Us guys have simple minds and you don’t have to do much to make us happy.

ottawahuman · Answer

Being submissive and not asking why when we say we want you to do something. Trust is extremely sexy. We have privider and leader instincts that bothering unfulfilled.

DrPepper12 · Answer

When we say quote I don't care whatever you'd like to eat " JUST FUCKING BELIEVE US. I swear to God more relationships have ended over what do you want to eat than any other question!!

worldscolide · Answer

Its really simple Respect us Feed us And Fuck us..

V1ka5h · Answer

Whenever I come home just kneel down and suck my dick, take it to your throat 😌

Rohaan2020 · Answer

a lot of things make men happy… u can cook for him… gift him a Play Station… spend time with him and give him emotional support

FenixG45 · Answer

Be your true authentic self. The rest should come naturally

ShivaniPandey · Answer

By giving him blowjob

Jennz6 · Answer

The stomach is the key 🔑 to his heart ❤️

glennos89 · Answer

Food, bj, just being nice to him

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

Feed them and give them sex.

Emmann88 · Answer

Give them attention

Cheerfull009 · Answer

By fulfilling his desires

Cristi019 · Answer

Every now and then.

EmmiL · Answer

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